Saturday, May 16, 2020

BREAKING NEWS: Additional Lawsuit Coming for Perjuring Priest Bob Malm



Early next week, I will be back in Northern Virginia to file another lawsuit against perjuring priest Bob Malm. This one will be filed against him individually and will cover additional allegations of tortious conduct. Additionally, the complaint requests punitive damages of at least $350,000.

I will post the complaint online as soon as it is filed.

Bob Malm, perjuring priest.

Thursday, May 14, 2020

Breaking News: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Sued in Pennsylvania

With the courts now open again in Pennsylvania, one of the lawsuits pending against perjuring priest Bob Malm moved forward in that state.

The case is predicated on perjuring priest Bob Malm’s efforts to drag Mom, dying of COPD, into court in violation of state law. Given that Bob was represented by Episcopal church attorney Jeff ”Sugarland” Chiow — a nationally recognized attorney, assisted by another law firm with ties to the church — it seems clear that Bob knew his actions were not permitted under state law. Thus, it is appropriate that perjuring priest Bob Malm be required to compensate Mom’s estate for the costs associated with defending his bogus subpoena.

I will post additional detail once the court assigns a trial date.




Wednesday, May 13, 2020

Shrine Mont Defies Logic, Suggests it Will Open Late This Year



Before we take the plunge, let me say this: I have no existing quarrel with Shrine Mont. That said, its response to the COVID-19 pandemic is straight out of “Dumb and Dumber.”

In recent communiques, the retreat says it may open late this year, and that it’s following the pandemic closely. Okay fine, but that misses the mark.

Rosslyn, the other diocesan retreat and situs of the bishop’s residence, wisely announced several weeks ago that it is closed for the remainder of the year. And while I recognize that Shrine Mont often is one of the few local jobs available for youth in the area, it needs to close too.

The reality is that we are not in the late stages of the pandemic. We’re not even in the middle stages. Indeed, based on the relatively small percentage of the population infected, we are in the very early stages.

Nor is a vaccine or effective treatment a given. While odds favor both, the reality is that viruses remain potent, nimble foes, with the ability to mutate and otherwise respond to changing medical interventions. And while some Americans are already chafing at stay-at-home directives, viruses are able to play a long waiting game, with degraded forms of viruses even found in mummies.

To make matters worse, church attendance is recognized as a super-spreading event. While I am no fan of the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia and its feckless approach to governance, to its credit the diocese itself recognizes this in its announcements regarding regathering.

The problem with Shrine Mont, however, is that the very things that make it unique and fun are risky. That includes:
  • Communal dining
  • Singing events
  • Sharing rooms
  • Socializing in close quarters and more,
Indeed, even check-in is risky when folks must gather in a hotel lobby, and I cannot see any way that rooms can be sanitized to a level that supports the volume of traffic that Shrine Mont experiences. Indeed, many of the rooms don’t even have adequate distancing between beds and outside windows, given that there is no air conditioning.

Moreover, while there seemingly is little community transmission of the virus in rural areas within Virginia, many of the big churches come from Richmond and NVA, both epicenters of the outbreak. Thus, Shrine Mont runs the risk of bringing clusters of cases into the Shenandoah Valley, with a very real possibility of infecting camp counselors and kitchen staff.

At the end of the day, church remains a super-spreading event, whether it occurs indoors at churches in Northern VA, or at the comparatively rural Shrine Mont. And neither will be safe for clergy and parishioners who are 65+ or who have chronic health diseases any time soon. And the risk of adverse publicity remains great, for a cluster of cases originating at Shrine Mont would garner headlines nationwide, and put the lie to the diocese’s claims of putting the needs of others first.

Then there is the issue of the unknown effects of the disease. With some patients reporting ongoing cognitive difficulties, kidney and lung damage, and inflammatory responses throughout the body, plus the recent deaths of children due to previously unrecognized manifestations of the disease, it’s much too early to think about “nice-to-have” events like Shrine Mont.

To make matters worse, Shrine Mont continues to hold out hope that it will have groups there this summer. But for the reasons referenced above, this is a profoundly bad idea, and the diocese, Susan Goff, and Shrine Mont all make themselves look stupid by hedging their bets.

But then, given that the diocese is okay with Bob Malm’s perjury on the grounds that he did not face criminal charges, and his appalling courtroom conduct, there’s little reason to suspect that it will ultimately act in a particularly ethical manner when it comes to Shrine Mont.

We’ll see.

In the meantime, Shrine Mont needs to do the right thing, quit beating around the bush, and recognize that it simply cannot ensure a reasonable level of safety in the midst of a pandemic.


Rogers, Joseph, O’Donnell and Sugarland Chiow Recognized for Government Contracting Work





Sugarland Chiow and his law firm were recently recognized by Chambers & Partners for their government contracts work. Chambers & Partners is a worldwide ranking service that lists attorneys by region and practice area.

In doing so, Chambers ranked Sugarland as a Band Four attorney. While this may not sound like much of an honor, the category is replete with luminaries that include Akin, Gump, Strauss et al, Reed Smith, and Venable.

Likely not factored into the ratings are Sugarland’s demonstrated propensity for referring to bloggers as “domestic terrorists,” his courtroom fabrications, his inflammatory and dilatory pleadings, his efforts to drag a dying woman into court, his false statements of law and fact, and his fake church shootings in fictional locations.

But then, Sugarland’s questionable performance as an attorney is perhaps mirrored in his law firm’s marketing materials, which themselves reflect careless editing. Indeed, in the firm’s press release, it states, “We are honored to be ranked among the top law firms in the United States for the work that we dedicate our time too [sic].”

Res ipsa loquitor, or “the thing speaks for itself.”

Tuesday, May 12, 2020

Grace Episcopal’s Screwed Up Budget Under Perjuring Priest Bob Malm

In previous posts, I’ve talked about the fact that under perjuring priest Bob Malm, Grace Episcopal spent one out of every five dollars on Bob. That’s right—in a roughly $1 million budget, one out of every five dollars went into perjuring priest Bob Malm’s pocket.

Yes, that is shocking, and even more so because Bob’s extravagant lifestyle left him unable to pay his bills for much of that time, with not even token savings available to him and his family. Indeed, this author had to guarantee out of his personal funds the installation of the handrails outside perjuring priest Bob Malm’s home following his 2014 accident after questions arose about his ability to pay this bill, which was less than $4,000.

Similarly, while Grace claims to be a center for outreach and healing, the reality is most of its funds go to keeping the good times rolling. Whether it’s the thousands spent on flowers during the holidays, funds for the drunken blow-out that is Shrine Mont, or lavish catered farewell parties for mediocre and disruptive head of school Chris Byrnes, the priority almost always is having fun. Not feeding the hungry, not maintaining the building. Just good old narcissistic fun.

