Friday, January 25, 2030

Bob Malm: Club Protest Membership Countdown


By virtue of trying to shutdown criticism by going to court with his facially false claims that he had been threatened, pseudo-priest Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal signed up for the two-year membership at Club Protest. No refunds, late payments result in an extension of membership. And his decision to include Mike in his vendetta, his multiple lies in court, and his efforts to subpoena a dying woman, all mean Bob gets the special VIP add-on package — my online presence will continue ad infinitum. That’s right, Dysfunctional Bob gets the lifetime virtual membership. Hey, Bob always did think he was special. Well, he’s right.

So, this countdown timer doesn’t mark the countdown to an end to open hostilities. But it does mark the payout of Dysfunctional Bob’s basic Club Protest membership.That said, I have always believed in under-promise, over-deliver, so I will no doubt extend Bob’s basic membership well beyond his original contract. And Grace Episcopal gets in on the action, for free.

By the way, if you see that the counter has passed zero and is counting up, that means that perjuring priest Bob Malm and the parish are enjoying their special free bonus time.

Hey, if he behaves, maybe we can even spot Bob some core body fitness tips. Heaven knows he’s been looking rather well-fed in recent years. And it fits — Grace Church aka St. Dysfunction is looking a whole lot leaner and meaner these days.

See you at Dysfunction Junction aka Malm Square(d)!

Thursday, January 24, 2030

BUSTED: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Caught Lying to Bishop!



Check it out: In perjuring priest Bob Malm’s court filings, he PROVES conclusively that he lied to bishop Shannon Johnston. Yup, this comes directly from his own court filings, and is an email he sent to the bishop.

Specifically, he claims that I left RPJ Housing prior to coming to Grace. As he well knows, that is a boldfaced lie, and he discussed the matter with Elizabeth Legere in January 2014, and with Kelly Gable and me. And Patrick Crerar and I discussed the matter many times, with my even hiring a member of La Gracia following discussions with him. And then there is Amy Barron, who worked at RPJ Housing’s offices at the Church of the Covenant.

So, if there was any doubt that Bob Malm is a lying POS, this should put those doubts firmly to rest. And if anyone doubts my claims, I will be more than happy to subpoena multiple witnesses who can conclusively show that I was, in fact, executive director of RPJ Housing while a member of Grace Church. So, if Bob doesn’t agree that he lied to Bishop Shannon Johnston, he is more than welcome to file suit for defamation. In fact, I encourage him to do so.



Wednesday, July 1, 2020

Still More Documentation of Susan Goff’s Complicity in Bob Malm’s Perjury





See for Yourself: Bishop Susan Goff Fully Aware of Bob Malm’s Perjury

Someone recently asked me how I know that Bishop Susan Goff is turning a blind eye to perjuring priest Bob Malm’s lies. The answer is simple: I have contacted her and other church officials directly.

Below is a screen cap in which I discuss Bob Malm’s perjury with Todd Ousley of the presiding bishop’s office, while copying Susan “Just Don’t Get Convicted” Goff.

In his response, Todd states that there is no recourse if your bishop diocesan — yes, that would be Susan — refuses to address clergy perjury.

The takeaway? Knowledge and tacit approval of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s misconduct extends all the way to the presiding bishop’s office.

Bob Malm, perjuring priest.


BREAKING NEWS: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Lies AGAIN!

One of the early phases of litigation is the issuance of requests for admission, also referred to as RFA’s, which I sent to perjuring priest Bob Malm as part of my filing suit against him. True to form, Bob Malm lied in his response.

In my seventh RFA, I asked perjuring priest Bob Malm to admit that he instructed church staff to exclude me and Mike from the parish per below.


Now, look at perjuring priest Bob Malm’s response, in which he lies:



That is a bold-faced lie, and here’s why. As perjuring priest Bob Malm well knows, there are two ways under church canons to leave an Episcopal parish. One is to die; the other to request a letter of transfer. I did the latter in 2017 — almost two years later — and I did so in writing. Mike remained an inactive member of Grace Church until we sent a request in writing through Bishop Todd Ousley, the intake officer for the House of Bishops, to remove our names from all church records in 2018. The result was that I left St. Paul’s K Street, and that parish forwarded a request to Grace Church to remove Mike’s name from all church records.

In the interests of collegiality, fair play, and the equitable administration of justice, I have given attorneys for Bob Malm, the church and the diocese a heads-up on this matter, versus playing gotcha. Since attorneys cannot willfully turn a blind eye to fabrications on the part of their clients, hopefully Wayne Cyron and Diane DiBlasio — both of whom I like — will take steps to ensure that their clients proffer only truthful information.

Of course, it speaks volumes about the current state of the Episcopal Church when one has to ask its attorneys to ensure that the church is truthful in its courtroom conduct.

Bob Malm, perjuring priest, lies again.

Sunday, June 28, 2020

LEGAL UPDATE: Plaintiff’s Opposition to Kelly Gable’s Plea of Statute of Limitations



In response to the Kelly Gable’s Plea of Statute of Limitations, I have prepared the document that follows, which outlines perjuring priest Bob Malm’s efforts to conceal the fact that he lied to Bishop Shannon Johnston when he republished Kelly Gable’s defamatory per se email in which she alleged that I embezzled funds from RPJ Housing. In his email, perjuring priest Bob Malm falsely claimed that my departure from RPJ Housing occured before I came to Grace Church.

At issue is the fact that Virginia law ordinarily imposes a two-year statute of limitations in defamation cases. The courts may toll the statute, however, when as here the tort in question has been intentionally concealed.

Motions court is preliminarily scheduled for July 10, but I will be out of town for the Pennyslvania hearing against perjuring priest Bob Malm. My suggestion to opposing counsel therefore is to schedule motions court hearing for July 24, when I have scheduled the hearing on my Motion to Amend my lawsuit against perjuring priest Bob Malm.

The following is in PDF.

Plaintiff’s Repsonse to Defendant’s Plea of Statute of Limitations

Petition Seeking Review of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm’s Conduct Passes 16,000 Signatures

Even as six separate lawsuits against perjuring priest Bob Malm, his family, Kelly Motormouth Gable, and the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia move forward, the online petition demanding justice for those hurt by perjuring priest Bob Malm continues to garner signatures. 

Earlier today, the petition broke 16,000 signatures, and it shows no signs of slowing down.

Meanwhile, Episcopal bishop Susan Goff and the other fat cats in that fusty old heap of antebellum history, Mayo House, continue to bury their hands in the sand by refusing to deal with Bob Malm’s perjury and lies.

Somehow, it’s fitting. Mayo House, a spectacularly costly and poorly maintained relic of the past, has numerous ties to the slave trade. Yet even as Susan Goff bloviates about “the way of love,” she sees no irony in hanging out in this monument to injustice.

How appropriate.




Next Up: Pennsylvania Lawsuit


This week will be a busy one with various minor tasks relating to litigation, including the change of venue in the lawsuit against Kelly Motormouth Gable, and sundry other motions court issues. I’ll also be preparing for the hearing in the Pennsylvania case, in which perjuring priest Bob Malm is being sued for the legal fees associated with his ultra vires subpoena of my mother, who was then terminally ill.

