Monday, November 25, 2019

Grace Episcopal, the Clergy Perjury Parish



Response: Why Does the Diocese Defend Bob Malm and His Perjury?

The Episcopal Diocese of Virginia: Mad Men Revisited

Someone recently asked me why the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia continues to defend Bob Malm, his perjury, and Grace Episcopal’s attempts to game the legal system. Of course, only the diocese knows for sure, but I believe I know why.

In large measure, it’s the same paradigm, I believe, as led diocesan officials to support Bishop Bruno, despite clear evidence he’d behaved badly on multiple occasions. Specifically, trust in people known to the diocese, combined with arrogance, complacency, and a psychological paradigm in which questioning one’s preconceived notions intertwines with fear of questioning one’s faith. On top of that, there’s evidence to suggest that diocesan chancellor, JP Causey, gives folks bad legal advice, in which he urges diocesan officials to take a hands-off approach in order to minimize potential liability, despite canonical requirements to the contrary and larger ethical issues. And there’s the gut instinct to protect the institution at all costs, even when doing so actually results in lasting damage.

Of course, it is this same confluence of factors that leads churches to ignore sexual abuse. The Catholic church has been handling issues this way for decades, with predictably disastrous results. And the church adheres to a Madmen-era definition of abuse: Unless it involves children or sex, it doesn’t count.

At the same time, the one thing that can be said for the vestry at Grace church and the diocese is that Christianity has nothing to do with their conduct. Even a rudimentary review of the evidence would make clear that Bob Malm misused the legal system, lied to the courts, and committed perjury during discovery. But the diocese doesn’t want to go there, as doing so would uncover these inconvenient truths. And parishioners continue with their laughable, “Bob Malm wouldn’t do that,” routine.

In short, no matter how things play out in court, it’s important to realize that this situation illustrates a larger truth, which is that there is simply nothing Christian about the diocese of Virginia or its officials. Yes, there are churches in the diocese that do hold to a real faith, but they face profound challenges when they send money to an utterly broken and corrupt diocese.

So, if you are looking for real Christian faith, my advice is to look elsewhere. Otherwise, you may wind up wasting a lot of time, money and energy on an utterly illusory situation.

Sunday, November 24, 2019

Victims of Abuse Beware: Sven vanBaars Elected as Clergy Delegate




Well, it is official: The Episcopal Diocese of Virginia is morally bankrupt. Specifically, the Rev. Sven vanBaars, rector of the Abingdon parish and ethically challenged Title IV intake officer for the diocese, has been elected a clergy delegate to general convention.

Why do I say that vanBaars is morally bankrupt? Because he has said, in writing, that he will only address illegal clergy conduct if criminal charges are brought.

That’s right. Assuming he has the integrity to be consistent with his reasoning in the Bob Malm case, clergy sexual abuse, theft, homicide—you name it—all are okay as long as criminal charges aren’t brought. No investigation required.

The truly scary thing is that vanBaars serves on the diocesan committee on constitution and canons. That’s alongside diocesan chancellor JP Causey who, while respected by the CANA crowd, is so indifferent to the well-being of church members that he allegedly tells the bishops to ignore the canonical requirement of a pastoral response in Title IV cases. Damn the canons—protect the bureaucracy at all costs. Don’t get too involved, lest you place yourself at legal risk.

That’s a shame, for when you lose sight of the importance of caring about other people, you lose sight of what it means to be a Christian. 

As I have said before, Christianity and the Episcopal branch of the Jesus Movement are two very different and disconnected things.

Meanwhile, my advice to those hurt by the church is this: Don’t go to the diocese. And don’t go to Sven vanBaars. Both lack compassion. Both lack understanding. Both lack integrity.

Friday, November 22, 2019

Bob Malm, Conflicts of Interest, and Private Inurement



As I have mentioned before on this blog, I have numerous concerns about governance at Grace Episcopal. Among these are allegations of conflicts of interest on Bob Malm’s part, the possibility of private inurement, and lack of adequate internal checks and balances to prevent these issues.

One of the allegations is that Bob Malm improperly influenced Grace Episcopal School to offer classes to older children. This, it is alleged, he did so that his son James could attend school at Grace, before heading off to St. Rita’s, then Woodberry Forest. While love for one’s children is normal, the end result may be inappropriate if church resources were redirected to meet Bob’s needs, without any assessment of the viability of serving older children. Nor have I seen evidence that the vestry was involved in this decision; if it was, it appears likely that its only role was as a rubber stamp.