And at a time when the vestry approved a $100,000 bonus to Bob Malm, it almost simultaneously approved cutting health benefits to employees—many of whom already barely make ends meet. Nor was Bob powerless to effect change. If nothing else, he could have donated the bonus to help less fortunate staff members. But Bob will get his, even if others don’t get theirs. Do you see a pattern here?

Below is a visual dashboard of church finances under perjuring priest Bob Malm. Note that 45 percent of the church budget went to paying for Bob and the building, with the latter drastically underfunded and no effort made to set aside income for the future.

This surely is one screwed up church.

Grace Episcopal Alexandria’s Screwed Up Budget

Friday, May 8, 2020

See for Yourself: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm’s Fake Apology

Some time ago, the Princess Porcine aka Lisa Medley made much of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s so-called apology, claiming that he somehow “humbled himself.” As with many things coming out of the Princess’s snout, her comments were a load of ugly BS — or maybe PS.

As most mediators recognize, a true apology never includes the word “but.” And if the so-called apology tries to shift the onus onto the other person, it’s not an apology, but an insult and likely to make matters worse.


Now, take a look at perjuring priest Bob Malm’s misleading fauxpology. Not only does it attempt to shift responsibility for the problem to Mike, but it attempts to mislead. Specifically, it claims that Mike’s memorial donations, which went AWOL, were “properly recorded in the book.” But the real issue was that Bob Malm had instructed church staff not to include Mike’s name, or mine, in any church publications. Thus, the church did not honor the terms and conditions under which it solicited donations. At best, this is breach of contract. At worst, it is fraud. And no matter how you parse it, it is not Christian.

Oh, and remind me again what Mike did to Bob?

Speaking of, I love perjuring priest Bob Malm’s narcissistic thing about how, at an effort at reconciliation, now we can **drum roll please** give money to the church. Boy, that really does it for me. So glad to know we can send money to support blood-sucking leaches like perjuring priest Bob Malm. Heck, maybe with enough donations someone can give Bob another $100K bonus,

And did you notice how Bob is so insecure he can never own up to his own behavior? Indeed, he pulls in enablers like Sugarland Chiow—all I can say is I hope Summer Chiow is setting a better example for their kids. And for the record, no one has to impugn Jeff’s integrity. His actions speak for themselves.

Bob Malm, perjuring priest.

Bob Malm, bully.

Bob Malm, trailer park trash. (No disrespect to those who live in trailer parks or sub-standard housing. And no, I don’t wish Bob Malm as a neighbor on you.)




Online Petition Requesting Investigation of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Passes 11,000 Signatures


Yesterday afternoon, our online petition about perjuring priest Bob Malm passed 11,000 signatures as signatures continue to roll in.

While there is every reason to believe that the corrupt Episcopal Church will continue to support perjuring priest Bob Malm, the good news is that the demographics of change.org align closely with those young people most likely to join the denomination. Thus, people have the data they need to make an informed decision about membership.

If bishops who support clergy perjury, bullying the dying, calling others “domestic terrorists,” urging others to commit suicide, and clergy who are okay with these things comport with your idea of Christianity, Grace Episcopal and the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia welcome you!


Thursday, May 7, 2020

Move to Virtual Services Underscores Interpersonal Problems at Grace Episcopal Alexandria

PB Michael Curry shows a little love to fellow Yale alum perjuring priest Bob Malm
As churches nationwide hold virtual services amidst the pandemic, one of the hot topics has been how to keep online meetings safe. Safe from Zoom-bombing, safe from misconduct from within the church.

These discussions illustrate a longstanding problem at Grace Church under the reign of perjuring priest Bob Malm that continues to this day, which is the lack of formal or informal policies regarding how parishioners interact with one another.

Consider, for example, the online Safe Church training offered by VTS, located here. In it, there are a series of valuable recommendations regarding Zoom and other online fora, and how to keep these virtual places safe. Most of the recommendations are common sense, like transparency and having unrelated adults present. Others are specific to virtual settings, like being aware of what is on your screen, and turning off screen sharing for others. Let’s face it — whether it’s confidential documents relating to a clergy transition, emails from unpopular former parishioners, or photos from someone’s college days, there’s plenty out there that isn’t x-rated, yet still not appropriate for widespread dissemination.

Most telling though is Sarah’s comment that all community rules about how we talk and interact with each other apply online. That begs the question: What are those rules at Grace Church?

To start with, there are no written guidelines within the parish. That dearth of written guidance means we are left to look at de facto guidelines in the form of mores and social norms. That’s where things get really ugly — and we can see just how ugly by looking at real-life examples of conversations and behavior that I’ve observed within Grace Church. These include:
  • Gossip about one parishioner’s alleged penile implant. Seriously—you can’t make this stuff up.
  • Conversation about how one recently married parishioner allegedly is secretly gay or bisexual.
  • Aggressive conduct by one single female parishioner, including attempting to push married men up against the wall and kissing them after having too much to drink.
  • Rumors and conversations about affairs among married parishioners.
  • Discussions about Bob and Leslie Malm’s legendarily noisy verbal altercations (yes, I get that clergy are always the subject of conversation, but do I really need to know about this? Bob can behave badly enough within the church that I don’t particularly want to know the specifics of his conduct at home. But hey, to use his phrase, his is a “close” family.) 
  • Written statements by Sugarland Chiow in public court documents claiming that I am a “domestic terrorist,” a “serial liar,” that I never was licensed as an attorney, and referencing a fictional church shooting in a non-existent town in Texas.
  • The ugly conduct of Alison “Bullying for Jesus” Campbell, Lisa “Princess Porcine” Medley and other purported parish leaders.
  • Bullying within the altar guild and choir and among church staff.
  • A member of Lisa Medley’s family urging me in writing to commit suicide.
Of course, in all of this perjuring priest Bob Malm has consistently turned a blind eye to misconduct in the parish and engaged in a certain amount of it himself. For example, one only has to look at perjuring priest Bob Malm’s references to me as “sick,” “twisted,” and “dysfunctional” to realize just how screwed up Grace Church is, and how bogus Bob’s claims are when it comes to professing to be a Christian.

Nor is the diocese any better. As I have noted many times, the diocese not only refers to these issues in writing as “not of weighty and material importance to the ministry of the church,” but it even has gone so far as to say that Bob Malm’s perjury is okay on the grounds that he hasn’t faced criminal charges. And that comes from Bishop Susan Goff, the Rev. Sven vanBaars (now a delegate to GC) and the Rev. Melissa Hollerith (laughably enough, ethics instructor at St. Albans and wife of Randy Hollerith, the Dean of the National Cathedral). 

Even ++Michael Curry has direct knowledge of the allegations involving Bob Malm, yet does nothing. 

So, it’s fair to say that even at its highest echelons, The Episcopal Church is morally bankrupt and utterly broken. 

Thus, if you are concerned about making the world a better, more humane and loving place, you should avoid The Episcopal Church, Grace Church, and their toxic behavior.