At the heart of the matter is Pennsylvania law, which forbids subpoenas in protective order cases absent prior leave of court. True to form, perjuring priest Bob Malm didn’t bother to seek leave of court, and so wasted a lot of time and money for all involved when he tried to drag Mom into court.

The great irony in all of this is, had he managed to pull off his little stunt, Bob would have either had to try to get a court to impose sanctions on a dying woman or face the prospect of Mom, propped up in a wheelchair and medicated with morphine, being wheeled into the courthouse. All of which is to say that he probably should be glad he didn’t get his wish — he would have looked like a bigger jackass than is already the case.

But hey — Bob Malm and denizens of Planet Malm love Jesus.

Yeah, right.

Saturday, June 27, 2020

See For Yourself: Lawsuits Against Lindsey Anders and Leslie Malm

Among yesterday’s developments was the transfer of the defamation lawsuits against Lindsey Malm Anders and Leslie Malm to the Alexandria Circuit Court.

Check out the link below to see the pleadings in PDF.

Leslie Malm and Lindsey Malm Anders Defamation Actions

Litigation Update: General District Motions Court and Other Legal News



Motions court was today for the case involving the diocese, Bishop Goff, and the parish was today. The results were a mixed bag.

On the plus side, we had an extensive discussion about Bob Malm’s perjury, the diocese’s willingness to turn a blind eye to Bob Malm’s perjury and lies, and the fact that Bishop Goff and other church officials now want to argue the “sleeping beauty” defense. The church is all about welcome, inclusion, and the Way of Love—so what’s a little perjury among friends?

On the down side, Judge Haddock clearly did not understand the tort of abuse of process. In Bob Malm’s case, the key element is not Bob’s perjury. Rather, it is his attempt to use the protective order process as a strategic lawsuit against public participation, or SLAPP. That said, because it is not unusual for plaintiffs to have improper or mixed motives when bringing a lawsuit, the tort requires more — it requires a showing of an act not proper in the ordinary course of the proceedings.

In Bob’s case, the improper acts include, most notably, his perjury. In addition, they include his improper withholding of evidence harmful to his case during discovery, his misuse of process in Pennsylvania, and more.

The outcome was that the court sustained the church and diocese’s demurrer, but granted leave to amend my pleadings. That said, I don’t know that it’s worth the time and effort to further pursue things at the general district court.

In terms of next steps, my plan is to appeal to the circuit court, although I may file a motion for reconsideration in the meantime.

On other fronts, I transferred the defamation cases against Lindsey Anders and Leslie Malm to circuit court. Also, I met Bob’s attorney, Wayne Cyron, who seems like a genuinely good guy. I told him I have no objection to a change of venue in the suit against Kelly Gable, but will oppose a change of venue for the cases against Lindsey and Leslie. And I am working to finish up my pleadings for leave to amend to include Bob Malm’s defamation.

For the record, I am far from done. And in just a few weeks we’ll have the hearing in the Pennsylvania case.

Stay tuned! And when you hear Bishop Goff bloviating about the “way of love,” just remember: Perjury is okay.

Just don’t get convicted.


Thursday, June 25, 2020

BREAKING: Kelly Gable Defends Her Defamation, Admits Parish Was Party to Perjuring Priest Bob Malm’s Previous Legal Action


You have to hand it to Kelly Motormouth Gable and the other fake Christians of Grace Episcopal Church — when they lie, they don’t see any problem with continuing to insist that their lies are truth. So much for the whole thing about not bearing false witness.

In the attached files, Kelly Motormouth Gable, now represented by Wayne Cyron, the same attorney who represents perjuring priest Bob Malm and his wife/daughter, tells the court that her claims of embezzlement are true. Simply put, they are not.

Even better, Kelly states that her email was sent on behalf of the church, in her role as a member of the vestry. So there’s no denying that this sort of bullcrud goes right to the top at Grace Church —even within the vestry, it’s okay to lie about other members of the church. And members of the parish vote Kelly and other parishioners onto the vestry, so it is fair to say that this nonsense enjoys support at every level of the parish.

Like others at Grace Church, Kelly likes to talk about people, not to other people. Nor is Kelly’s conduct in other areas exactly exemplary. Whether it is her speculation about other people’s personal lives, her checkered career and workplace performance, or her questionable relationship with alcohol, Kelly can, to put it gently, be described as “colorful.”

The good news, though, is that the current litigation lays all this bare for the entire world to see. While Kelly would be well-advised to worry about the details of her own life, her time, money, and efforts seemingly are pointed in myriad other directions.

It’s also important to note: Kelly’s claim, and perjuring priest Bob Malm’s republication, together with his lie that my departure from RPJ Housing occurred before I came to Grace Church, were germane to the previous litigation in which Bob Malm sought a protective order. And they were clearly covered by my subpoena for records, yet perjuring priest Bob Malm and Jeff Sugarland Chiow failed to provide the relevant email. In other words, but for Bob’s concealment of this email, which he was required to provide during discovery, there would be no issue involving the statute of limitations. Such conduct is highly inappropriate and unethical, especially since Sugarland had an obligation as an attorney to ensure that all relevant documents were retained and provided.

Best of all, Kelly’s filing contradicts an assertion made by defense counsel for the parish, which is that the motion for a protective order was solely Bob’s doing. Kelly’s pleadings expressely state that the church was part of that effort. Thus, the parish is fully responsible for Bob Malm’s perjury, in which he falsely claimed that:

1) My mom, or someone claiming to be her, repeatedly set up appointments with him, only to cancel.
2) His wife Leslie was the only person he knew who had blogged about the matter.

Check out Kelly’s court filings below, which are in PDF:

Kelly’s response to my request for admission

Kelly’s motion to transfer venue

Kelly’s plea to the statute of limitations


Monday, June 22, 2020

Petition Comments Reflect the Reputational Damage Bob Malm’s Conduct Has Caused to The Episcopal Church

Check out the recent fan mail from my petition. Despite this, Susan Goff refuses to address Bob Malm’s perjury.

Simply put, I believe it is inappropriate for Bob Malm to continue to serve as a priest. He has betrayed the trust that I and others once had in him. His conduct brings The Episcopal Church, the diocese, and Grace Episcopal Church into disrepute.


Sunday, June 21, 2020

As Episcopal Church Continues to Defend Perjuring Priest Bob Malm, Petition Garners More than 15,000 Signatures

Earlier today, my petition demanding that the Episcopal Church tell the truth — which is that Episcopal priest Bob Malm is a perjurer, a liar, and a bully — blasted past 15,000 signatures. Meanwhile, I continue to protest and leaflet, including handing out information at BLM events.

Check it out!


A Shout-Out to Prospective Candidates for Rector: Read this Before You Apply!



If you’re reading this, there’s a possibility you’re a prospective candidate for the position of rector at Grace Episcopal Church. And why not? It’s a friendly place, with passionate members, good ASA, a large budget (at least by Episcopal standards!), a gorgeous building, and proximity to the amenities of the greater Washington DC area. Not to mention Del Ray is a very cool place to live and to raise children.