Similarly, the 2014 bonus the church paid to Bob Malm, which was 10% of gross annual income, may have been private inurement within the meaning of the Internal Revenue Code. Thus, this gift may place at jeopardy the church’s tax exempt status. But even if it doesn’t, the optics of this decision are terrible, coming at a time when the church faced massive expenditures over the next few years. Even worse, we are not talking about a rector whose compensation package was in any way subpar—rather, we are talking about a rector who received one out of every five dollars given to the church. And this gift was made at the same time the church announced it was cutting health benefits to employees in order to balance the budget.

What is troubling, though, is that neither the vestry nor the diocese appear willing to examine these issues. Still more disconcerting is that the church’s loan to Bob Malm was carried off the books for almost a decade, with many vestry members, myself included, not even aware of it. It’s also worth noting that Bob’s bonus was more than 3 times the church’s annual on-budget expenditures to assist those in need.

Taken as a whole, these issues are profoundly unsettling.

See for Yourself: Bob Malm Claims the Right to Use the Court System to “Discipline” Former Church Members

Need further evidence that Bob is trying to game the court system? In this email to Wartburg Watch editor Dee Parsons, Bob claims the right to use the court system as a “disciplinary measure” against me, a former member. Hmmm, what next? The auto-de-fe? I know—it’s the Episcosition, Judge Robert Hiller Malm presiding. Heretics, report to courtroom 3. Infidels, courtroom 2. Those who criticize the Grand Inquisitor, report directly to the dungeons.

If Jesus is “truth,” (gotta love how Bob uses quotation marks to beg meaning. Must be a Tabor thing.) I wonder what Jesus thinks about fabrications in court pleadings. Something about false witness....

I’m wondering, too: “Commonwealth Court” and its “Magistrate.” Never heard of such a thing. Is that located in Jeff Chiow’s imaginary, “Sugarland Texas”?











Worthy Read: When Narcissism Comes to Church

I’ve been reading a lot lately, and there’s a good book that sums up perfectly my experiences with perjuring priest Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal church. Titled, When Narcissism Comes to Church the book is written by David Orrison.

Following is an excerpt from his blog that well describes the organizational narcissism at Grace
Church:
Too many people have found the church, the institutional local church, to be uncaring and so wrapped up in preserving its image that it will support the abuser in hopes that the victim will just go away and be quiet. We saw another example of this in the news this past week. Another church worker abused a young girl, and the church leaders just moved him to another place. Why does this happen? How can this happen in the church?
The answer is this overwhelming concern for image. In their drive to be seen as superior, some churches would rather ignore the victims than deal with the scandal. When hurting people can be ignored for the sake of the superior image, that’s narcissism. 
Christians expect to be able to go to church leadership when they are hurting. When they are pushed away, or sin is covered up, something is very wrong. Narcissism creeps in to depersonalize and victimize.
 Of course, this paradigm is problematic in the near-term for multiple reasons, including:

  • The fact that Bob Malm, who seems to me to have been the narcissist-in-chief for the past 30 years, is now gone.
  • No healthy priest with a good handle on organizational dynamics is likely to want to serve as rector; only another narcissist could or would fit the bill. 
  • Like any narcissist, the organizational narcissist that is Grace Church sees nothing wrong with its current conduct or attitudes, in which people are drawn to Bob Malm, versus God, and any behavior is justified as long as it meets Bob Malm’s perceived needs, and by extension those of the organization.
  • The diocese is every bit as clueless and organizationally narcissistic as are Bob Malm and Grace Church. Thus, with the diocese fully supporting the current situation at Grace Church, there is zero chance of meaningful change.
Thus, Grace needs to transform from a religion club to a church—a sea change that goes to the very heart of its existence. Unless it does so, it will eventually cease to exist, and yet it remains wedded to its current modus operandi.

By the way, there’s a good post on Dave’s blog about branding, differentiation, and religion, located here. If you read the post, keep in the back of your mind Grace’s role as the only full-time Anglo-Catholic parish in Northern VA. Think too, of Bob Malm’s claim that, “I don’t think I’m exaggerating too much, when I suggest that at Grace Church we know, we practice “true religion”. (Sept. 3, 2017 sermon)

This, from a church where the rector commits perjury, deliberately misuses funds, instructs staff to shun members, and tries to drag the dying into court.


