Here’s a good one: Mike’s Title IV disciplinary complaint against Bob Malm, after Dysfunctional Bob removed Mike from church membership rolls in order to get at me. Also attached is the church directory from that fall, Mike Jones’ email confirming Bob’s role in these matters, and Bob Malm’s email announcing his decision to force Mike out of the… Read More »
We’ll take good care of your investment. Photo taken summer 2013 of a vesting room window that hadn’t been cleaned in 4 years; the date on the Easter Vigil bulletin confirms this. I sent this to both Bob Malm and the parish admin. The latter said she wasn’t sure that anyone cleans the vesting rooms. Bob Malm didn’t… Read More »
Late next week, I plan to release a very special treat for readers: Body cam footage. That’s right—your chance to see the good christians of Grace Church yelling the f bomb, flipping me the finger, and more. And yes, I include names and license plate photos. And yes, it is legal to film in a public arena, before… Read More »
Very true. Grace Episcopal is a business, not a church, and a badly run business at that.
There’s an interesting story in the news that underscores a key question in this conflict: What would it be like if Bob Malm really were a Christian? The story involves St. Peter’s Catholic Church in Regina, Canada. Overnight, vandals broke in, breaking glass, topping statues, and otherwise damaging the church. Here’s what one Catholic official said: Of course,… Read More »
With the parish’s annual meeting now only a few days away, Grace church has said it hopes to begin the search for a full-time assistant rector shortly afterwards. With that in mind, and recognizing that this controversy likely will come up during the interview process (and should!), here are some insider’s questions that candidates can use when they… Read More »
With Grace Episcopal Church set to hold its annual parish meeting Sunday the 27th, here’s a potentially useful inflection point. Specifically, in January 2016, through my attorney, I offered to settle the matter in exchange for nothing more than Bob Malm’s written agreement to act like a priest. That’s right — simply stop disparaging me and stop interfering… Read More »
Well, it’s another road trip for the long weekend, off to sign some paperwork. More to come on that. Meanwhile, lots of interesting conversations with the Diocese of Virginia, including one in which the church basically told me that it has no problem with clergy retaliating against someone if they complain to the diocese. It’s conversations like that… Read More »
As many who follow abusive churches know, things have been ugly lately at Harvest Bible Fellowship (HBF), an evangelical church that, like Bob Malm, tried to use bogus accusations in the courts to silence criticism. That case recently was thrown out of court. It’s beyond the purview of this post to rehash the details of this debacle, but… Read More »
Although Easter is late this year, we’ll be launching relevant paid advertising across various media starting this weekend, with a heavy emphasis on social media. Themes center on Bob Malm’s infamous quote, “Jesus is Truth,” Bob’s various lies and misrepresentations (including falsely telling the court that I have violated the existing court order), the meaning of Easter, and… Read More »
“While they seem sane to themselves, the seem immature and hateful to outsiders who are looking at their behavior.” An excellent observation, and one that I believe applies to numerous parishioners in this situation. Screen cap from comments on original Wartburg Watch article about Bob Malm’s abusive behavior.
As the St. Dysfunction vestry meets tonight to discuss, inter alia, the church’s 2019 budget, here’s a great bit of context I came across from my old blog: A completed version of the Episcopal Church’s internal controls checklist. The denomination asks that all parishes complete this as part of the annual audit required under canon law. As you… Read More »
One of the recurring themes in the Gospels is Jesus’ distaste for those who served as a stumbling block to the faithful. Given that, thanks to Bob Malm, every single member of my family has now renounced Christianity, I wonder what Jesus would say to Bob Malm today.