But before you take the plunge, do your research. Not just the sort of research you’d do for any transition, but really dig deep. Northern Virginia is a pricy area, with lots of traffic congestion, and making the change is a big step. And it’s important to understand why, if you accept an offer, you’re inheriting a church that as of this writing has not one but six separate lawsuits against it and current/former members.

Even more important, though, is to recognize that not all that glitters is gold. On its surface, Grace Church is a wonderful place, but peel back the skin and you’ll discover an onion. And just as an onion, properly prepared, can be sweet and savory, conversely a raw onion be harsh, sharp, and bring you to tears.

And so it is with Grace, where there is a long and dismal record when it comes to conflict and community, including:
  1. Ignoring conflict, and hoping it will go away.
  2. Suppressing conflict, resulting in periodic eruptions of toxic behavior.
  3. Unwillingness on the part of the rector and others to listen and respond to valid concerns.
  4. A lack of Christian ethics in addressing conflict.
  5. Toxic family systems, in which “friendly” replaces “faithful.”
This situation is compounded by several factors:
  1. Unhealthy clericalism, in which members were deliberately encouraged to focus their time and attention on the rector (yes, that would be perjuring priest Bob Malm).
  2. An inappropriate role model on Bob Malm’s part, replete with lying, manipulation, and what Peter Barnes rightly termed “Bob Malm’s games.”
  3. An impotent diocese that, to this day, is utterly unwilling and incapable of responding to these concerns, does not understand the importance of dealing with these issues, nor the importance of its being involved.
  4. A transition process that has done next to nothing to address these issues.
  5. A tradition of rectors staying entirely too long, with the result that some, like Bob Malm, seemingly came to believe that the parish belonged to them, and they could make decisions by executive fiat.
  6. An unhealthy relationship between the rector and the vestry, including Bob Malm inappropriately tampering with the vestry’s selection of its executive committee. (As I have said many times, an up-or-down vote of an executive committee selected by Bob Malm in advance of the annual meeting is highly inappropriate. In American politics, it’s called election tampering and it is illegal.)
Before we go further, let’s take a look at biblical discussions of conflict. One of the most famous is set forth in the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5:23-24), in which Jesus says:

So if you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your [sibling] has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your [sibling], and then come and offer your gift.

In other words, be open about conflict and work quickly towards resolution. 

That contrasts sharply with Bob Malm, who repeatedly lied about issues and refused to discuss them during his tenure as rector. In fact, on more than one occasion, he responded to emailed concerns of mine by replying, “This is the last email you will receive responding to criticisms of me or Grace Church.” 

So much for the Sermon on the Mount.

Other times, Bob was more indirect, trying to charm bomb his way out of things, or to shout others down in what appeared to be the classic narcissistic rage. For an example, just ask folks about Bob’s screaming fit at Lee Meeks over his concerns about governance issues for the Shrine Mont event. Neither helpful nor Christian, and a really bad example for which Bob never apologized or took responsibility. Nor was that Bob’s only screaming fit—he had a number of his little temper tantrums over the years, including during the 1994 building campaign. 

Of course, after 30 years of Bob Malm, folks learned to emulate him. That’s a given, for over time, church family systems often adopt many of the characteristics of this rector, both for good and ill. You can see evidence of this in Kelly Gable’s defamatory email, which perjuring priest Bob Malm forwarded to Bishop Shannon, and which has since been republished. And the fact that the diocese thought this was something acceptable to send to Bob Malm’s attorney speaks volumes about both the ethics of the diocese, and its profound lack of common sense. If nothing else, anyone with half the common sense God gave a goat would have asked the question, “Are we sure this is true?”

If you’re a candidate for rector, you will also learn a lot by asking questions specific to my conflict with Bob Malm.
  1. “I see a lot of stuff from this Eric Bonetti character. Leaving aside assertions from within the church that he is mentally ill and a ‘domestic terrorist,’ what steps did the church take to resolve this matter directly with him?”
  2. “What was the vestry’s role in this conflict?”
  3. “Who made the decision to subpoena his mother? How is this consistent with your Christian witness?”
  4. “Why did you refer to him as a ‘domestic terrorist’ in your pleadings? Were you concerned about how this would reflect on the church? Do you feel this was helpful?”
  5. “If you really believe he’s mentally ill, what steps did you take to help him?”
And be sure to ask why the diocese didn’t honor my initial request to mediate the dispute. 

Yes, this is a lot to ask a search committee, and these questions aren’t in keeping with The Episcopal Church’s long tradition of ignoring conflict. But getting full, honest answers to these questions from multiple sources will give you a good idea of the dynamics at play, both in my conflict and within the parish as a whole. (Just look carefully at the answers you get. Just like perjuring priest Bob Malm, folks at Grace and at Mayo House are good at dissembly, obfuscation,  blame-shifting, and blurring.)

Another worthwhile point of discussion would be to ask about the specifics of how perjuring priest Bob Malm got the parish to agree to help him buy a private residence. The move resulted is a loss to the parish of well over $1 million (see my post specifically about that topic). Nor were vestry members eager to go down this road; instead Bob bullied, cajoled, and weaseled his way to success, to the lasting detriment of the parish. In that context, it’s important to know that Bob allegedly remained in the room during the vestry vote on the subject; more than one vestry member said s/he voted for the deal because they were afraid Bob would force them out of the parish if they didn’t. 

Yes, imagine that — perjuring priest Bob Malm forcing someone out of the body of Christ. And for the record, it’s not like Bob Malm busted his butt in return for his generous compensation package. In fact, he could scarcely be convinced to supervise parish staff, although he sure found plenty of time for the beach, running marathons, playing golf, and his trips “out of town.”

It’s also worth noting that members of the church have no concept of boundaries when it comes to their own behavior. Whether it’s Kelly Motormouth Gable’s defamation per se, Bob Malm’s perjury, or a certain recent college graduate urging me to commit suicide, this is a profoundly troubled parish—so much so that it actually thinks these behaviors are okay.

I’d also point out that longstanding problems of this sort are notoriously difficult to repair, both due to their longevity and because doing so requires parishioners to rethink their worldview. As the Rev. Robin Hammeal-Urban notes, “If it can’t be conceived it can’t be perceived.” In short, very few at Grace Church are prepared to accept the fact that Bob Malm is a perjuring, manipulative scumbag, let alone prepared to deal with these issues. And you’ll wind up beating your head against the wall to convince people to approach these issues with an open mind, especially since the diocese and vestry are not prepared to tackle them head on via an outside, independent professional. 

On a related note, I encourage you to ask both of the diocese and the search committee about what steps have been taken to fix things. The answer, you’ll discover, is damned little, because the diocese likes to take the approach of, “Just hang in there until we can get someone in there.” Nor are the fat cats at Mayo House above telling a parish facing a clergy transition coming on the heels of alleged clergy misconduct (with no hint of irony), “Well, you’re damaged merchandise.”  In fact, you might even follow-up with the question, “What have you learned from all the recent conflict at the church?” The answer will be either, “Nothing,” or deflection and a bunch of the usual Jesus-babble, “Well, we pray for Mr. Bonetti regularly.” Uh-huh, right. 