See for Yourself: Bob Malm Refers to Me as a “Sad Individual, Starving for Attention” in an Email to the St. Dysfunction Vestry

Here we have another email in which Bob Malm tries to discredit me by referring to me as a “sad individual, starved for attention.” That’s a curious claim, since I state in writing in December 2017 that I wanted no further contact from Bob Malm.

As always, we see a total lack of appropriate pastoral presence on Bob Malm’s part, as well as the usual organizational narcissism of St. Dysfunction. And the “constant support” of the diocese—yet another reason to throw in the towel when it comes to the Diocese of Virginia.

Of course, there’s also no sign that Amy Medrick, or any vestry members, told Bob that this sort of discourse about Christians entrusted to Bob’s pastoral care is inappropriate. And while it would be inappropriate at almost any other church, this sort of thing is acceptable at Grace church.

Prospective interims, beware! This is the stained glass cesspool that is Grace Episcopal church.

#fakechristians





Thursday, November 21, 2019

See for Yourself: Twitizen Refers to Bob Malm as “Bat Guano Crazy”

This was her comment after reading Bob Malm’ email to Dee Parsons claiming the right to use the court system to impose “discipline” (his word choice), on me, a former member of his parish.




Check it Out: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Contradicts Himself

Here’s another example of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s questionable veracity. In the screen cap below, Bob Malm says he does not believe I would abide by the terms of any agreement in resolution of our conflict. Yet just five months later, perjuring priest Bob Malm sent me a settlement proposal, which I rejected lock, stock and barrel, despite the fact it offered to drop the protective order. Even more tellingly, after a token nod to staying away from Bob, his proposal proceeded to bloviate on for several pages about not criticizing the parish. Even more laughably, the proposal said that Bob would not publicly condone derogatory comments from the parish or school—given that Bob’s modus operandi is behind-the-scenes manipulation, that is an illusory promise if there ever was one.



And below is the link to the badly drafted settlement proposal prepared by Sugarland Chiow and sent to me on behalf of perjuring priest Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal church.

https://www.gracealexwatch.org/p/bobs-settlement-proposal.html

Bob Malm, perjuring priest

Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish

Wednesday, November 20, 2019

Grace Episcopal Lawsuit: Update

Updated information on the Grace Episcopal Alexandria lawsuit


As I’m working on the lengthy process of analyzing and organizing the information needed for my bill of particulars — a court document that lays out the plaintiff’s specific allegations in a lawsuit — there’s also a minor change in scheduling. Specifically, attorneys for the diocese, Susan Goff and the parish are not available on the initially selected date for the hearing on my motion to compel. So I’m looking to see if there is a date that will work for them.

Meanwhile, the defendants have declined at this time to stipulate that neither the diocese nor other defendants have documentation to support Bob Malm’s claim that my mother contacted him repeatedly. That said, it’s a given that they don’t, as Bob Malm lied under oath on this topic, which he cited as one of the foundational reasons for his assertion that I threatened him.

I’d also add one observation about defense counsel, which is that the attorneys involved are infinitely more professional than Sugarland Chiow with his ad hominem attacks, repeated false statements of law and fact to the courts, and his inflammatory rhetoric. In short, while we sit on opposite sides of this issue, it is good to see that some measure of civility, professionalism, and decorum remains in the practice of law, especially since licensed attorneys are officers of the court. Moreover, Chiow’s conduct only further erodes the parish’s reputation, as does the diocese’s statement that it supports Bob Malm and, by extension, his conduct. 

Lastly, I’ve let defense counsel know that I intend to subpoena Dee Parsons, editor of The Wartburg Watch, when we go to trial. Dee already knows and is fully supportive,

So, nothing too exciting yet. I will continue to provide updates as we move forward.




As Interim Starts at Grace Episcopal Alexandria, Questions Remain


As Grace Episcopal prepares to welcome the Rev. Michael B. Guy, Sr. as interim rector, questions remain about the parish’s direction and ability to transition successfully to a new rector.

First, some background. Guy is ordained in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, or ELCA, which is in full communion with The Episcopal Church. Formerly pastor at a predominantly African-American church in Baltimore, he also has served as interim senior pastor at Resurrection ELCA in North Arlington. Guy also is known to have participated in ecumenical activities with The Episcopal Church.

Meanwhile, Grace’s pledge season is under way. The usual loyal givers have pledged, with an average annual pledge increasing to just under $4,000. Others will follow suit, with final results based in some measure on how people feel about the church’s direction during the coming months. To the church’s credit, it appears to be stepping back from Bob Malm’s “let’s say as little as possible,” approach, which all but guarantees declines in giving. (Hint to Malmites who read this: Lack of transparency is deadly to churches.)