Wednesday, May 6, 2020

Theft: Another Reason to Steer Clear of Grace Episcopal Alexandria


As if there weren’t plenty of other reasons to avoid Grace Episcopal in Alexandria, there’s one specific matter that gives cause for concern and that is theft within the church. While not an every day thing, there are enough issues to warrant asking the question, “What does this tell me about the parish?”

Several years ago, Bob Malm discovered that a young parishioner with access to his sister’s keys had entered locked rooms within the school and stolen a number of laptops. Nothing really came of the matter, except that the laptops were locked in a closet keyed differently than other doors in the building. No felony charges, no being told to find a new church—the latter only happened under perjuring priest Bob Malm for the crime of lèse-majesté, or giving offense to His Malmness. Yup, offend Bob, and you will get voted off Planet Malm. And don’t think we’re talking about a vote of the vestry or something similar — we’re talking imperial fiat involving only Bob Malm.

Nor is that the only time theft has occurred at the church.

As a confirmed foodie, on several occasions I donated high-end kitchen linens, cookware, and food items for use in the second- and third-floor kitchens, only to discover that the items disappeared in short order, never to return. 

None of the items cost thousands of dollars, so it’s not like I lost sleep over these thefts. But stealing is stealing, and the fact that this sort of thing happened multiple times in the parish is disconcerting and disappointing.

In short, this conduct speaks volumes to the real values and mores of the parish. What it says is not good.

Tuesday, May 5, 2020

Episcopal Cafe Confirms the Risks of Communal Singing During Pandemic



I’ve posted several times about the fact that perjuring priest Bob Malm continues his feckless indifference to the welfare of his parish due to his continued use of a choir during Sunday services, including the lack of social distancing evinced in St. Gabriel’s Vimeo feed.

Today, the risk has been confirmed by Episcopal Cafe.

In a piece written by John Chilton, the blog confirms that singing in a communal setting is a highly risky activity.

So the question becomes, “Will perjuring priest Bob Malm take things seriously and act to protect his parishioners?”

If history is any indicator — or Bob’s repeated instances of dabbing at his runny nose with a handkerchief while celebrating Mass provide a hint — the answer is hell no.

Monday, May 4, 2020

Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Continues to Place Church Members at Risk of COVID-19

You have to hand it to perjuring priest Bob Malm. Not only is he reckless and indifferent when it comes to the obligations of being clergy, but he is remarkably stubborn—an ugly combination in the best of times.

Now, in the midst of a global pandemic, perjuring priest Bob Malm continues to ignore basic precautions to prevent the transmission of the virus. These measures include not touching one’s face or nose and washing one’s hands before and after if one absolutely must do so. Even more important is recognizing that singing in a choir is considered a “super-spreader” event, which aerosolizes respiratory droplets, thus making participation in a church choir highly risky.

In the attached screen cap from perjuring priest Bob Malm’s May 3rd service at St. Gabriel’s Marion Massachusetts, we see Bob yet again wiping his nose with a handkerchief, with no before or after sanitation. As a result, he places himself at risk, while contaminating vestments, altar linens, his wireless microphone and everything else he touches with any bacterial or viral cultures present.

Even more worrisome, choir members are much less than 6 feet apart. Ideally, there should be no choir members present, but if that is a necessity, they should be spread as far apart as possible throughout the nave. Not only does that not happen, but everyone at the room is considered high risk due to age.

So, my message to St. Gabriel’s is this: If you take nothing else from this blog, please be aware that if you are participating in Sunday services during the lockdown you are placing yourself, your church, your loved ones, and your community at risk. While you no doubt are well-intentioned, love of others requires that you do all you can to prevent the spread of the pandemic.

To learn more about the risks of airborne transmission during the pandemic, see https://www.crimeonline.com/2020/03/30/2-dead-45-people-infected-afte-choir-holds-practice-amid-coronavirus-pandemic/
Perjuring priest Bob Malm places church members at risk of COVID-19

Sunday, May 3, 2020

Why Grace’s Transition is Doomed to Fail

Grace Church has a problem. Not just one problem, but one really big problem. Specifically, the interim/transition process is not going to succeed.

To be fair, there are some incremental improvements under Michael Guy. But long-term success simply isn’t going to happen.

The problem is that Grace Church is an isolated system. Yes, it has some external interfaces with the diocese, but those are limited to information that flows through Michael Guy and the vestry. And that information is filtered via a constant, which is the family system in the parish.

What does that mean in practice? 

Primarily that the parish survey and other data obtained during the transition process reflects only the views of those who have stayed throughout Bob Malm’s reign of feckless, narcissistic indifference. Thus, survey results are inherently skewed towards those who think Grace Church is wonderful, or at least tolerable. That omits the experiences of the dozens of people who have left the parish in recent years. the loss of 1/3 of its pledging units, and the breach of trust evinced by Bob Malm’s decision to try to drag a dying woman into court, his perjury, his lies, his smear campaigns and more. And even otherwise sensible individuals either turn a blind eye to these issues, or actively provide support. 

Consider: Sugarland Chiow and his family remain members of the church and attend regularly, despite his written claims that the church is the victim of “domestic terrorism.” What kind of husband or parent exposes his wife and children to a situation that he claims involves “domestic terrorism?” One has to wonder.

Thus, as a closed system, members perpetuate the notion that all is well at Grace Church and resoundingly reject anyone who says otherwise. Anyone who disagrees gets tagged as “dysfunctional,” which is Bob Malm’s not-so-Christian label for anyone who disagrees with him. And folks like Jean Reed, Kemp Williams, and Kelly Gable feel free to wade in with their gossip and speculation — but never with any concern for the person they claim is “dysfunctional.” In short, Grace is a goofy loop of narcissistic self-ratification with no external reference point.

Nor will the diocese be of any help. It refuses to address the problems in the parish, and adamantly refuses to tell the truth, even going so far as to trot out the specious argument that Bob Malm is not perjurer on the grounds that he hasn’t been convicted. I guess the same logic applies to sexual misconduct: Clergy cannot, for example, be child molesters unless they have been convicted. After all, molesting children is illegal, right?\

The sad reality is that Grace Church needs truthtelling. It needs to see itself as others see it. It needs to understand that bullying, hateful comments, mobbing, gossip (the speculation about married men in the parish being gay is particularly ugly), and more are neither normal nor acceptable in a healthy church.

So how will the church gain perspective? A good start is being going outside the church’s closed system and surveying the world outside its doors. What do school staff think about the church? Former members? Members of other parishes? Church members in other denominations? What would former members say if asked why they left? What are their thoughts on how the church responds to conflict? Such data should be requested both via the website and in-person listening sessions.

(I’ll give you a hint: It is entirely inappropriate for clergy to try to label people who disagree with them as “dysfunctional”. It’s even more inappropriate to make those statements in emails to diocesan officials. And still more inappropriate for Shannon “Two-Faced” Johnston to accept these sorts of communications from clergy. See below.)