Know too that this laissez-faire approach to governance at the diocese comes from the very top, and seemingly encouraged by diocesan chancellor J.P. Causey. While even the CANA dissidents agree that J.P. is a good guy, he focuses on protecting the organization first, and doesn’t give a red rat’s rear end about church canons, or the lasting damage that occurs to the church and its members, when the diocese plays the sleeping beauty game and refuses to acknowlege or deal with conflict. And this has led to the meltdown with the trustees of the funds and other rampant conflict in the diocese. (If you’re new to the diocese, ask about that little brouhaha. It’s ugly.)

As the old saying goes, “conflict ignored is conflict multiplied,” and Bob Malm spent 30 years ignoring conflict. As a result, unhealthy conflict grew exponentially over that time, and now simmers right behind the church’s friendly facade, ready to boil over due to some silly perceived transgression, like ordering the wrong flowers for the altar guild. In short, toxic behavior has become normative.

In short, if you go to Grace Church, be prepared for a very, very rough go of it. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. And remember: If you are going to succeed, the diocese and the vestry need to get the ball rolling to clean up the mess at Grace Church, and you need buy-in at every level of the church.

Saturday, June 20, 2020

See for Yourself: Kelly Gable’s Conduct While at RPJ Housing

As the defamation per se lawsuits move forward involving perjuring priest Bob Malm and Kelly Motormouth Gable, there’s a bit of history that needs to be shared. That includes my correspondence with Kelly shortly after leaving RPJ Housing — which, as one can see from the date of the letter and the reference to Grace Church — happened while I was a member of Grace Church. Thus, it proves that Bob Malm lied to bishop Shannon Johnston, and gives some insight into Kelly’s questionable conduct.

The letter centers on a surprise I got shortly after leaving RPJ Housing, which was that my personal Facebook account had been taken over. A little bit of investigating revealed that this was done by Kelly Gable, and done from RPJ Housing’s offices at 2666 Military Road in Arlington. At the time, she was the only employee working from the office.

How do I know that? Simple — the IP addresses connected with her efforts to remove my email address, change my password and more reflect RPJ Housing’s static IP address for its network. (An IP address is the unique identifier assigned to every network on the web.) Furthermore, one can explicitly see that Kelly added her RPJ Housing work email address to the account. It was only after I contacted Dino Panagopoulos, the organization’s attorney, that the matter was resolved. And the logs attached to the email make clear the extent of Kelly’s activities.

So, while I thought that the conflict with Kelly had been resolved in the weeks following this letter, Kelly’s defamatory per se comments in 2017 put things in a whole new light. 

Meanwhile, one has to ask why Kelly thought it would be okay to go into someone else’s Facebook account, change their password, take out their email address, and add her own. Or even why on this green earth she would want to; surely she had better ways to spend her time, particularly since the organization’s lender, VHDA, elected to default the entire RPJ loan portfolio as a result of my departure, and that of Melissa Simmons, my director of property management. (All VHDA loans contain a retention of rights provision and a cross-default provision. Thus, allegations that a prior RPJ employee had submitted forged zoning documents in conjunction with the acquisition of a property allowed VHDA to immediately default the entire portfolio, including the tax credit properties in Front Royal, upon my departure from the organization.)

As the letter makes very clear, my account contained no RPJ intellectual property, so there was absolutely no reason to try to take it over. And Kelly’s conduct in this matter provides a useful context to evaluate her other weird claims.

More evidence that Grace church is a toxic cesspool.














Thursday, June 18, 2020

Petition Seeking Independent Investigation of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Passes 14,000 Signatures

The petition seeking a full, fair, and independent diocesan church review of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s misconduct, including his perjury and his defamatory per se statement that I embezzled funds from a previous employer, has now garnered more than 14,000 signatures. The petition also asks the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia to take meaningful action based on the results of the investigation.

So far, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia has steadfastly refused, despite undeniable evidence that Bob Malm committed perjury. Indeed, the church has said in writing that such conduct is “not of weighty and material importance to the ministry of the church.”

Good to know if you are considering becoming involved in the toxic crock of goo that is the Episcopal Church, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, and Grace Episcopal Alexandria. Or, for that matter, St. Gabriel’s in Marion Massachusetts and the equally feckless Episcopal Diocese of Massachusetts.




Tuesday, June 16, 2020

Why Grace Church is Doomed to Fail



I’ve written about this before, but with litigation now ramping up against perjuring priest Bob Malm, his family, Grace Church, and the diocese, I am reflecting anew on why the parish and diocese are unlikely to spring back from the hot mess that Bob leaves behind.

As I see it, the problem is that the diocese and parish simply don’t get it. As in they don’t understand how to fix the underlying problems.

In recent years, even the Catholic church, long famous for trying to play hardball against anyone who called it to account, has learned that this approach simply makes things worse. Yes, the Catholic Church managed to buy years — some would say decades — of time with its coverups and no-hold barred litigation. But the day of reckoning has arrived, and it’s looking ugly. Yes, some dioceses have tried to restructure so as to place assets beyond the reach of creditors, and more than one diocese appears to be trying to play games with its cemeteries and other, less visible assets. But no matter how you parse it, Rome is shedding members in all directions, and even the Vatican itself appears poised to run a deficit. And I would be prepared to bet that very few of those leaving the Catholic Church will ever come back.

By contrast, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia remains locked in a 1970’s approach to issues. When in doubt, deny everything. Then litigate, litigate, litigate, and hope you can sweep what’s left under the rug.

The problem is that conflict and misconduct don’t get resolved this way. Indeed, Bob Malm was a master at denying, avoiding, equivocating and doing everything in his power to to avoid addressing conflict or problems, even going so far as to lie in order to avoid dealing with things. But instead of taking the approach that perjuring priest Bob Malm is gone, and it’s a new day at Grace where people tell the truth and deal openly and honestly with conflict, the diocese is playing the very same games. That includes claiming that perjury is okay as long as no criminal charges result.

Sadly enough, there are still parishioners who like and admire Bob. And that’s likely to continue until the diocese has the integrity to openly disclose perjuring priest Bob Malm’s misconduct. Or, as the Rev. Robin Hammeal-Urban notes in her book on misconduct, it is only through disclosure that the church heals. Absent this, churches will, almost without exception, hold onto patterns of dysfunction that will extend for decades.

Unfortunately, this level of integrity simply doesn’t exist, either at Mayo House or the parish vestry. From the bishops, to JP Causey, right on down, it’s all about protecting the organization and its turf, versus doing what’s right. “You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free,” simply doesn’t apply. Instead, the diocese and parish cling to, “It’s our lie, and our church, and we’ll do whatever we damn well want, thank you. And your response will be, ‘Thank you Sir, may I have another?’” Even at the vestry, there’s the whole, “well, people liked Bob—do we really want to go there?,” routine.