But will Grace fully welcome Guy? That remains to be seen. After 30 years of Dysfunctional Bob and his congenial but faith-free approach to Christianity, how will folks react to a rector who has no experience with the Anglo-Catholic tradition?

On the one hand, Guy’s loose denominational ties may stand him in good stead. More than one Episcopal priest with knowledge of the situation at Grace has said that there is not enough money in all of Christendom to convince them to serve as interim at Grace. Not only are 30 years of Malm’s feckless performance as rector a difficult precedent, but the organizational narcissism at Grace goes to its very core. And no one wants the ocean of conflict at Grace to attach to their professional reputation, particularly since the church’s precipitous decline in recent years places it at heightened risk of closure. So Guy’s distance from diocesan politics and other intra-church nonsense may be helpful.

On the other hand, there are indications that the inevitable comparisons to Malm already have begun. Guy clearly does not display the same interpersonal attributes as Bob, and his writing seems stiffer than Bob’s. At the same time, he appears to take his faith seriously, which is a profound change from Bob. And somehow I don’t see Guy staying up until the wee hours at Shrine Mont, loudly socializing as the people around him get plastered.

It also will be interesting to see how race plays out. While Grace has a long record of being inclusive, it has never had an African-American rector, as will be the case with Guy, and the percentage of minorities in the pews is shockingly low given the composition of the surrounding community. Nor is being a minority protection against conflict emanating from the altar guild and other special interest groups in the parish.

Most challenging, though, is dealing with the wake of Bob’s narcissism. For years, the whole modus operandi at the parish has been Bob drawing attention to himself, versus God, seeking adulation at every turn. Such an approach is toxic to the long-term health of any church, yet there is no sign that Guy,  the vestry, or the diocese recognize that this is the underlying challenge at the church. Nor is there any sign that they have the skill sets to address these problems. Moreover, the first time the good Christian ladies of the altar guild or choir feel that Guy has tramped on their toes, he’s going through the grist mill, rear end first.

Complicating things is the tendency in the diocese to sweep matters under the rug and hope that they will go away — an approach Bob used for any issue he didn’t feel like dealing with. Missing money? It will get resolved eventually. Utterly useless and ineffective staff? Don’t worry about it—they’ll be retiring this year. Misconduct by staff? It will have to wait until after my vacation.

But if the diocese and parish don’t deal with the elephant in the living room, sooner or later the elephant will get restless and ultimately demolish the living room. Nor would this be the first time that the diocese has said, and I quote, “Just hang in there ‘til we can get someone in there.”

In short, unless the parish and diocese are prepared to deal directly with these issues, it’s not too much longer before Grace church closes its doors for good.  Unfortunately, 30 years of Bob Malm may be an experience from which the parish simply cannot recover.



Tuesday, November 19, 2019

Tired of Boring Churches? If So, Grace Episcopal May be Right For You

Tired of boring churches? If so, consider Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish.


New Website Covers Bob Malm’s Role as Interim, St. Gabriel’s Marion Massachusetts

There’s a new blog in town, and this one covers perjuring priest Bob Malm’s new role as interim rector of St. Gabriel’s, in his hometown of Marion Massachusetts.

Visit the new blog at www.stgabrielsepiscopal.org to learn more.

Bob Malm, perjuring priest


Breaking News: Greg Kelley, Alleged Child Abuser Whose Conviction Was Overturned, Sends Threatening Emails to Fellow Blogger

“If you chose to ignore me. You will highly regret it. I’m not playing around anymore. You are absolutely disgusting and quite frankly I believe a judge will see it the same way. ”



If my experience with abusive Episcopal priest Bob Malm has taught me anything, it’s the importance of maintaining free speech. That includes standing up for fellow bloggers. So, before we go any further, let me say this to Greg Kelley:

I’m publishing about you too. If you want to make Amy “highly regret” anything, I guess you’ll need to come after me as well.

# # #

Those who follow issues of abuse may be familiar with the case of Greg Kelley, the former Leander Texas football star who was convicted in 2014 of aggravated sexual assault of a four-year-old-boy at a Leander home daycare center.

After serving time in prison, the Texas Supreme Court overturned Kelley’s conviction, citing problems with the police investigation. “I was given my freedom and I’m happy with it,” said Kelley.