Much of the feedback that would come in would be unsettling. Some would be downright ugly, as it reflects Bob’s ugly conduct. But as Bob Malm said in his communication to the Grace vestry, when he disseminated his facially untruthful “talking points,” “You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.” 

As things stand, Grace Church, its leadership and the diocese are wedded to Bob Malm’s perjury and other misconduct. As such, they are imprisoned by the toxic legacy of Bob Malm.


Saturday, May 2, 2020

Looking for Jesus? You Won’t Find Him in the Discourse at Grace Church

As Grace Church prepares for Dysfunctional Bob’s departure and the arrival of an interim rector, one thing is painfully clear: Any interim brave enough (or perhaps foolish enough) to take the position has her work cut out for her. Specifically, after 30 years of Dysfunctional Bob and his sordid example, the way people in the church talk about each other, and to each other, is appalling.

To be sure, it took me a long time to spot this issue myself. Indeed, it was a member of the Grace Episcopal School staff, herself Episcopal, who pointed it out to me in 2014. Her exact words: “I would never belong to your church, and it’s because of the way people talk to each other. And it goes right to the top. And I’ll tell you right now, Bob will never say anything about it. And because he engages in a certain amount of it himself, he shows people that it’s alright.”

At the time, I foolishly came to Bob’s defense; it was more than a year later before I finally realized that she was absolutely correct.

Now, with the advantage of hindsight, and having seen firsthand that Dysfunctional Bob is morally bankrupt and a perjurer as well, I realize that this ugly discourse does indeed permeate every aspect of Grace Church. Whether it’s Alison Campbell and her fun and games with the altar guild; Lisa Medley and her bullying/bitchy behavior; Teresa Preston and her gestures that indicate she believes I’m mentally ill; Eric Waskowiscz, Amy Medrick and others with their one-gun salutes to Jesus, or Bob Malm in his emails to the vestry and the diocese, there is a profoundly un-Christian attitude within the church that comes to the surface when parishioners talk to each other.

Before we go further, I am not the only one to notice it. Kyle Babin, himself the target of bullying by choir members, called it an “evil spirit” at Grace Church.  Former member John Cunningham posted to Facebook, saying he left the parish due to bullying and other abusive conduct (screen cap below).



Additionally, folks at the Wartburg Watch commented on ugly comments from Lisa Medley and Leslie Malm; the former didn’t even have the courage to post under her name. Their comment: “[these parishioners] seem sane to themselves, they seem immature and hateful to outsiders looking at their behavior.” (Screen cap below)


Going right to the top, we have Dysfunctional Bob’s email to the vestry, in which he describes me as a “sad individual...starving for attention.” While this is an interesting bit of projection from Bob Malm, who regularly curries adulation in order to support his shaky sense of self, the fact the he feels comfortable talking about a former parishioner to the vestry in this manner is telling and illustrates the church culture that Bob has promoted during his 30 years with the parish. (Screen cap below.)




Of course, there also is the comment from a college-aged member of Lisa Medley’s family, in which she urges me to commit suicide. (Screen cap below.)


So what can an interim do to address this situation? Establishing written norms would be helpful, but unpacking and fixing 30 years’ of Dysfunctional Bob’s toxic behavior and lessons learned within the parish about conflict resolution will probably take professional intervention. Even then, it’s an uphill battle, and both the diocese and church members like to sweep such issues under the rug and deny that an issue exists. Indeed, toxic parishioners like Lisa Medley not only deny that an issue exists, but also attack anyone who raises these issues. (Screen cap below.)



It should also be noted that Dee Parsons, publisher of the Wartburg Watch, herself experienced Bob Malm’s efforts at bullying and manipulating her. First, Bob tried the noisy bluster approach, which didn’t work at all. Then he tried flattery. Then he tried manipulation, claiming that Dee had promised to take down any posts about me, all the while ignoring Dee’s recommendation to work towards reconciliation.

As one looks at other correspondence from within the parish, including Jean Reed’s speculation that I am mentally ill, as well as former friend Kemp Williams comments, one reaches the same conclusion that user Ishy, a commenter on the Wartburg Watch, came to as she asked church members:

“What kind of Christians are you? I don’t see any love or concern for Eric in your posts. I don’t see that you tried to do anything about it other than make sure Eric couldn’t come back either. (Emphasis added. Original in screen cap above.)

That conclusion holds true for Bishop Susan Goff on down to the Grace Church vestry and membership. Nowhere is there any evidence of any real concern including for Mike and my other family members hurt by Bob Malm’s conduct, and that of the church. 

So, if you are a prospective interim and you are reading this, just know that if you take the job you are going to have one toxic mess on your hands, and one that requires professional outside intervention.

On the other hand, if you are a church leader reading this and contemplating hiring Bob Malm as supply clergy, you should know that this is part of the baggage that comes with Bob Malm. Caveat emptor.

Lastly, if you are a prospective member, it is important to know that right behind the beautiful, friendly exterior, this is the sort of internal rot that runs rampant at Grace Church. If you join the parish, this is part of the package deal. To quote Proverbs, “in the tongue is the power of life and death.”

Grace Church is just plain bad karma.




See for Yourself: My Email to Grace Church After it Again Uses My Photo Without Authorization

In Virginia, unlike other jurisdictions, the courts recognize only a very limited right to privacy, which covers use of one’s photo or name for advertising or marketing purposes. With that in mind, and in light of Grace Church’s appalling conduct over the past several years, in 2015 I asked Bob Malm in writing not to use my image in any church publications. Unfortunately, in the May edition of Grace Notes, a photo of me from 2014 appears, standing right behind Lucy Lee Reed.

For the record, I adore Lucy Lee. She is a good people and has an amazing work ethic—not to mention makes wonderful salmon! But I don’t want anyone to get the idea that I implicitly or in any other way support or condone Grace Church, the diocese, or the larger Episcopal church.

Here is the photo:



And here is my email, sent to Anne Caputo, Paul Bellantoni, parish clergy, June Huber, and the church’s attorney.



Of course, given the church’s claims in writing, made via Sugarland Chiow, that I am a “domestic terrorist,” one has to wonder who thought including my photo was a great idea.

Hopefully this is the last time the issue comes up. But if it comes up again, Grace Church and I will be locking horns in court.

Thursday, April 30, 2020

Roslyn Retreat Center Closes for Remainder of 2020

The Roslyn Retreat Center, one of two retreat centers owned and operated by the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, today announced that it is furloughing employees and closing for the remainder of 2020. The move is in response to the COVID-19 pandemic.

Per remarks for Bishop Susan “It’s Not Misconduct if there are No Criminal Charges” Goff, the news was first relayed to staff at Shrine Mont, which is still debating how best to respond to the pandemic. Curiously, Shrine Mont is currently saying that it will open for the season in late May — prior to the lifting of the governor’s lockdown, and well before the pandemic is predicted to peak in the state.