That also poses a problem for the next rector. Remember the old joke about not wanting to join any club that would have me as a member? Well, the same holds true for Grace. Specifically, any rector worth having is going to want to know that steps have been taken to come to terms with the past, to heal, to learn, and to grow. With that not happening, good candidates are going to take a pass. As one priest said to me about Grace, “God help whoever’s next. You couldn’t pay me enough.”

Nor is Michael Guy going to cut it. While he seems to be more sincere than was perjuring priest Bob Malm, his positive comments and his hints about forgiveness fall far short of what it is going to take to get the parish back on track.

Even worse, those candidates who might be willing to work with these problems face a further challenge, which is that the parish likely will still be in litigation one year after perjuring priest Bob Malm’s departure. Indeed, with litigation only now ramping up, we are probably at least a year away from any sort of outcome, which puts things close to the two-year mark. And for the record, I am not backing down any time soon. But then, five years into this conflict, folks hopefully realize that already. If nothing else, I outlasted Bob, and I can outlast Grace.

Nor do I think that Bishop Goff or the other fat cats at Mayo House have the integrity to admit that they are wrong. Yes, they might say pretty words in order to try to shut down the conflict, but actually owning up to the mess they have made of things and bringing in experts to fix it? You’ll sooner see a snowman in the fierce flames of the furnace room of hell on a hot day. In fact, one of the reasons for the current state of affairs is that, when Pat Wingo went on sabbatical, he had offered in writing that I could reach out to Bishop Goff if I needed help working through issues with Bob. That’s exactly what I did, only to have Susan take a pass. Meanwhile, Shannon Johnston, with his amazing ability to screw things up, had already sent out a letter in support of Bob, while ignoring my response to him.

Typical.

Neither does Grace have the necessary introspection. My bet is that the vestry will try to get a rector in in who’s good at conflict resolution and hope for the best. But given that she or he will not enjoy meaningful support from the diocese, nor have an accurate perspective on conflict within the parish, that dog won’t hunt. And the parish does not realize that it cannot win the current litigation. Yes, it could prevail in court, but that simply adds fuel to the fire and guarantees that the conflict will continue. (Not to mention giving that much more for me and others to write about.) Put in other words, Bob threw the parish under the bus, but folks are blinded to that reality by their loyalty to Bob and their reluctance to admit their own mistakes.

That brings up a final but important point: The diocese tends to try to convince itself that it knows how to fix conflict, so it is unlikely to bring in outside experts. That said, the diocese is spectacularly bad at dealing with conflict, and in the case of Grace Church, a full-fledged intervention is necessary. Outside resources need to come in, wade through the mess, then discuss specific steps towards normalcy, including:

- Talking to others, versus about others.
- Avoiding triangulation.
- Assuming good intent.
- Respecting all opinions and perspectives, even if they are unpopular.
- Backing away from the emotion inherent in conflict.
- Recognizing that, approached properly, conflict can be a profoundly positive experience.
- Establishing written norms.

In short, any sort of resolution starts with the diocese recognizing that Bob occupied the position of power, as is always the case with relationships between clergy and congregants. Thus, it is incumbent for the diocese to start the painful but necessary process of telling the truth, which includes the fact that clergy are always responsible for maintaining appropriate boundaries — always. And that includes not lying about your parishioners, as Bob has done in my case, trying to bully them, or engaging in Bob’s manipulative games. Or, for that matter, committing perjury.

To paraphrase Ronald Reagan, “Bishop Goff, come tear down Bob’s lies. Come tell the truth.”

We’ll wait.


More Protests Under Way, Legal Documents Filed

Today brings several developments, including more protests outside Grace Church. Additionally, I formally filed court documents asking for leave to amend my pleadings and transfer to circuit court. 

As mentioned previously, today’s court filings were necessitated by my decision to pursue punitive damages against Leslie Malm and Lindsey Malm Anders in conjunction with what I allege is their defamation. Of course, I also have included Bob Malm’s defamation per se in the case against him, and have filed suit against Kelly Gable based on the recent republication of her defamatory statements, in which she and Bob Malm allege that I embezzled money from a previous employer. Indeed, Kelly purports to have first-hand knowledge of this, so it will be interesting to see how she responds during discovery.

Below are photos taken while protesting and a screen cap of one of the two motions filed.

Speaking of, I am considering filing suit in the next few weeks against another person connected with the church. Stay tuned!






Monday, June 15, 2020

BREAKING NEWS: More Legal Developments

As many already know, some time ago I filed suit for defamation in general district court against Lindsey Malm Anders and Leslie Malm. Today, however, I notified Wayne Cyron, their attorney, that I will be removing the cases to circuit court.

The issue is that general district court is a court of limited jurisdiction, able to hear cases in which the amount in controversy is less than $25,000. Because I believe that several of Leslie and Lindsey’s written statements about me are defamatory per se, I have decided to pursue punitive damages of at least $350,000 against each. As a result, circuit court is the appropriate jurisdiction.

The other advantage of circuit court is that a wider range of discovery is permissible, including depositions, interrogatories, and requests for admission. The downside, though, is that it is a much more protracted process.

As a result of my decision, the first return dates of these cases, which were set for late June, early July, are now cancelled. I hope to have the new cases filed by the end of the week.

Once the new cases are filed, the defendants have 27 days to file a response, so it will likely be mid to late July before the cases start to move forward.

Saturday, June 13, 2020

The Hypocrisy of +Jennifer Brooke-Davidson

Recently, I noted that diocese of Virginia bishop Jennifer Brooke-Davidson is sitting on the Title IV hearing panel for Bishop Love, the ironically named bishop of Albany who opposes same-sex marriage.

Below is the email I sent to Jennifer, which I copied to Todd Ousley and Bishop Susan Goff.

For his privacy, the name of the former priest in the one example has been redacted.

Jennifer,

I read with interest of your role in the Title IV matter concerning +Love. As one of the first same-sex couples married in the diocese, and the first to have my relationship blessed at Grace Church in Alexandria, I would like to comment on this issue.

As you know, I am in the midst of litigation involving Bob Malm, my former rector. Among the issues are his efforts to use the Virginia protective order system as a strategic lawsuit against public participation, his perjury during litigation, and his defamation per se, in which he claimed that I embezzled from a. previous employer. The latter is absolutely, categorically untrue, and the fact that Bob lied to Shannon Johnston about the timeline of the alleged events is profoundly troubling. Bob claimed that the events in question happened before I came to Grace Church, despite knowing full well that they occurred while I served on the vestry. Indeed, he and I spoke about them several times, and there is no possibility of a faulty recollection on his part. Instead, I surmise that Bob lied about the timeline to avoid questions about his own judgment, as my serving on the vestry would have been problematic indeed were these accusations true.