Of the story, fellow blogger Amy Smith of the Watchkeep blog says she first learned about this case from news reports during Greg Kelley’s trial and conviction in 2014. Along with fellow blogger and friend, Dee Parsons at The Wartburg Watch, she posted an open letter of support on her blog to the child sexual abuse victim that testified in the criminal case against Greg Kelley. After his conviction, Kelley voluntarily accepted a sentencing plea deal for 25 years in prison and waived his right to appeal.

On August 12, 2014, after Greg Kelley’s conviction, Amy posted Cedar Park Police Chief Sean Mannix’s internal department staff email regarding the Greg Kelley case with the chief’s permission. The email is a matter of public record.

In another blog post, One with Courage, Amy wrote:

I received a phone call yesterday afternoon from Pastor Bob Brydon of Generations Church who is helping lead the effort to “fight for GK,” the man convicted of super aggravated sexual assault of a 4 year-old boy, in prison for 25 years after accepting a sentencing deal waiving his right to appeal. Bob immediately let me know how offended he was at our statement, saying he considered it “slander.” I asked what was slanderous about it, but he did not answer. He just began a rant about how the “real perp” is still out there on the streets.

Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests: TX Church to Hold Rally for Admitted Molester

Fight for GK: they said








Things Heat Up

Then, on Saturday, November 16, 2019, Amy received three emails in a thread from Greg Kelley. After the first one, she did not respond. He sent the second email about an hour and a half later. Amy did not respond. He sent the third email later that night. She has not responded to that email either.




Email 1:

Hello Amy, you might remember me… Greg Kelley. The same guy you said all of those nasty things about when I was being falsely accused and wrongfully convicted?

Well… I’m sure you’ve already heard but I’m exonerated now, all 9 judges of the CCA have declared me innocent.

I just wanted to send you this message because while you were tag teaming with the chief of police of CPPD to slander my name, my family and everyone who loves and fought for me, I was on the sideline taking note of all of it.

Fighting for my innocence is over, now it’s ACCOUNTABILITY FOR THE PEOPLE WHO DID THIS TO ME.

The chief and cedar park is in HOT WATER right now. Don’t believe me? Google it.

I wanted to send you a friendly reminder that I have not forgotten how you were part of the problem and I really don’t like bullies.

*that little stunt you pulled about me living at jakes… that’s all documented.

Good luck Amy.

Email 2:

Let me know if you are interested in resolving this outside of court, my terms are pretty simple.

Let me remind you the false allegation you filed against me at Jakes house IS A CRIME and quite frankly I’m looking for one good reason not to file a law suit on you. That’s right, with the help of the Texas rangers and private investigators you are exposed on so many levels. Hope you have a good lawyer because I have several. Do the right thing Amy.

Email 3:

If you chose to ignore me. You will highly regret it. I’m not playing around anymore. You are absolutely disgusting and quite frankly I believe a judge will see it the same way.

Of these emails, Amy says:

Greg Kelley stated that with the help of the Texas Rangers and private investigators, I am “exposed on so many levels.” I emailed the Texas Rangers headquarters in Austin, Texas yesterday. I received a reply today saying that I could contact the Ranger Austin Northwest Field Office at 512-464-3732 and request to speak to a local Ranger. I called that number this morning and spoke with Brenda who answered. I explained why I was calling, and that Greg Kelley stated in an email that I had been investigated by the Texas Rangers. She took my contact information, and said she would give it to the Ranger assigned to the Greg Kelley case.






My Questions

So if Greg has all these lawyers at his beck and call, why is he making stupid statements of this sort? The very first thing any good lawyer will tell a client in his situation is to make no comments. None. Even worse, don’t make contact with witnesses, those who have written about the situation, or others connected with the case. Judges have a profound dislike for subjects threatening people, and Greg’s behavior is, at best, stupid. And for those who want to invoke God, all I can say is the claims in the media about Greg’s alleged use of AdultFriendFinder.com for multiple incidents of sex with strangers certainly don’t suggest that Greg is a particularly devout person.

In Closing

There’s been a really ugly side to the whole #fightforGK thing. It’s one thing to question a conviction, to advocate for him, to support him. It’s another thing altogether to try to intimidate bloggers. We’re a resilient bunch, and we look out for each other. If you come after one of us, you come after all of us.

So. I’m glad Amy contacted law enforcement and I stand with Amy. I will do everything I can to support her.

In the meantime, my advice to Greg and those who support him is to go no-contact with Amy and other bloggers. You are doing yourselves no favors.

