With news of Dysfunctional Bob’s retirement now official (and woefully overdue), someone asked if things here at BobMalm.com will change. The answer, at least for now, is a resounding “Hell no!”
Why? The answer is easy. It’s because of the complicity of people like Sugarland Chiow, with his inflammatory rhetoric, various courtroom falsehoods, and efforts to bully the dying. It’s about the Lisa Medley’s and Leslie Malm’s of the church, with their lies. It’s about the Eric Waskowiscz’s and Amy Medrick’s of the parish, with their middle fingers in the air, testifying to the reality of their Christian faith. It’s about the Alison Campbell’s who don’t see any conflict between bullying people and their claim to be Christians (or feel justified based on their faulty understanding of my conflict with Kelly Gable.) And it’s about the college-aged parishioner who thinks it’s okay to urge people to commit suicide. (That BTW, is a sign of a seriously skewed ethical reference point and an utterly bankrupt “Christian” faith as well as possible mental illness.)
Then we have Kirk Steffensen threatening Mike’s job, Leslie Steffensen and her innuendo to third parties that I can’t be trusted with money, and the fabrications from Bob Malm’s kids, claiming I steered work to AES; wonder who gave them that idea. Not.
And the list goes on.
It’s also about all those referenced above who dutifully drag their children to church, never thinking that their children are or someday will be smart enough to recognize the hypocrisy of their parents. (Does Sugarland Chiow really think his kids will read his various courtroom fabrications and still consider themselves to be Christians? Or see that their father supported Dysfunctional Bob’s facially obvious taking words out of context as part of his request for a protective order? Or not understand that doing so is every bit as much a lie as telling an outright falsehood? Color Jeff and his wife clueless.)
In short, Grace Episcopal church is mired in hypocrisy and conflict after 30 years of Dysfunctional Bob. It is a toxic church and will continue to be a toxic church long after Dysfunctional Bob drags his lazy, fat, perjuring carcass off to Jekyll Island.
For the record, nothing I have seen suggests that people at the church understand what a screwed up place it is, or how many people have been hurt, both by Bob’s narcissism and by the church’s organizational narcissism.
Moreover, people need to know that this is how Grace Church rolls. Yes, people are friendly, but that in no way offsets the abusive behavior that occurs at every level of the church. Those considering getting involved in the church need to know that this sort of thing is part and parcel of life on Planet Malm.
Oh, and beginning February 2020, should Dysfunctional Bob decide to work as an interim or supply clergy, I or others may show up to protest. People need to know that this is the sort of priest that Bob is.