Press Release

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

The following press release goes out tomorrow in response to Grace Episcopal Alexandria’s efforts to prevent people from learning about the various counterclaims filed in response to the church’s fabricated legal cases filed against me.

Had the church not wanted adverse publicity, perhaps Sugarland and perjuring priest Bob Malm should have thought twice before going to court.

Grace Episcopal Church, located in Alexandria Virginia, is trying to suppress public awareness of the various lawsuits against it. That’s the conclusion reached by plaintiff Eric J. Bonetti, a former member, who has sued the church in various state and federal courts.

Bonetti reached that conclusion after information on the various lawsuits was removed from the church’s Wikipedia page, located at,_Virginia).

“This is not the first time that the church and former rector Robert Malm have attempted to suppress the public’s right to know,” said Bonetti. “It is my position that, if the church and its staff are willing to engage in the behavior I have alleged in my pleadings, they should have the integrity to own up to it. Any church that is unwilling to have its actions see the light of day is one that should be avoided at all costs.”

Bonetti filed the suits after from rector Robert H. Malm accused Bonetti of threatening him and his family, and brought action in the Virginia courts seeking a protective order.

In his pleadings, Bonetti alleges that Malm perpetrated a fraud upon the courts, taking words out context from a blog published by Bonetti’s late mother, repeatedly committed perjury, and fraudulently concealed evidence.

Moreover, Bonetti alleges that Malm’s real purpose in filing the suit was to attempt to suppress criticism of his Malm’s behavior, as evinced by a written settlement proposal offered by Malm, which offered to drop the protective order in exchange for silence about Malm’s behavior. In addition, Bonetti says he has uncovered multiple emails and other documents in which Malm expressly states he was not threatened.

Subsequent to Malm’s initial lawsuit, Grace Church has shed a large portion of its membership and experienced major declines in giving. Moreover, the church’s last remaining full-time employee from Malm’s tenure recently resigned from his position.

“Unresolved conflict cannot be pushed under the rug, hidden, ignored, or suppressed,” said Bonetti. “The church’s only hope at this point is to engage in truthtelling — something it has adamantly refused to do so far. In fact, the church even named part of the building after Malm, which shows just how dysfunctional things at the church really are,” he added.

Bonetti contends that he has provided documentation of his allegations that Malm committed perjury to Episcopal bishop Susan Goff, as well as bishop Alan Gates. Both allegedly have brushed the matter off, with Goff asserting that she would not take action absent criminal charges.

Bonetti has indicated that additional lawsuits are likely in the coming weeks.

Reliable Sources Report Remaining Full-Time Grace Employee Has Resigned

Dr. Richard Newman

Amid the debacle left behind by perjuring priest Bob Malm, employees have been leaving Grace like rats off a sinking ship. Earlier this week, a well-placed source told me that Richard Newman has resigned as director of music. The news marks the departure of the last full-time employee from BAT (Before Anne Turner).

The news is bittersweet, as Richard’s a good guy, and came to Grace Church while I was serving as junior warden. But the cost of living in this area is very high, Grace is a shit show, and many of Richard’s friends are from Michigan, where he got his start in church music. Thus, it makes sense for him to move on.

Of course, finding qualified replacements will be difficult. Not only have several recent Grace hires been underwhelming (think Peter “Used” Hanke); but the unresolved conflict in the church; the propensity of parishioners to engage in hypocritical behavior like bullying, gossip, and defamation; and the dismal reputation of the church following Bob Malm’s perjury, spoliation of evidence, and other misconduct means few are willing to run the risk of damaging their professional reputations, or of doing something to be on the receiving end of bullying by the altar guild, choir, and members.

Grace really is in a bad way.

Proof that Grace Episcopal Alexandria is Toxic

In honor of perjury

Just in case readers were wondering just how seriously Grace Church takes Bob Malm’s perjury, here’s one key indicator. Specifically, it named part of the church after him—the “new” narthex, added in 1994, is now named the Malm Narthex, aka Perjury Place.


#DARVO — Perfect Description of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm

Perjuring Priest Bob Malm

Did you know that there is an acronym that describes perfectly perjuring priest Bob Malm’s conduct after being called out for being an abuser? It’s DARVO, which stands for “Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender.”

And so it is with perjuring priest Bob Malm, who denies everything, claims I am mentally ill, and asserts he’s been threatened, even as he perjures himself and makes up imaginary requests for meetings involving my late mother.

Here’s a great article on #DARVO:

Email to Perjuring Priest Bob Malm’s Attorney

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

Earlier today I sent some thoughts on the current litigation to perjuring priest Bob Malm’s Massachusetts attorney, as set forth below.

And just in case I wasn’t clear, let me state succinctly: Bob Malm is a perjurer, and Susan Goff and Alan Gates are complicit.

The Episcopal Church is morally bankrupt.

Email to perjuring priest Bob Malm’s Massachusetts attorney