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Check it Out: Online Hatred From “Lisa G”

Check it out: More childish, hateful, homophobic online behavior on Fairfax Underground from user “Lisa G.,” a Grace church groupie. Know any Lisa G’s at the church? The only one I know is Lisa G. Medley, who already has been called “childish and hateful” over at The Wartburg Watch, when she and Leslie Malm posted in response to… Read More »

Breaking: Sven vanBaar, Former Candidate for Bishop Diocesan of Southern VA, Displays Questionable Ethics, Judgment

Some time ago, the Episcopal Diocese of Southern Virginia elected the Rev. Susan B. Haynes as bishop diocesan. Because her consecration still must be approved by a majority of bishops in the House of Bishops, I wanted to make sure that diocesan officials understand the profound concerns I have about Sven’s qualifications. With that in mind, here is… Read More »

Tonight’s Gala Reception for Bob Malm Underscores Why Many at Grace Church Deserve Bob Malm

Tonight’s gala reception for Bob Malm underscores why many at Grace Episcopal deserve exactly what they get. Meaning that they deserve Bob Malm, and all the baggage that comes with him, including his perjury, his multiple abuses of power, his bullying, his manipulation, and his feckless attitude towards being rector, despite being paid more than many senior denominational… Read More »

Upcoming Protests and Leafletting

Despite Dysfunctional Bob’s departure from Grace Church this Sunday, I will continue to protest and leaflet. Plans are to leaflet a stretch of King Street, as well as to protest at several of my favorite locations. See you there!

Surviving.Church Relaunches

Surviving Church, my general blogging platform on church abuse, is back! Operating under the twin domains of surviving.church and anglicanwatch.com, the site offers a non-evangelical approach to abuse, while welcoming diverse perspectives. Content is both original and syndicated from a variety of sister blog, including Episcopal Cafe, the Wartburg Watch, Wade Mullen and more. Early traffic is good, and… Read More »

Signs of the Times: Malm’s Farewell Reception is Pay-to-Play

Observant members of Grace Church may have noticed something about the upcoming gala farewell reception for perjuring priest Bob Malm: It’s pay-to-pay. That stands in marked contrast to Chris Byrne’s farewell, in which both the church and the school ponied up several thousand dollars for a catered reception, with the church funds drawn from management reserves. The change… Read More »

Looking for Jesus? You Won’t Find Him in the Discourse at Grace Church

As Grace Church prepares for Dysfunctional Bob’s departure and the arrival of an interim rector, one thing is painfully clear: Any interim brave enough (or perhaps foolish enough) to take the position has her work cut out for her. Specifically, after 30 years of Dysfunctional Bob and his sordid example, the way people in the church talk about… Read More »

If Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow Really Believes That Grace Episcopal is the Victim of “Domestic Terrorism”….

If Jeff Chiow, attorney for Grace Episcopal, really believes that Grace Church is the victim of “domestic terrorism,” why does he bring his wife and kids every Sunday? What kind of husband and father does that? Or could it be that we see Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s and Dysfunctional Bob Malm’s veracity at issue? In either case, we see… Read More »

Fourteen Symptoms of Toxic Church Leaders

Ever back up and take a dispassionate look at Bob Malm’s “ministry?”    Check out the linked article for an insightful look at the atttributes of toxic church leaders. Yes, like Bob Malm. https://thomrainer.com/2014/10/fourteen-symptoms-toxic-church-leaders/  

My Advice to Potential Interims: Run!

Analysis of the recent surge in traffic to this website reveals that a great many visitors to the site are clergy and others interested both in issues at Grace church and the possibility of serving as the interim rector. With that in mind, here is my advice to anyone considering serving as interim: Run. Like. Hell. Let’s start… Read More »

Grace Episcopal Alexandria Lurches Towards Financial Crisis

As I’ve said many times, Grace Episcopal’s existing cost structure is unsustainable. Thanks to the debt incurred for the recently completed HVAC project, as well as the parish’s continuing willingness to live above its means and its refusal to save, things are looking grim for the 2020 budget. This is the result that, in 2014, I warned Bob… Read More »

The Perils of Bob Malm’s Conveniently Faulty Memory

In an earlier post, I commented on how Bob Malm’s farewell mea culpa was facially self-serving, in that it tosses out the red herring of “things left undone,” while ignoring the other aspects of Bob’s misconduct as rector of Grace Episcopal Church. Yet even then Bob’s message, incorporated into his final Grace Notes, reflects Dysfunctional Bob’s lack of… Read More »

Official Church Reports Prove Grace Church In Crisis

Some time ago, Bob Malm and the Grace vestry decided to quietly hide evidence of the damage caused by Dysfunctional Bob’s and Sugarland Chiow’s antics. This included both the real reasons for Fanny Belanger’s departure, as well as the continuing decline in attendance and giving caused by their misconduct. Hiding this information, however, was foolish, as it’s readily… Read More »