Even more troubling is that you now sit in on a Title IV hearing panel when you and the diocese have yourselves ignored the express provisions of Title IV. Specifically, the diocese has repeatedly refused to provide the pastoral response mandated by Title IV whenever a complaint is made to the intake officer. Moreover, intake officer Caroline Parkinson falsely stated that the matter of Malm’s retaliation for our complaint by removing our names from the parish directory, which occurred in fall 2015, was previously considered by the reference panel during the summer of 2015. As I sarcastically stated at the time, I was not aware that the ability to time travel is one of the benefits of ordination. And Shannon Johnston has falsely claimed that the matter was “investigated and resolved long ago,” despite the fact that it was dismissed out of hand and NOT investigated.

Moreover, the diocese doubled down on dumb by accusing me and my family, in writing, of being duplicitous and more. Even were that the case, Title IV is only about clergy conduct, and it is not unknown for those who have faced abuse in the church to make poor decisions in response. And abuse need not be sexual in nature.

Most troubling is the fact that the diocese has even gone so far as to say, in writing, that it will only deal with Bob Malm’s perjury if he is convicted. As you well know, perjury is a difficult crime to charge, and all the more so when clergy are involved. Yet in other cases the diocese has not required a criminal conviction in order for Title IV to apply. For example, at the time adultery was still a crime in Virginia, yet the diocese did not invoke the requirement of a criminal conviction to address the issues with XXXXXXXXXXX. (Speaking of, the diocese largely turned its back on XXXXXXXXXXX, on the grounds that Shannon Johnston had been told by counsel not to get too involved. Thus, no meaningful pastoral response was provided.) I can only hope that this is not the standard that applies for child abuse.

When I first contacted the diocese, I asked it to mediate the dispute with Bob. It refused, on the grounds that Bob’s conduct, including my concerns about possible gender-based harassment and violations of the ADEA, were not “of weighty and material importance to the ministry of the church.” I can only say that only in The Episcopal Church would allegations of gender-based harassment be regarded as irrelevant.

At this point, the damage is done, and I believe it is irreparable. Mike and I have left organized Christianity, with no plans to return. Many are aware of our experiences, and I believe it is important for people to know that The Episcopal Church does not follow Title IV when it does not wish to do so. People should also know that, to this day, the diocese continues to defend Bob’s inexcusable and outrageous conduct, even though it is easy indeed to confirm that Bob committed perjury. And tens of thousands of dollars will be spent by the church and its insurance carrier to avoid telling the truth, which is that Bob Malm has behaved in a manner that discredits the church. And until full disclosure is made, Grace Church cannot begin the healing process with any hope of success.

In the meantime, I urge you to recuse yourself from the hearing panel. While I do not condone +Love’s actions, neither can I support a process in which you and the diocese ignore the express provisions of Title IV, yet purport to judge another bishop over the very same issue.

Regards,


Eric Bonetti

Thursday, June 11, 2020

Check it Out: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Lies to Bishop Shannon Johnston

Members of Grace Church may recall that, while at Grace Church, I served as executive director of RPJ Housing, a non-profit dedicated to serving those of limited means by providing safe, clean, affordable housing.

While executive director, I hired Kelly Motormouth Gable, after her mother complained to me about the financial challenges they were facing. While Kelly was, at best, an average employee, she asked if I objected to her staying on when I left the organization, to which I replied “no.”

Recently, the attached email from Kelly to Bob Malm, then to the Episcopal bishop of Virginia, came to light.

In it, Bob lies. That’s right — Bob Malm lies to the bishop. And Bob’s lie is readily proved, for elsewhere, under oath, Bob Malm contradicts himself.

Specifically, he claims that Kelly’s assertions predate my arrival at Grace. Yet Bob Malm knew firsthand of these issues, having heard directly from me. Moreover, he provided pastoral care to Kelly on this issues, and referenced them in his request for a protective order.

Here is the email, with Bob’s lie circled, as well as that of Kelly Gable:


And here is Bob Malm’s reference in his affidavit for a protective order in which he specifically references the legal skirmishing that happened when I left RPJ Housing:


So why does perjuring priest Bob Malm lie in his email to the bishop? As previously discussed, my belief is that he wanted to trash me with diocesan staff, while avoiding the incovenient question of why he would have someone allegedly so untrustworthy serving on the vestry. I therefore conclude that Bob changed the timeline so as to have his cake and eat it too.

The great irony in all of this is that there are still folks at Grace Episcopal who refuse to believe that Bob Malm is a liar, who continue to support him, and who continue to be part of a denomination so morally bankrupt that this sort of behavior is okay for clergy. Just remember—this is a diocese that can say with a straight face that it won’t deal with Bob Malm’s perjury on the basis that he hasn’t actually been convicted of the crime of perjury.

And to anyone who still thinks they will experience God at Grace Church, all I can say is that they are proceeding on blind faith. Perjury, defamation per se — this is just about the most toxic parish you could ever encounter.




BREAKING NEWS: Motion to Amend Complaint Filed, Bob Malm Sued for Defamation Per Se



After receiving from perjuring priest Bob Malm’s attorney a copy of the email in which Kelly Motormouth Gable falsely stated that she has first-hand knowledge that I embezzled from a previous employer, I have filed a motion for leave to file an amended complaint that sues Bob Malm for defamation per se.

In the email, Bob not only republishes Kelly’s defamatory statements, he endorses them and adds a defamatory per quod statement. To make matters worse, Bob lies to bishop Shannon Johnston, claiming that these events happened before I came to Grace Church. As perjuring priest Bob Malm well knows, they happened while I was serving on the church vestry. Indeed, Bob provided pastoral care to Kelly in conjunction with the matter, so his knowledge of the matter is not second-hand.

My guess? Perjuring priest Bob Malm wanted to discredit me, but didn’t want to admit that I was serving on the vestry at the time, which would have called into question his judgment. 

It’s also telling that Sugarland Chiow conveniently omitted this document during the earlier litigation, although he provided other documents in the email chain. Hmmmm.

Normally, such a claim would be barred by the Virginia statute of limitations, but Va. Code
§ 8.01-229 (D) “obstruction of filing by defendant” expressly tolls the statute of limitations in cases in which the prospective defendant prevents filing of the civil claim by obtaining a stay in bankruptcy, or otherwise takes legal or other action to prevent filing. Since the earliest a defamation case could be brought against Bob was January 28, 2020, I am still well within the timeframe in which to sue.

As before, I am seeking punitive damages against Bob, which could reach $350,000 per claim or more.

See the motion and amended complaint in PDF below:


Wednesday, June 10, 2020

See for Yourself: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm’s Court Filings

As I stated previously, perjuring priest Bob Malm is now falsely claiming that he is not a perjurer. In addition, he is seeking to transfer venue in the current proceedings from Fairfax to Alexandria, and has filed a demurrer, arguing that the matter at hand should be treated as “res judicata,” or already decided.

Of course, the issue of Bob Malm’s perjury, his illegal subpoena of a dying woman, and efforts to use the protective order process as a strategic lawsuit against public participation (SLAPP) have not, in fact, been decided.

See perjuring priest Bob Malm’s filings in PDF below.

Answer and Grounds of Defense

Motion to Transfer Venue

Response to Requests for Admission

Demurrer

Punitive Damages Could Prove an Existential Threat to Grace Church


With perjuring priest Bob Malm now facing potential punitive damages claims against him and by implication the parish itself, the vestry and individual church members should understand that such damages could threaten the very existence of the church and school. Additionally, they could result in personal liability for vestry members and church members alike.