In Roslyn’s case, news of the closure is not yet posted on the center’s website. I believe, however, in light of the denomination’s aging demographics and the fact that the CDC has deemed worship services and choir practices to be “super spreader” events, that the decision to close is appropriate.

The financial implications of the closures of diocesan-related organizations will be severe. While these organizations will have relatively limited carrying costs, especially with the furloughs, grounds maintenance and other structural expenses continue, regardless of whether they are open or closed. Moreover, while the diocese historically is relatively secretive about the details of its finances, it appears to derive several hundred thousand dollars a year in income from these facilities. That’s important at a time when the diocesan budget is declining on average more than 2% every year.

My guess is that Shine Mont also will close for the year, as there’s simply no way to safely move large groups through, particularly in light of the number of persons who share rooms, and the common dining facilities. But one way or another, the diocese faces some damned rocky times ahead.

Wednesday, April 29, 2020

BREAKING NEWS: Online Petition Seeking Investigation of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Passes 10,000 Supporters

Just moments ago, our online petition demanding that the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia investigate perjuring priest Bob Malm passed 10,000 signatures. The news comes despite a brief lull in signatures earlier this week.

Check it out!

Petition Demanding an Investigation of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Garners More than 10,000 Signatures!

Sunday, April 26, 2020

Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Wastes Time and Money, Announces He’s Taking Interim Training




At today’s service, perjuring priest Bob Malm, now interim rector at St. Gabriel’s Marion, announced that, during the coming week, he will be taking online interim training. The move is a waste of time and money for all involved.

Interim training is the formal education by which clergy learn how to serve as interims. Topics covered include how to help congregations come to terms with the past, how to vision the future, how to align with denominational norms, and more.

The problems with perjuring priest Bob Malm serving as an interim are myriad and touch on all these areas.

First, the timing underscores the lack of seriousness with which the diocese and parish are taking these issues. The average interim period runs for 12-16 months, often longer when a rector has been with a parish for an extended period of time. Now, seven months into this gig (no way I’m going to use the term “calling”), perjuring priest Bob Malm finally gets his training. That right there speaks volumes about the transition process in DioMass.

Second, my belief is that it would be difficult to find clergy less suited to interim ministry than perjuring priest Bob Malm. Between his narcissistic focus on self, to his confident but empty professions of faith, to his utter lack of personal integrity, to his disastrous tenure at Grace Episcopal, Bob has none of the attributes needed to help a parish transition successfully.

Third, Bishop Gates and the diocesan staff are largely responsible for this debacle. They are fully aware of the issues with perjuring priest Bob Malm, but seemingly have accepted the assurances coming from DioVA and perjuring priest Bob Malm himself that there’s nothing troubling about Bob’s conduct. That of course is like asking the fox who destroyed the hen house — one is highly unlikely to get an accurate answer.

That said, one need only look to the tone and tenor of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s correspondence with parish and diocesan officials, in which he refers to me as “sick,” “twisted,” and “dysfunctional,” or his weird claims that he’s threatened by “domestic terrorism,” to realize just how spectacularly ill-suited Bob is to the task. Then we come to the matter of his decision to try to drag a dying woman into court, which is irrefutable; and his perjury, which is readily ascertained simply by asking Bob to provide one scrap of evidence to support his claim that my mother, or someone claiming to be her, repeatedly set up appointments with him, only to cancel.

In ignoring these unambiguous warning signs, Gates’ conduct is akin to saying, “Yes, we knew there were allegations that Father X molested children, but we had assurances that these allegations were not true.” 

The reality is that perjury is a serious charge, and the fact that perjuring priest Bob Malm can continue to serve as a priest without any examination of the underlying issues makes clear that both the Episcopal Diocese of Massachusetts and DioVA are utterly corrupt, as are the bishops and staff of both.

Fourth and most importantly, no rector is going to be successful over time, nor the parish that he or she serves, when their entire ministry is a lie. Jesus came to lift up the poor, the oppressed, the outcast. Perjuring priest Bob Malm creates the oppressed, the outcast. In short, perjuring priest Bob Malm is the modern-day version of the very same Scribes and Pharisees against whom Jesus railed. 

Bottom line, hypocrisy can never serve as the basis for a healthy faith, nor can it result in a healthy church.

Thursday, April 23, 2020

Repost: See for Yourself: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm’s Original Request for a Protective Order Shows the Real Grace Church

This one is great. In it, we see perjuring priest Bob’s facially inadequate claims of threats,  which have, thus far, enjoyed Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s professional support. In addition, more of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s intimations of mental illness (including multiple personalities, a disorder closely associated with severe abuse), as well as his facially irrelevant letter from the bishop and his references to blogging. Note too that perjuring priest Bob Malm lies in his chronology about the meeting in Fredericksburg; at no time was there any discussion about “following the bishop’s guidance.” To the contrary, perjuring priest Bob Malm agreed to stop his bullying. It’s also noteworthy that perjuring priest Bob Malm lied in front of the bishop, falsely stating, “Having resigned from the vestry, you were no longer eligible to serve as a trustee.” To which I replied, “Why then, are none of your current trustees vestry members?” Perjuring priest Bob Malm had no response to that.

Check it out.

Meanwhile, as interim pastor Michael Guy talks about preaching the Gospel, this is how Grace Church preaches the gospel in real life. As in, “by their fruits you shall know them.”

Pastor Guy, welcome to Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish.


















See for Yourself What People are Saying About Perjuring Priest Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal Church

One of the things that’s very cool about change.org is that petition signers can include their reasons for signing.

Below are a few of the comments about perjuring priest Bob Malm and The Episcopal Church.

I particularly like the observation that it is situations like this that lead to young people leaving the church. It’s spot on and underscores why the diocese can hold visioning exercises all it wants, but until it puts its ethical house in order it’s going to face continuing decline. Yes, I get that Susan Goff and the other fat cats in Mayo House are following the advice of their attorneys who are telling them to avoid anything that might lead to liability, but it’s advice that actually hurts the church in the long haul.

Just as the Catholic church  played hardball for years over its abuse, but now faces accountability, so too will the day come when The Episcopal Church will be held accountable. Whether it’s via a court of law, or via members turning their backs on the church, the Episcopal Church cannot play these sorts of games and expect to survive into the 22nd century.






Wednesday, April 22, 2020

Demands that Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Be Held Accountable Strengthen as Online Petition Approaches 10,000 Signatures

Petition to Hold Perjruing Priest Bob Malm Accountable

Demands for accountability in the Episcopal Church grow, as my online petition approaches 10,000 signatures. That’s more than the membership of more than 50 church dioceses, and as many signatures as members in the newly re-admittted Diocese of Cuba. The petition demands the the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia conduct a full, fair, and impartial investigation into perjuring priest Bob Malm’s conduct, then act on the results.

The petition is located on change.org and can be found here.