Monday, November 18, 2019

Bob Malm’s Statement Against Interest Underscores His Questionable Veracity

Here is a good reminder of Bob Malm’s manipulative, dishonest conduct.

At a time when Bob was claiming he needed a protective order to deal with threats from me — threats that he refused to specify, even when ordered by the court to do so — Bob was making statements against interest, including this email to the Episcopal bishop of Virginia, in which he says that his wife and one of his daughters “give this [conflict] so much more attention than it deserves.”

Later, more evidence of questionable veracity on Bob Malm’s part.




Sunday, November 17, 2019

Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Reportedly Serving as Interim at St. Gabriel’s in Marion Massachusetts



Reliable sources tell me that perjuring priest Bob Malm is headed to St. Gabriel’s in Marion Massachusetts, where he will serve as interim.

Located in the area in which Bob grew up, the new calling affords Bob the opportunity to live in an area familiar to him, and where his late mother’s family is well known.

It would be interesting to see how the new parish deals with Bob’s issues. While he doubtless attributes the latter to a “disgruntled former parishioner,” the facts should speak loudly to diocesan and parish officials:
  • Declining Grace Church membership and pledging units since 2014.
  • Trying to drag a dying woman into court.
  • Going after innocent family members.
  • Lying to church members repeatedly, including his vestry.
  • Committing perjury.
Yes, Bob can turn on the superficial charm, but friendly isn’t the same as faithful. Folks at St. Gabriel’s are well-advised not to conflate the two. Let’s just hope that St. Gabriel’s, which presently has an ASA of 120 and growing giving, is not injured by Bob Malm’s toxic conduct.

It’s also worth noting that Bob, to my knowledge, has no formal interim training.

To read more about St. Gabriel’s, visit http://stgabrielsmarion.weebly.com/

Reflections on Abuse, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, and the Failure of Leadership

Lately I’ve had several fascinating discussions with experts on abuse about the topic of why organizations like the Episcopal church tolerate and conceal abuse. While many of the conversations have, predictably enough, centered on sexual abuse, the underlying issues remain relevant.

To be clear, Bob Malm is not accused of sexual misconduct. Nor is anyone within the diocese. But at the same time, as far as I can tell the diocese has steadfastly refused to address Bob Malm’s perjury, or even to follow its own canons when it comes to clergy discipline.

One consistent theme in the discussions I’ve had has been that organizations tend to try to protect their reputation, even at the expense of doing something so basic as protecting children. As a result, a culture of silence grows, and group think sets in.

Another person reminded me that narcissistic personalities are often incredibly gifted manipulators, with emotional predators typically able to portray an image of kindness and compassion that is able to fool even a skilled tribunal. And so it would seem in the case of Bob Malm, who is able to portray a friendly, congenial, supportive personality, while masking a lack of genuine empathy for those entrusted to his pastoral care. Certainly, his willingness to go after Mike in his vendetta, his multiple lies to parishioners and others, his inflammatory courtroom rhetoric, and his willingness to pursue a terminally ill woman suggest that he is not someone who should have ever been ordained in the first place. 





But the most important thing I have heard and read suggests that a failure in leadership goes right to the top. In that regard, +Shannon and +Susan have both repeatedly shown that they do not understand the dynamics of abuse. nor do they have any real desire to address it, beyond those situations in which doing so is absolutely unavoidable. And given that the bishops have taken a pass on misuse of funds and perjury, it is difficult to imagine that much other than sexual misconduct would ever get their attention. Indeed, it was laughably ironic when Caroline Parkinson said, in response to my concerns about the alleged child molester in the parish. “Now you’re talking about something that actually matters.”

In fairness to diocesan officials, that also illustrates the very limited training clergy actually have in mental health and abuse prevention. But then, given the number of toxic clergy I have encountered, perhaps it is best that they not get further access to this sort of information. Indeed, some authors suggest that narcissists often treat counseling as nothing more than training sessions in which they learn how to become more adept at getting away with misconduct.

But no matter how you parse it, it is clear to me that the failure of leadership in the diocese extends all the way to the top. And it is that very failure that leads to communication like the one that follows, from a young adult member of Grace Church. Tellingly, Bob Malm tried to claim in court that this was a threat against him. The sad reality, though, is it’s an indictment of him, the parish and the diocese.






Check it Out: Virginia Giuffre Lends Her Support

As news of my lawsuit against Grace Episcopal, Bishop Susan Goff, and the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia gets out, I was happy to see that Epstein sex trafficking victim Virginia Giuffre has tweeted her support.