What are punitive damages? Simply put, they are not compensatory, but rather intended to punish bad behavior. An example would be attempting to use a protective order as a strategic lawsuit against public participation (SLAPP) and committing perjury in the context of the proceeedings. Yes, that would be perjuring priest Bob Malm.

Under Virginia law, punitives are capped at $350,000 per claim. But with multiple incidents of outrageous misconduct on the part of the church, there could be multiple such claims.

In order for an employer like the church to be liable under the legal doctrine of respondent superior, the action complained of must be within the scope of the employee or board member’s official duties. That, of course, begs the issue of whether perjuring priest Bob Malm was acting within the scope of their authority.

At this point, things get tricky for an insurer, because to defend the claims against perjuring priest Bob Malm makes it difficult to claim that he was not acting within the scope of his authority. On the other hand, it likely will prove costly for perjuring priest Bob Malm to defend his conduct in court.

Moreover, there is the issue of ratification, or endorsement. While defense counsel may claim that Bob was acting on his own, the evidence is clear that diocesan officials supported and endorsed his actions, as did the vestry. Indeed, Amy Middle Finger Medrick sent around talking points on church email to the vestry to assist vestry members — and Grace school officials — discuss the matter. Meanwhile, diocesan officials even provided legal counsel to perjuring priest Bob Malm in conjunction with this matter, and sent out a letter saying that they fully support Malm.

Two further challenges confront Grace Church:
  1. Most insurance policies don’t cover punitive damages. Thus, if the church is found liable for either defendant’s actions, it could be on the hook for hundreds of thousands of dollars.
  2. The church is not incorporated, meaning that individual church members could be on the hook for the church’s liability.
Thus, church members and prospective church members may want to consider the potential for personal liability due to the parish’s support for Bob’s outrageous conduct.

To be sure, my motive in bringing suit has little to do with money, Indeed, at one point I offered in writing to settle the dispute in exchange for nothing more than perjuring priest Bob Malm’s written agreeement to leave me alone. Through Jeff Sugarland Chiow, Bob refused the offer, and I believe the evidence will show that he had one or more fulsome discussions with Bishop Shannon Johnston about the matter, as well as intake officer Caroline Parkinson. Of course, had any of the above had half the common sense God gave a goat — or half the Christian values of a goat — they would have accepted my offer. But as it stands they now live with the consequences of Bob’s decisions.

In short, with a severe recession under way, a resurgence of the pandemic, declining giving, and a reputation marred by perjuring priest Bob Malm’s mean and stupid conduct, Grace Church’s long-term prospects are, at best, unclear. 

Perhaps when the dust settles folks at Mayo House, and within the parish, will take the time to carefully contemplate their conduct and whether an outsider, looking at their behavior, would see anything remotely Christian about it.

I can tell you this: No one external to the church who is familiar with dynamics within the parish is impressed in a positive way with the church.

Tuesday, June 9, 2020

Episcopal Church Launches Abuse Survey

Under the leadership of ++Michael Curry and Gay Jennings+, the Episcopal church has launched a survey to study sexual- and gender-based harassment and the church’s response to it. The survey claims to be entirely anonymous and will not result in an investigation if specific names or incidents are referenced.

The link can be found at the bottom of this page.

My take? The survey does not do an adequate job of assessing how well the church is responding to these situations, although this may well come in a later survey. Specifically, Title IV is inherently flawed, for it leaves one entirely at the mercy of one’s local bishop. If that bishop is someone who, like Shannon Johnston or Susan Goff, is utterly indifferent to issues of abuse, one is left without recourse.

In that vein, I still marvel that the folks down at Mayo House can say with a straight face that Bob Malm’s perjury is not actionable on the basis that he hasn’t faced criminal charges. That of course illustrates the fundamental flaw with The Episcopal Church—it has utterly lost its ethical reference point. Moreover, Bob’s misuse of church donations, his flagrant nonfeasance involving church finances and governance, and his retaliatory conduct all speak of a church that is irrelevant to the 21st century.

Friday, June 5, 2020

BREAKING NEWS: Kelly Gable Sued for Defamation Per Se



Yesterday evening I contacted Grace parishioner and world champion motormouth Kelly Gable, offering her the opportunity to either document her claim that I embezzled funds from a previous employer or to retract her claims in writing. I further informed her that if I did not hear from her by noon today I would file suit for defamation per se and seek punitive damages.

Having not heard from Kelly as requested, I filed the attached lawsuit against her earlier today.

Defamation per se is a defamatory statement that, inter alia, accuses another individual of engaging in criminal conduct. In such cases, damages are presumed and need not be proven.

There’s also the issue of the statute of limitations. While Virginia law provides for a two-year statute of limitations from the date of defamation, and no discovery rule to toll the statute of limitations in cases alleging defamation, it is clear that republication has recently occurred, most likely from the diocese to other third parties. In such cases, I submit that a tortfeasor like Kelly should not be permitted to escape liability when, as here, the original publication was defamatory per se and the republication could reasonably be expected.

It’s also interesting—perjuring priest Bob Malm republished these statements without privilege and thus also may be liable, depending on how recently he republished them.



Check it Out: Kelly Gable Runs Her True Colors Up the Mast, Shows Just How Toxic Discourse is at Grace Church

You have to hand it to Kelly Gable—she’s nothing if not two-faced, and more than willing to engage in defamation.

In the attached letter, which Bob Malm included in his most recent court filings — but curiously did not share during discovery in our prior litigation — we see Kelly Gable accuse me of being a compulsive liar and an embezzler. That’s interesting, coming from someone who inter alia lied about her whereabouts while working for RPJ Housing; in one instance, she claimed to be at the office, but punched the organization’s timekeeping system from an IP address in Alexandria.

See for yourself. If this is your idea of how people in a church should talk about others, Grace is the perfect church for you.

In the meantime, I am going to consider possible legal action against Kelly.





Thursday, June 4, 2020

BREAKING NEWS: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Denies Being A Perjurer

Well, perjuring priest Bob Malm is at it again.

In response to my requests for admission, not only does perjuring priest Bob Malm deny committing perjury by claiming that my mother contacted him repeatedly, he even lies again claiming that Mike formally left Grace Church in 2015. This is a bold-faced lie, as Mike did not do so until 2017.

Let me just say this: Bob Malm is a bold-faced liar.

Further details tomorrow.

Wednesday, June 3, 2020

Protests This Friday, Lafayette Square

One of the issues in my long-running dispute with perjuring priest Bob Malm and Grace Church is my First Amendment right to speak out about perjuring priest Bob Malm’s conduct and that of people in the church and the diocese.

With that in mind, and mindful of the need to support BLM and First Amendment rights in the face of Donald Trump’s appalling use of force to clear Lafayette Square in order to conduct a photo op, I will be on Lafayette Square this Friday, peacefully protesting.