Ironically, addressing Bob’s misconduct, which has brought disrepute on the entire Episcopal Church, is in the best interest of diocese and the larger church. But, as Rhett Butler said to Scarlett O’Hara, “How tightly we clutch the chains that bind us.” Indeed, the diocese and parish continue to try to defend their conduct in court, proving beyond a doubt that both are morally bankrupt. 

The efforts to justify and defend their conduct come, even as parishioners increasingly recognize that Grace Church is in dire trouble, having shed one-third of its pledging units in recent years. Indeed, loss of any further members will require that staff positions — some of the very few controllable costs still left to the parish — be eliminated. Moreover, the church is fast approaching the point where it’s simply no longer able to carrying its existing cost structure, and it must close its doors, offload the physical plant, or merge. 

Simply put, time is running out.

Meanwhile, clergy at the church continue to mislead people about the reality, which is that by and large we are already in the new normal. In other words, this isn’t a storm to be weathered:
  • The recession isn’t going away any time soon.
  •  Job loss will continue for the foreseeable future. 
  • A COVID-19 vaccine isn’t going to be available for at least a year.
So yes, at some point in-person services may resume. But many, especially those at elevated risk due to age and other factors, will continue to avoid attending services on a regular basis. It is also difficult to see how use of the common cup will continue. And changes in giving patterns are unlikely to change for the better.

It’s also worth noting that recent Grace Church publications are sloppy in their references to the current situation. Worship is NOT suspended. Repeat: Worship is NOT suspended. In-person worship is suspended, as was often the days of the early church when it faced persecution. Yet vague references to the suspension of worship in the diocese could well lead someone unfamiliar with the situation to conclude that worship is cancelled until June. Certainly not helpful, and clergy, staff, and volunteers alike need to edit carefully to avoid being sloppy in discussing this issue.

Perhaps when all is said and done, folks at the clergy perjury parish will learn to appreciate the church’s members, instead of concluding that they sit at the right hand of God the father to judge both the quick and the dead, and they can choose who is a member of the parish, and who is not. (Yup, I am talking about Lisa Medley, Alison Campbell, Jan Spence, several others, and the altar guild.)

But then, given the prevailing organizational narcissism, somehow I doubt it. 

In fact, members of Grace Church likely will continue to believe that it’s okay to urge others to commit suicide, to try to drag the dying into court, and for clergy like Bob Malm to commit perjury. After all, the diocese says all of these things are okay, so why should members not follow Susan Goff’s lead?


Tuesday, April 21, 2020

Vienna Presbyterian’s Response to Abuse Markedly Different from that of Susan Goff, DioVA


Some years ago, Vienna Presbyterian faced a scandal involving its youth minister, who allegedly had abused young women in the church. As it struggled to deal with the crisis, the church took an approach profoundly different than that of the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia and Bishop Susan “Perjury’s Okay” Goff.

Shortly after news of the scandal broke, the church received the following directive from its insurance carrier:
“Do not make any statements, orally, in writing or in any manner, to acknowledge, admit to or apologize for anything that may be evidence of or interpreted as (a suggestion that) the actions of Vienna Presbyterian Church ... caused or contributed to any damages arising from the intentional acts/abuse/misconduct” by the youth director.”
The church declined to follow the attorney’s advice, with its board saying in a letter to the church, “Members of Staff and of Session are profoundly sorry that VPC’s response after the abuse was discovered was not always helpful to those entrusted to our care.”

Similarly, Pastor Peter James said in a sermon, “We won’t hide behind lawyers ... Jesus said the truth will set us free.”

Ironically, Bob Malm, in an email to the church vestry, which included his talking points that falsely stated that Mike and I left the church on our own and that our claims were untrue, cited the same Biblical verse, noting that it is “itched” in the church’s rose window.

Today, of course, Grace Church, Susan Goff, and the Diocese continue to try to defend their conduct in court, including their claim that Bob Malm’s perjury is not actionable as a disciplinary matter unless he faces criminal charges.

And that is exactly why the Episcopal Church is nearing its end—with few exceptions, it has lost all claim to moral legitimacy. Instead, it’s all about power, control, and ownership of assets.





Monday, April 20, 2020

Grace Church Posts Parish Administrator Job Description




Before we go further, let me say this upfront: As someone who is perhaps the most vociferous critic of Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, particularly during the final years of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s reign, I like much what I see coming out of the parish. That will come as a surprise to many, but fair is fair.

In that vein, the church recently posted the parish administrator job position  and it contains promising signs. Among these is the fact that the job description (JD) emphasizes equally the “soft skills” of integrity, dependability, and interpersonal skills, versus the technical skills required for the position.

Seemingly gone are the days when church staff could, with Bob Malm’s tacit and express support, yell at church members, curse them, lie about them, and more. Of course, none of that behavior should come as a surprise at a church where the diocese, bishops, vestry, and parish membership supported perjuring priest Bob Malm and his toxic behavior.

In recent years, things got a little better, but Amy “Middle Finger” Medrick certainly was no slice of paradise. Whether it was her falsely opining on what constitutes active church membership in contravention of church canons, her involvement in Bob Malm’s bullying, or flipping off protestors, Amy was a prime example of all that is wrong with Grace Church. That said, she did clean up the office and finally put in place a useful church management application. That stands in marked contrast with the Charlie Foxtrot that was the system used by Beth Wiggers and Charlotte Payne Wright. And Amy did manage to avoid some of the extremes of behavior that led to the current meltdown.

It’s also true that the church still has not wrapped its arms around facilities management. In light of Amy’s experience in affordable housing, she certainly was more than capable of doing better in this area. Yet despite the replacement of the HVAC systems, the church is reverting to type when it comes to preventive maintenance, which is to ignore emerging issues in favor of deferred — and inherently more costly — maintenance.

It’s also worth noting that the parish’s decision-making processes likely remain flawed. For example, the decision to run the HVAC system after the rupture of the underground line between the church and Merrow Hall was a debacle — yet one that few if any in the church recognize. Specifically, despite express warnings to the contrary, the church ran the system without flushing the lines, resulting in the accelerated failure of several air handlers and other pieces of equipment. Had the church been more prudent, it probably could have managed a couple more years with the incumbent system. 

That underscores a key point, which is that despite years of warnings, the church still has no replacement reserve study, and thus no meaningful plan to address capital expenditures, or capex. As a result, the church remains awash in an endless sea of reactive responses to its facilities issues. Nor have the half-measure steps taken by the property committee, which include identifying and estimating upcoming expenses, made any difference, for the church saves nothing from its operating budget for future capex. That’s really stupid, as it is virtually a given that the place will be much smaller in 10 years. Yet even as recently as 2014 the church was handing out $100K bonuses to perjuring priest Bob Malm — with the Princess Porcine, aka Lisa Medley, urging the vestry to give Bob $200K! (My guess is that the Princess Porcine doesn’t understand the concept of “private inurement. But then, she’s not the sharpest tool in the shed.)