Thanks to all who continue to get out word about Episcopal priest Bob Malm and his perjury, and the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia’s continuing support and defense of his perjury.




Saturday, November 16, 2019

This Christmas, Remember the Meaning of Christmas

This Christmas, remember the true meaning of the holiday: Compassion, kindness, love.

Boycott Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, where clergy lie under oath with impunity and it’s okay to drag the dying into court.



Reflections on the Diocesan Annual Convention, Inclusion, and Integrity




With the 225th diocesan annual convention winding down later today, it’s fitting to reflect on lessons learned from protesting outside the meeting and related questions.

What is most notable about the convention is that, with all those dog collars roaming around, not one person asked me about my protests. Not one. Yes, there were a ton of hits on the blog, and a few people took my photo, but nothing beyond that.

The lack of communication is telling. As a modern-day metaphoric leper at the gate, my situation underscores one of the great myths about the church, which is that it is inclusive. It is not. Most often, it’s just indifferent. That’s sad, because it directly contradicts Jesus’ message about “as you have done to the least of these, so also have you done unto me.”

If nothing else, when I have seen demonstrators, persons with car problems or other issues outside my church, I’ve always made it a point to welcome them in. Many say no, fearing that the invite is a recruitment effort. But quite a few also have found that, even if the church doesn’t meet a need for a spiritual home, it’s at least a safe place to shelter from the vicissitudes of life.

My inclination would also be to learn more and see if there is anything I could do to help. If nothing else, I’d be concerned about the church’s reputation, and eager to do what I can to at least soften the conflict.

(It’s also amusing to see Episcopalians pretending they don’t see you. It’s like a Monty Python movie:

“It’s a bloody protester.”

“No, you daft bastard, it’s bloody terrorist. Why, he’s even carrying a sign.”

“Blimey, and I thought he was a protestor!”

“Well, I can’t see him. Can you?”)

That also points to underlying integrity issues with the church. How can the church be healthy and whole when it ignores problems literally at its doorstep? Hardly loving, liberating or life-giving.

That also raises the more tactical question: Will the diocese and its attorneys have the integrity to admit that Bob Malm committed perjury? Or will they try to defend conduct that is utterly indefensible?

If past results are any indication of future performance, they will do their utmost to avoid addressing the elephant in the room.

Friday, November 15, 2019

Check it Out: 100,000 Hits and Counting!



Breaking News: Grace Episcopal aka the Clergy Perjury Parish, Susan Goff, and DioVA Finally Respond

Breaking news: I have just received notice that DioVA, Susan Goff, and Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, are represented by counsel. Predictably enough, counsel for the defendants is objecting to the subpoenas previously issued by the court.

In the meantime, I have suggested to counsel that we stipulate that there is no evidence to support Bob Malm’s assertion, made under oath, in writing, while advised by church legal counsel. In other words, that Bob Malm committed perjury.

We’ll see what happens.




Breaking News: Grace Episcopal, the Clergy Perjury Parish, Set for Court December 17

Predictably enough, neither diocesan chancellor JP Causey, nor Grace Episcopal, have responded to my request to honor the court’s subpoena, signed by the judge, directing them to permit inspection and copying of documents relevant to my case. I asked that they do so by 5 PM today.

As a result, I have filed a motion to compel against both Bishop Goff and the parish. Motions court is set for December 17 at 1:30 PM. The date is somewhat delayed due to the fact I have arranged for personal service on the defendants. This seems a sensible precaution in light of the previous lack of professionalism and ethically questionable conduct displayed by both the parish and the diocese, which includes Bob Malm’s perjury and Sugarland Chiow’s various false and misleading statements to the tribunal.

Given that the court date falls squarely within Advent, this all seems appropriate.

A copy has been emailed to diocesan officials as well as the parish.




Protesting Outside DioVA Annual Convention

Live, from New York....IT’S SATURDAY NIGHT LIVE!

Well, not so much. More like it’s me, protesting outside the DioVA annual convention in Crystal City Virginia.

I slept in today, as the weather is ideal for sleeping and I have a busy weekend ahead. But I’ll resurface outside the convention in a few hours. My plans also include filing the Motion to Compel to ask Bishop Goff and Grace Episcopal Church to provide access to various documents relating to my case, including documentation of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s claim, made in writing, while under oath, and while advised by church legal counsel, that my mother, then terminally ill, or someone claiming to be her, “time after time” made appointments with him and no-showed. This he cited as one of the bases for his claim that mom’s blog is threatening.