I was doing some purging the other day at one of our digs, looking to lighten the load of detritus that we all carry through life, when I came across a particularly good candidate for the dumpster. Check it out: Grace Church in the snow. The photo used to hang in our entrance hall. And to think I… Read More »
During discovery, Bob Malm stated under oath that Mom and other family members repeatedly made appointments with him and no-showed. This was part of his purported reason for his claim that I am, in fact, the author of Mom’s blog. There’s just one little wrinkle in all of this: Mom has NEVER made an appointment with Bob, nor… Read More »
As many know, The Episcopal Church has lifted the statute of limitations on clergy abuse. The Diocese of Olympia therefore has invited victims to come forward. My advice: Think twice! Per Bishop Shannon Johnston AND Bishop Chilton Knudsen, retaliation is not actionable on the basis that it is “not of weighty and material importance to the ministry of… Read More »
First, if you have no idea what this conflict is about, do yourself a favor and keep your mouth shut. Otherwise, you make yourself look stupid. Second, in response to a particularly dimwitted parishioner who took it upon herself to berate me today, I have this to say to her: Shame on you for supporting a priest and… Read More »
By the way, when one contemplates the wisdom of paying Bob Malm a $100,000 bonus in 2014, especially in light of the church’s failure to plan for the replacement of the school’s HVAC system, it’s important to know that there were vestry members who wanted to give Bob the full $200,000. That’s right, folks, there were vestry members… Read More »
With Grace Church’s annual parish meeting now only a few weeks away, it’s worth looking at the effects Bob’s multi-year campaign of bullying and harassment, directed towards me and my family, have had on the parish. The data are not good. In 2014, the year our conflict began, the church had 525 households and 317 pledging units. Total… Read More »
As the final days of the 2019 pledge season wind down and the Grace Church vestry determines next year’s budget, it’s important to reflect on the values that Bob Malm brings to the church. Specifically, the lessons he teaches people about “respecting the dignity of every human being.” Or not. Readers may recall the comments of one long-time… Read More »
Later today, I’ll post additional highlighted excerpts. But for now, here’s my entire pleading, filed last summer at the end of my litigation with Dysfunctional Bob. In it, we see: Dysfunctional Bob ordered by the court to specify which blog posts he claims to be threatening. Should have been a simple matter, right? Note that Bob never did… Read More »
As readers know, Grace Episcopal rector Dysfunctional Bob Malm has been going around claiming that he and the church are victims of “domestic terrorism” (his words, not mine). So it should be a pretty simple matter for him to point to specifics, right? Well, apparently not. After months of discovery during last summer’s legal battle, Bob still refused… Read More »
Estimates suggest that 60 percent of church buildings constructed after WWII will close in the next decade. Currently, 100-200 churches close every week, with most of those closing focused primarily on the needs of their members, versus reaching out into the community. Indeed, less than 20 percent of Americans attend church regularly—yet Bob Malm’s response when members leave… Read More »
One of the recurring themes in my experiences with Grace Episcopal, aka St. Dysfunction, is lack of accountability. Lack of accountability by Bob Malm, by the vestry, by parish “leaders,” by Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow, and more. As I’ve said many times, where but church can a key employee, Bob Malm: Lie to vestry members about important HR issues… Read More »
Although my blog is the smallest part of my social media efforts, I’m pleased to report that the blog is getting ready to reach the 60,000 hit mark. That’s small potatoes compared to my Twitter and Instagram presence; Twitter alone has has scored more than 1 million hits. The part that Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal Church doesn’t… Read More »
And that’s on top of the $25,000 parishioners donated to help Bob and his family after his accident.
Last summer, the bishops of The Episcopal Church, having heard the #churchtoo testimony, entered into a covenant to work for justice and inclusion for all. A copy of the covenant follows. So is this covenant consistent with my experience with the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia? Answer: It isn’t. Engaging in retaliation for asking the diocese to mediate a… Read More »
As you consider pledging in 2019, it may be helpful to look at Bob Malm’s compensation in light of the church’s overall financial condition. Here is a quick summary of Bob Malm — by the numbers. Compensation as part of total parish annual budget Total church annual budget: ~ $1 million Total Bob Malm compensation, including indirects: ~… Read More »
Almost 200K a year in compensation and he can’t be bothered to find out why? And why were several thousand dollars’ worth of undeposited cash and stale checks found in a former parish administrator’s office when she left? Why was this not detected before she left? Why after almost 30 years as rector does the church STILL not… Read More »