This one is all trick and no treat. The Zebra, Alexandria’s all-good-news media outlet, reports that the 13th annual Alexandria Film Festival includes a movie that includes an appearance by perjuring Episcopal priest Bob Malm, former rector of Grace Episcopal, otherwise known as St. Dysfunction. The Sydney Pollack film Random Hearts, one of the lowest rated films ever… Read More »
Despite Dysfunctional Bob’s departure, I continue to stand up to the narcissistic bully that is the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia. With that in mind, I’m continuing to protest throughout the Alexandria area, including making the rounds of area Episcopal churches, schools, etc. I’m also continuing to leaflet and will be making a special guest appearance outside the diocesan… Read More »
True to form, the Great Pumpkin made his annual visit to the Immanuel-on-the-Hill pumpkin patch. I showed up around 1 PM, replete with signage. To their credit, folks at the church didn’t act like the fake Christians of Grace Church, who like to fire off the ol’ one-gun salute to Jesus when they see me. (Something about “as… Read More »
Steps are now under way to file a second lawsuit against Grace Episcopal Church, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, Susan Goff, and several other parties, including multiple church staff, volunteers, and independent contractors. I anticipate the suit will be filed in Pennsylvania and will involve multiple plaintiffs. Several of the defendants will be added once the initial suit… Read More »
Will Susan Goff put her money where her mouth is and admit that Bob Malm committed perjury? Or will she continue to deny the truth and show all the world what is becoming increasingly obvious, which is that The Episcopal Church is morally bankrupt, interested only in its fast dwindling power and prestige? Will she put into practice… Read More »
Earlier today subpoenas went out in my lawsuit against Grace Episcopal Church, Susan Goff, and the diocese. Most likely, Grace will receive its subpoena tomorrow, while Susan Goff’s subpoena may take a day or so. Both are for the production of documents. Following is the email I sent to the diocese and Grace church’s vestry. In a nutshell,… Read More »
Let’s face it. Bob Malm’s good at going after dying women, bullying persons like Mike recently received into The Episcopal Church, ignoring the canons, and making excuses why, after 25 years of his lazy backside, Grace Church still didn’t have the finance manual required by church canons. That said, he wasn’t so good at explaining the thousands of… Read More »
More than a month before Dysfunctional Bob’s farewell, I requested a police detail while out protesting. Such details are routinely provided to protesters. I was ignored for four weeks, despite: – Two emails to Sgt. Nick Lions – Three phone calls to Nick Lions. – One email to the city manager. – Two emails to Sgt. Patricio Alvarez.… Read More »
With my lawsuit now filed against Grace Church, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, and Susan Goff, an interesting question arises: Will Sugarland Chiow resume his ethically questionable behavior? Past incidents include: Apparently signing off on the vestry’s talking points, which claimed that Mike and I left the parish on our own, despite the fact Jeff knew otherwise. Making… Read More »
Earlier today, I filed a lawsuit against Grace Episcopal Church, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, and Bishop Susan Goff. All parties have been alerted to the importance of maintaining relevant records. In addition, per the existing court orders, I have reminded the defendants that they may not use any material I send them to contact Bob Malm or… Read More »
One sign of a vibrant organization of any sort is that it has news. Lots of it. Things happening, events taking place, opportunities to engage. Other than Dysfunctional Bob’s departure, Grace Church has no news. None. That suggests Grace is lurching towards existential crisis and possible closure. Before we go further, let me preempt the words-don’t-mean-what-words-mean crowd at… Read More »
Having sent my demand letter, I have little doubt that the fake Christians of Grace Church and the Diocese will ignore it. So, as I prepare to go to court, I have launched a website to provide information on the lawsuit as it progresses. Check it out!
Fun times ahead for Grace Church! I have obtained a trove of emails and phone records pertaining to the church. While I am still wading through my find, I believe some are profoundly damning. My plan is to begin publishing Monday, with continuing releases throughout the pledge season. Additionally, several will prove helpful in my upcoming litigation against… Read More »
Breaking news: As I prepare to file suit against the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia and other parties relevant to Bob Malm’s vendetta against me, I have sent the following demand letter to the diocese and its insurer, in which I ask the diocese to admit that Bob Malm committed perjury. That would, at a minimum, be the Christian… Read More »
One of the first things that should happen in a successful church transition is to formally let go of the old and open the door to the new. Ensuring that this happens normally is the job of the diocesan transition minister working in conjunction with the vestry. But this doesn’t appear to be happening at Grace, particularly apropos… Read More »
Until the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia and the vestry of Grace Episcopal Alexandria renounce their support for priest Bob Malm’s perjury and his efforts to bully a dying woman, please withhold your pledge. That’s what Jesus would do.
I recently had lunch with several clergy friends of mine. It was a good time and I was careful not to bring up the matter of Grace Church, for fear of putting friends in an awkward place. That said, it was not long before the topic came up. I played fair and tried to remain non-committal, instead listening… Read More »
Some time ago, I posted an example of a transparent church budget developed by a parish not too far from Grace. Included in the budget were line items for the compensation of each member of the clergy and staff, as well as sufficient detail to allow anyone who’s curious to learn more. Indeed, the church’s budget is published… Read More »
One of Dysfunctional Bob’s final acts as rector was publishing a series of top-ten lists in the church newsletter, Grace Notes. While most of the content is unremarkable at best, there is one aspect that is really troubling. Before we go to the heart of the matter, let me say this: Someone should have edited these lists. Between… Read More »
If you’re a prospective interim rector at Grace Church and reading this, good for you. I mean it—the fact that you’re doing your homework is a good sign. A key observation from my years at Grace Church is that, like many toxic organizations, words don’t mean what you think they do. For example, you and I may think… Read More »
There are not two sides to every story. Stop making excuses. Stop lecturing people. Learn to listen.
Ed: The following could have been written expressly for Grace Church. All eight signs apply, and there are additional warning signs as well. * * * * * We call it the death spiral. I know. It’s not a pleasant term. I can understand if it causes you to cringe. By the time I am contacted about a… Read More »
Later this week I will leafleting a large swath of the city, with a focus on a high-value area near King Street. Efforts likely will spill into next week, but I plan to do another 1,000 homes in short order. I’m also gearing up to increase visibility coming into the holidays, including ramping up at shopping areas and… Read More »
Know anyone else who’s gotten an email like this from Bob Malm? And remind me, why exactly did Bob Malm direct Mike to leave? Any church whose vestry lies to parishioners is one you should avoid at all costs. My advice, worth exactly what you paid for it.
Following is an excellent post by Wade Mullen, an expert on abusive clergy and seminary instructor. Spot on, and exactly the tactics that Dysfunctional Bob and Sugarland Chiow use. Grace church members love these tactics as well as they conveniently ignore Bob’s perjury, while urging me to “move on.” Or they flip me off, willfully blind to their… Read More »
In earlier posts, I discussed organizational narcissism and the challenges it poses for an interim and Grace church. This article more fully explores these concepts, with an emphasis on the difficulties organizations face when they seek to change. So what is organizational narcissism? (Note that we are here referring to the high self-esteem variant. There are others.) A… Read More »
Well, another Sunday morning on Russell Road as I protest 1,030 feet from Grace Episcopal. Not long ago, Dysfunctional Bob rolled past. True to form, he drove on the wrong side of the road, although this time he didn’t stop to threaten me. Sadly enough, only one Grace parishioner contributed to my Begin With Grace video. Gotta love… Read More »