On a positive note, the JD’s inclusion of social media is promising. Over the years, numerous folks have offered to help the church in this area, including my buddy Dee Parsons, who is known around the world for her work on abusive churches, including coverage of Grace Church and perjuring priest Bob Malm. True to form, Bob Malm ignored Dee’s offer, which is a shame. It’s a shame because folks at Grace don’t realize that announcements online are counterproductive —as in “the most recent sermon is available here.” If that’s your idea of social media, please do all involved a favor and stay off social media. Indeed, to the extent that parishioners like Leslie “Hambeast” Malm and Lisa “Princess Porcine” Medley — and their family members — have tried to wade into that space, the results have been nothing short of disastrous for the church. Yet many in the church have been too clueless to see this.

Ironically, while he is clueless as to social media and technology issues, perjuring priest Bob Malm, with his attention to superficial impressions, most clearly understood the problems the church has faced online. The church’s reputation is profoundly damaged, as is that of the diocese and the Episcopal Church, and that damage is getting worse over time. 

Of course, Bob’s efforts to perjure his way to victory on this front simply made things hundreds of times worse for the church. And the efforts to defend its conduct in court simply tell the world at large that Grace remains mired in its own ethical filth.

At least in the JD folks didn’t pull a Jason Roberson and claim that the place is “growing and flourishing.” It is neither, and to claim otherwise, to put it generously, is misleading. Indeed, at a time when the area population has grown by more than 13 percent over the past ten years Grace is barely managing to hold on. And from 2015 to 2018 alone, the parish lost almost exactly $100,000 of purchasing power. If that is Jason’s idea of growth, I’d like to see what he believes decline looks like.

And turning this situation around is going to require a willingness to take a fresh look at every aspect of the church, including how people interact with each other.

Sunday, April 19, 2020

Sugarland Chiow, Perjuring Priest Bob Malm, and Organizational Integrity





One of the interesting things about all churches is that they purport to be purveyors of truth in some form. Yet one only has to look at the personal and organizational narcissism at Grace Church, particularly apropos Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow and perjuring priest Bob Malm, to realize how far from reality that claim is.

In Sugarland’s case, at one point he complained to defense counsel that I was allegedly “impugning [his] integrity. Yet one only has to look at his:
  • Efforts to drag a dying woman into court
  • Far-fetched claims of “domestic terrorism”
  • Ad hominem attacks
  • Inflammatory rhetoric
  • Many fabrications, including a mythical church shooting in the fictional town of “Sugarland” 
  • Multiple misstatements of law and fact to the courts.
To see firsthand that one need not “impugne” Sugarland’s integrity. His actions speak more loudly and clearly than I ever could. Or, to use the legal phrase, “res ipsa loquitor” — “the thing speaks for itself.”

Similarly, Bob Malm was fully involved in all of these actions, and personally signed many. He also repeatedly perjured himself in his written statements made under oath, during discovery, including his claim that his wife Leslie was the only person whom he knew had blogged about the matter, and his famous lie that my mother, or someone claiming to be her, had contacted him repeatedly to set up appointments.

These actions enjoy the full support of Grace’s vestry, its clergy, and the diocese to this day. Indeed, the church continues to try to defend its actions in court.

So, the Episcopal Church is dying, and rightly so. It is dying of its own internal rot and unethical behavior.

Meanwhile, Susan Goff and others revert to the same old Jesus-speak and church babble, assuring clergy that they need to take time for themselves, to care for themselves, and that the bishops will have clergy’s backs if anyone suggests otherwise. This denies the reality that, for many church members, life is hard, with job loss, or long hours for those who retain jobs. Some haven’t had vacations in years, and the long hours they devote to the church are over and above very long days at work.

Similarly, Sugarland would do the church a favor if he were to publicly acknowledge his actions, apologize to the parish, and transfer to another church. That way, the parish could begin the lengthy process of rebuilding following 30 years of perjuring priest Bob Malm and his selfish, childish behavior and all the problems that spun off from that.

In short, the church needs to get over the empty clericalism that empowers the Bob Malm’s of the world, and the unethical sycophants like Sugarland who hang onto them. 

If it does not, the Episcopal church will be gone within the lifetimes of many. And the Susan Goff’s of the world need to recognize that it is not business as usual.

Friday, April 17, 2020

Grace Episcopal Pays Perjuring Priest Bob Malm $100,000 Bonus

Thinking about donating to Grace Episcopal?

If so, keep in mind this is a church that not only approves of clergy perjury and dragging the dying into court, it paid perjuring priest Bob Malm a $100,000 bonus in 2014.

When was the last time YOU got a $100,000 bonus? 

Keep in mind that this equals roughly 10% of annual revenue, and went to a priest who got 1 out of every 5 dollars given to the church.

Do yourself a favor and keep your money. Or use it for something ethically relevant, like helping the homeless or educating others. Don’t give to support the clergy perjury parish.




Thursday, April 16, 2020

More Evidence of the Hypocrisy of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm

One of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s least attractive qualities is his tendency to tell people what he thinks they want to hear, even when it’s not true. And this appears to be starting anew at St. Gabriel’s in Marion, Mass., where perjuring priest Bob Malm serves as interim rector.

In a local news story covering the effect of COVID-19 churches in his area, perjuring priest Bob Malm says:


That is inconsistent with his behavior as rector of Grace Church, where Bob didn’t even bother to meet regularly with church wardens. Even when, as in my case, they had his back while he was out on disability. Yet Bob never failed to get in his month at the beach, his junkets “out of town,” his week off for the Boston Marathon, and more. Indeed, Bob traveled to Massachusetts twice, and to Georgia once, while still collecting disability in 2014. Too sick to come to work, but not too sick to travel more than 3,528 miles by car and to spend six weeks at the beach.

Nor did Bob make any greater effort during his final year as rector. Indeed, like many narcissists, Bob tried to manage perceptions on the way out the door by volunteering just how feckless he had been, saying:


And given that Grace church, like most churches, pretty much recycles the same vestry members over time, this is a stunning admission.

But then, given that hanging with perjuring priest Bob Malm is not exactly a slice of paradise, perhaps the folks at St. Gabriel’s should count themselves lucky.


Tuesday, April 14, 2020

BREAKING NEWS: Class Action Lawsuit Against Liberty University Spells Bad News For Grace School

Adam Levitt, attorney suing Liberty University
Grace Episcopal School, which Lisa “Princess Porcine” Medley refers to as “our day school” to the great angst of school staff, faces potential bad news. Specifically, an unnamed plaintiff has filed a class-action lawsuit in Lynchburg federal court against Liberty University, alleging that it has improperly retained tuition after cancelling classes and ostensibly moving them online.

Much like Liberty University, Grace School has said it will retain tuition, despite the fact that it has slapped together “distance learning” in response to COVID-19 related social distancing.

The problem, of course, is that online learning is a poor substitute for the experience that Grace School offers. Many parents pay upwards of $20,000 a year for the small class sizes, warm environment and personal attention that the school provides. A hastily thrown together online experience is a mediocre substitute, and one that in fairness warrants a large refund. That is particularly the case when, as here, some economists say we are moving into a full-blown depression.