The day will be hot and uncomfortable, as I will be wearing full protective gear to avoid infection with COVID-19. That said, I will be bringing water, snacks, and first aid supplies for anyone who needs them. I plan to be close to St. John’s, which is the church where I was legally married.

All are welcome to join me.

See for Yourself: Fan Mail!

From time to time, I get fan mail from folks. This ranges from the former member who was yelled at by a self-important member of the parish and responded by walking out, never to return, to the former member who says Bob Malm gives off a creepy vibe.

Here is a great recent piece of fan mail:


Tuesday, June 2, 2020

Grace Church, It’s Time to Speak Out on BLM



As I and many, many others march and protest for social justice, equality, and BLM, Grace Church sits silent. That’s particularly telling, given that the interim rector is black.

So, as Grace Church bloviates about being inclusive, it needs to ask the question, “Into what paradigm are we inviting people?”

If the answer is a culture and church that sits silent in the face of injustice, where clergy like Bob Malm can try to drag the dying into court, where the president tear gasses people in order to hold photo ops, where it’s okay for clergy to commit perjury, where people bully others with impunity, where black individuals die simply because they are black, and where Grace Church sits on its hands in silence, I say: “No thanks. You can keep it.”

Grace Church, it’s time to speak out for victims of injustice and oppression. Just like you promise to do every time you recite the baptismal covenant. Black lives matter. Get out of your pretty faux English country gothic heap and TAKE ACTION.

We’re waiting, and we’re watching. The time to act is now.

Friday, May 29, 2020

COVID-19 and Bob Malm

What the CDC recommends:


What Bob Malm does:


Nothing like leading by example.




Thursday, May 28, 2020

Petition Demanding Independent Investigation of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Passes 12,000 Signatures

Recently, our online petition seeking a full, fair, independent investigation of perjuring priest Bob Malm — and meaningful action based on the results — passed 12,000 signatures. Signatures continue to come in from around the world.

It is, of course, sad that such a petition is needed. Susan Goff and the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia have been offered numerous opportunities to deal with perjuring priest Bob Malm and his misconduct/abuse of office, but have consistently declined to do so. They have claimed repeatedly that Bob Malm’s conduct is “not of weighty and material importance to the ministry of the church,” while privately complaining about the damage this conflict is causing to the church. So why does the church think it can have it both ways?

Even more telling is the fact that Susan Goff says clergy misconduct is only actionable if it results in criminal charges. That means that sexual assault, theft, corruption — none of this is actionable unless charges are filed.

Small wonder The Episcopal Church is imploding as it wallows in its own ethical filth.







Sunday, May 24, 2020

See for Yourself: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Served Additional Request for Admission

Earlier today, I served an additional Request for Admission to perjuring priest Bob Malm. This brings the total to 35.

In this one, I look at that reasons behind my concerns about church governance, which include allegations that Bob lied repeatedly to vestry members. Needless to say, this does not lead to a whole lot of confidence in Bob’s overall leadership.

More on the various legal actions against perjuring priest Bob Malm, Grace Episcopal Church and perjuring priest Bob Malm’s family in the coming days.






Saturday, May 23, 2020

Another Yelper Hits the Nail on the Head

Grace Episcopal recently scored another Yelp review, and whoever posted it hits the nail on the head.

“Empty rhetoric, empty rote, empty pews, empty hands.”

To which I’d add: “Empty ethics.”




Perjuring Priest Bob Malm: The Legal Client From Hell



Having been served Requests for Admission last Thursday (Ascension Day), perjuring priest Bob Malm may well be trying to hire defense counsel in one or more jurisdictions. That said, my advice to potential defense counsel is simple: Look before you leap.

Having practiced law for a number of years, and having represented a range of clients, including a couple real humdingers who were both violent and profoundly mentally ill, the one thing I learned was the perils of taking on bad clients. Some issues in the lawyer/client relationship could be managed; others could not. And in cases where problems could not be managed successfully, some really unpalatable options arose.

I’m thinking particularly of the perils of representing a client who lies. While this is not an uncommon thing, it is vital that the client be willing and able to tell his or her defense counsel the truth. Otherwise, the attorney runs the risk of being blindsided in court. 

Even worse is the sinking feeling that hits when one realizes that one has been defending a fraud. When that happens, defense counsel winds up having to refuse to proffer evidence, having to correct past testimony, or having to seek the court’s permission to withdraw from representation,

Worst of all is the situation some attorneys find themselves in, which is when they wind up in the situation previously occupied by Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow. Too close to the situation to be objective, Sugarland wound up damaging his own reputation by proffering unprofessional pleadings laden with inflammatory rhetoric, false statements of law and fact, utterly inept legal research, atrocious legal writing, a total lack of proofreading, and ethically questionable conduct by both attorney and client. Indeed, at one point Sugarland phoned defense counsel and allegedly unleashed a string of childish profanity straight out of junior high school. 

Of course, these shortcomings on Sugarland’s part also caused lasting damage to his client and related parties. And should Sugarland ever decide to repeat his ill-advised venture into civil litigation within Virginia, it’s likely that judicatories and members of the local bar alike will regard Sugarland with skepticism. And in the meantime, it’s a safe bet that Sugarland’s conduct is doing nothing to help Grace Church maintain its increasingly tenuous toehold in the local faith community.

So, my advice to potential defense counsel is this: Be sure not only that perjuring priest Bob Malm is telling you the truth, but also the whole truth and nothing but the truth. My belief is that perjuring priest Bob Malm is a master of manipulation, deceit, and duplicity, and very willing to mislead even those closest to him. Indeed, the glib manner in which he lied in front of Bishop Shannon Johnston by telling me during a meeting with the bishop, “Having resigned from the vestry, you were no longer eligible to serve as a trustee,” is profoundly troubling, especially since Bob’s own written chronology of events contradicts him. For Bob the motto seems to be, “Different audience, different story,” with no recognition that inventing reality on the spur of the moment is bound to cause problems for him.

The alternative is for prospective defense counsel to run the risk of assisting perjuring priest Bob Malm in his efforts to perpetrate a fraud on the courts. This does no one, including perjuring priest Bob Malm himself, any favors.

One final suggestion: Given Bob’s propensity for fiction, defense counsel would be well advised to see firsthand evidence to support perjuring priest Bob Malm’s claims. A good starting point would be to ask Bob about his assertion that my Mom or someone purporting to be her repeatedly set up appointments with him and cancelled. How did she set them up? Where are the calendars, emails, phone billing records, and other evidence that this happened? Can I see them? How many times did Ms. Yahner or someone claiming to be her set up appointments with you? Who else can substantiate your claim?

Such a line of questioning will make very clear exactly what sort of prospective client the attorney  has on her hands.

Guaranteed.


Thursday, May 21, 2020

See for Yourself: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Served Requests for Admission

A few minutes ago, I served Requests for Admission (RFA’s) on perjuring priest Bob Malm.

RFA’s are a part of the legal discovery process, and used to narrow and focus issues at hand in the court case. My RFA’s focused on Bob Malm’s fabrications and misconduct during his prior legal proceedings against me.

Perjuring priest Bob Malm has 21 days to respond.