Check out Twitter buddy Wade Mullen’s excellent video presentation on spiritual abuse. Well worth a look and possibly enlightening for members of Planet Malm and the diocese who approach with an open mind. And yes, I find many of the forms of manipulation described here to be an accurate description of Bob Malm’s conduct.
Also, check out the excellent part on supplication (institutional protection of abusers) at 32:28. Bob Malm and the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, writ large.
Lastly, take a look at Wade’s description of how his former church moved to healing by admitting specifically the ways in which it had engaged in spiritual abuse. You won’t see anything like that from Grace Church or the Diocese of Virginia; both are organizational narcissists and believe their conduct to be beyond reproach.