Some major colleges and universities, including Harvard, promptly offered prorated refunds in response to the pandemic. Others, including several large state schools, are facing class action lawsuits for their failure to do so.

In the Liberty Uvinersity case, the plaintiffs note that Liberty’s failure to refund tuition and attempt to profit from the COVID-19 pandemic are particularly inappropriate in light of the school’s professed values. And such is the case with Grace Episcopal School, where Patti Culbreth now wants parents in some cases to pay more than 20K a year for the privilege of implementing the school’s distance learning plans.

In its defense, Liberty University asserts that its actions were mandated by government, and thus the plaintiffs have no case. But the school has violated the both the letter and the spirit of the state social distancing regulations, including trying to charge reporters on campus covering the issue with trespassing. Moreover, it is unlikely that the state intended to unjustly enrich organizations such as Liberty.

Those attending schools that refuse to refund tuition can reach Adam Levitt, counsel for the plaintiffs, via email at alevitt@dicellolevitt.com. Levitts’s phone number is (312) 214-7900, and his offices are located at Ten North Dearborn Street, Eleventh Floor, Chicago, Illinois 60602.

I would add that the school’s proximity to the Pentagon and DC, and the experiences of 9/11, should have led it to develop distance learning contingency plans long ago. The need for a plan B is, in the overall scheme of things, neither unexpected nor surprising.

Here’s How Grace Church Uses Its Pledge Income

One day in 2013, as I was doing repair work in the undercroft, I noticed that the window sills in the vesting rooms were dirty. Not just a little dirty—disgustingly, filthy dirty. As in not cleaned for several years. Layers of dead flies, dust, and pieces of cut grass that had been blown through the increasingly decrepit windows by the lawn mowers, together with water stains and more.

I took the following photo and sent it to Bob Malm by email, asking who was responsible for cleaning the vesting rooms. (Given that the parish has a paid sexton, one would think he would do it. But then, having caught him sleeping in the building on one occasion, and having been unable to locate him in the building on other occasions when he was supposedly working, that may be an unwarranted assumption.)

Predictably, Bob didn’t bother to respond.

So I asked parish administrator Charlotte Payne Wright who is responsible for cleaning the vesting rooms. Her telling response, “I’m not sure anyone is.”

The upshot is no one knew or cared. And yet Bob Malm subsequently claimed in writing that “no one at Grace is shirking their responsibilities,” despite the fact that it clearly had been at least four and a half years since anyone had bothered to clean the vesting rooms, as evinced by the date of the bulletin from the Great Vigil of Easter.

That begs the question: What does this utter indifference to the care of the physical plant suggest to members? To visitors? What does it say about the role of the building in divine worship? About stewardship of the money and resources entrusted to the church?

And what does Bob Malm’s non-response and claims that he actually was doing his job say about him? About the vestry? Does this sort of conduct warrant a $200,000 annual compensation package and a 2014 annual bonus of $100,000?

Nor is this the only example of ignoring basic standards of cleanliness and maintenance. Indeed, such examples are myriad. And in another instance, when I brought up similar issues, Bob’s response was, “I have neither the time nor the interest.”

Given Bob’s annual month at the beach, his week for the Boston Marathon, and his many trips “out of town,” I have no doubt perjuring priest Bob Malm was telling the truth when he said he didn’t have the time, and he clearly had zero interest.

This sort of feckless leadership and the fact that it was acceptable for so many years at Grace Church surely is worth keeping in mind if you are considering getting involved in the church, or making a pledge to the church.

Caveat emptor!

Filth in the vesting rooms, left untouched for 4.5 years.

Saturday, April 11, 2020

Happy Easter from Grace Episcopal!

God’s Grace for All!

Here at Grace Episcopal, just like Bob Malm, you can lie to parishioners, bully the dying, misuse memorial funds, lie to your vestry, gossip about others, and more. And you can celebrate it all by getting blind drunk at Shrine Mont! 

Happy Easter.


Looking at this Conflict, by the Numbers



As of this writing, our online petition has 7,723 signers. Here are some data to put that number in perspective:
  • Based on the most recent data available, signatures equal 36.67% of the diocese of Virginia’s average Sunday attendance.
  • Using the same statistics, which are provided by the national church, signatures equal 11.21% of total diocesan membership.
Similarly, this blog has been seen 150,780 times as of today. That’s 118.83 percent of total diocesan membership.

Social media hits, at well over 2 million, exceed total membership in the Episcopal Church by at least 9 percent.

Of course, egged on by perjuring priest Bob Malm and his narrative, folks at Grace Church ranging from Teresa Preston, to Kemp Williams, to Eric Waskowiscz, to the Princess Porcine Lisa Medley, to Amy “Middle Finger” Medrick do everything from suggest that I’m mentally ill, to making obscene gestures.

But no one has yet to show me a single shred of evidence to support Bob Malm’s perjurious claim that Mom, or someone claiming to be her, contacted him repeatedly and no-showed. Nor has anyone at Grace Church explained how their conduct comports with their professed beliefs, including the part in the baptismal covenant that talks about “respecting the dignity of every human being.”

So Malm can gas on all he wants about how Jesus came to show us a new way to love, but as Jesus himself said, “By their fruits you shall know them.”

My view is that if this is their faith in action, folks in The Episcopal Church can keep it. No thanks.

In the meantime, people need to know this is how Grace Church, perjuring priest Bob Malm, and The Episcopal Church roll.

Caveat emptor!

The Decline of The Episcopal Church

Friday, April 10, 2020

Change.Org Petition Seen Almost 170,000 Times, Spells Further Bad News for the Parish and Denomination

You really have to hand it to The Episcopal Church. At a time when all indicators suggest the denomination is dying, it clings tenaciously to its perceived prerogatives. That includes its utter commitment to ignoring Bob Malm’s perjury.

As a result, well over a million people have seen social media posts, ads, and more, including my online petition on change.org. Apropos the latter, almost 170,000 people have seen the petition. That’s particularly problematic for the church, because change.org holds enormous traction among young people, particularly those with more liberal/inclusive views. In short, Bob’s conduct is eroding the very future of a church that as it stands, at last count had just 1,676,349 members, making it the fourteenth largest denomination in the US. And except for the PCUSA, it has the fastest rate of decline.

And before some imbecile like Sugarland Chiow comes along carrying on about how I should stop sharing my observations about the church, let me be clear: It is Bob Malm’s misconduct, that of the vestry, and that of the diocese that is causing these problems. In fact, in 2015, the parish, speaking through Jeff Chiow, refused my offer to settle things in exchange for nothing more than Bob Malm’s written commitment to stop his shunning and bullying. 

Having done so, perjuring priest Bob Malm, Sugarland Chiow, the parish and the diocese need to live with the results of their decision.