Bob Malm: Mentally Ill? – Grace Episcopal Alexandria

Is Bob Malm mentally ill? I don’t know the answer to that question, but believe there are factors that suggest the answer is yes. Among them:

Bob’s seeming need for adulation, combined with constant efforts to secure more.
His focus on power and control, and his use of forceful diction to try to create an impression of power/authority.
His focus on superficial image and appearance.
His carefully hidden insecurity.
His ability to present a guileless exterior, while exhibiting behavior behind the scenes that is vile, vicious, and vindictive.
His seeming need to live up to parental and other expectations.
His apparent treatment of his children as an extension of himself.
His sometimes over-the-top rages when he perceives himself to be criticized, or those close to him.
His profound resistance to supervising staff and performing other essential components of his job.
His belief that he’s a great supervisor and priest, when facts suggest otherwise.
His stated beliefs that he is invincible, and doesn’t need others.
His strong verbal skills.
His lack of real empathy for others.
His often practiced/rehearsed conduct, combined with oddly “flat” behavior when he cannot play a rehearsed role.
His refusal to address conflict.
His professed religious beliefs, which often stand in marked contrast to his conduct.
His dismissive remarks about his wife and others whom he claims to care about.
His seemingly shallow emotions.
His ability to lie as needed, making stuff up as needed to suit his purposes.
His lack of a notion of objective truth/reality.
His projection of his own attributes on others.
His willingness to lie and commit perjury, while loudly decrying my assertion that he has done so, all while ignoring written evidence of his deceit.
His apparent inability to see any conflict between his professed values and his conduct.
His willingness to ignore church policies and requirements when it suits him.
His ability to manipulate the perceptions of others.
His increasing paranoia, including his belief that he is pursued by “domestic terrorists.”
His becoming disoriented in his own home, resulting in a serious fall and hospitalization in 2014.
His tendency to address issues/conflict through manipulation, versus open dialogue.
His unwillingness to take responsibility for his actions.
His seeming belief that he is special or unique and should only associate with others who are special.
His deep-seated but carefully hidden prejudices on certain issues.
His seeming tendency to cultivate those who are wealthier or may otherwise confer perceived status on him.
His dismissive attitude towards those who may have nicer belongings than him.
His irrational conduct towards me and indifference to the damage it is causing to Grace Church and its members.
His apparent belief that criticizing his conduct is somehow abusive or illegal.
His stated belief that he can use the judicial system as a way to discipline former church members.