So, since Malm alleges that this happened repeatedly, there should be lots of documentation — phone records, email, you name it.

My plans also include filing a Motion to Compel against +Goff and the parish. Somehow, I don’t see either being on the up-and-up and responding on their own.


Thursday, November 14, 2019

A Gentle Reminder to the Good Christians of The Episcopal Diocese of Virginia

As I get ready to head out for some protesting, yet another gentle reminder to the good Christians of the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia: You are being filmed. That’s right, you are being filmed when I protest.

That’s important to remember, as I edit the tape, cut to show your face, vehicle and license plate when appropriate, and then I publish. That’s right—not only are you there, by name, for all the world to see, but your profanity, obscene gestures and more are there. Not good for the parish, not good for you, not good for your career. And yes, it is legal.

Of course, if you are acting like a Christian, that shouldn’t be a problem for you. But given the track record of folks in the parish, that appears quite challenging for you.

Also, keep in mind that members of Grace Church are prohibited from any contact with me under Virginia’s anti-stalking statute. So if you are one of those morons who drives up and offers to fight, etc., you WILL face criminal charges. I guarantee it. 

Doubt it? Try me.




Grace Episcopal Alexandria: “Growing and Flourishing”? Not so Much, Jason

If losing 1/3 of your pledging units is Jason Roberson’s definition of “growing and flourishing,” I’d hate like hell to see his definition of “declining!”

Time to tell the truth, Jason. People deserve to hear the truth.

Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish






Wednesday, November 13, 2019

See for Yourself: Email to Diocesan Chancellor JP Causey Requests Compliance With Subpoenas

Shortly after I filed suit against Bishop Susan Goff, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, and Grace Episcopal Church, I asked the judge to issue subpoenas against Bishop Goff and the parish. These included a requirement that I be permitted to inspect and copy the relevant documents, including all emails and documents relating to the dispute. Further, I asked to see copies of all documents to support the parish’s claim that my mother contacted Bob Malm repeatedly, and copies of the exact blog posts that the church claims are threatening. 

True to form, the diocese and parish have thus far ignored the court.

Today, I followed up with diocesan chancellor JP Causey and the parish is this email, asking for a response by close of business on Friday.

Early next week I will file a motion to compel against all three defendants.

Stay tuned.


Ethics Alert! Ethically Challenged Sven vanBaars Seeks to Represent DioVA at General Convention

Clergy sexual assault survivors beware! The Rev. Sven vanBaars, who is one of the diocesan Title IV intake officers and has stated in writing that he will only address illegal conduct by clergy if they face criminal charges, is seeking election as a diocesan delegate to the next general convention. This spells bad news as #churchtoo and #metoo victims seek to make church a safe space for survivors.

For those new to the discussion, Sven issued a dismissal, approved by Bishop Susan Goff and upheld by the Rev. Melissa Hollerith, stating the he could not conclude that Bob Malm committed perjury, as the latter had not been criminally charged for doing so.

This is problematic for several reasons, including the fact that perjury is a notoriously difficult crime to charge and, much like clergy sexual abuse, local officials typically are reluctant to pursue cases against clergy. Yet Title IV expressly forbids clergy from engaging in “conduct involving dishonesty, fraud, deceit or misrepresentation;” no criminal charges required.

Moreover, Sven himself violated the express provisions of Title IV by copying Bob Malm on his notice. By doing so, he violated the confidentiality provisions enacted at the last General Convention, which expressly forbid identifying the complainant to the respondent. Yet he attempted to silence me by asserting that I am obligated to treat the matter as confidential. This is not the case, for with the exception of one recently enacted provision, Title IV does not apply to laity. And it certainly does not apply to persons who have left the church.

To make matters worse, Sven serves on the diocesan committee on constitution and canons. Given his inability to parse even basic Title IV issues successfully, his violation of Title IV, and his broken pastoral ethics, this is an alarming proposition.

And, if that isn’t enough, it is not the role of the intake officer to determine whether perjury occurred. Per the canons, their role is to assume the matter complained of to be true, then:

  • Assess whether the violation complained of, if true, would constitute a violation of the canons.
  • Assess whether the violation complained of, if true, would be of “weighty and material importance to the ministry of the church
Nothing more. Nothing less. Clearly, Sven either doesn’t understand his role, or he deliberately sidestepped it.

So, if you’ve ever experienced abuse of any sort in a church setting, just know that Sven vanBaars applies a “no criminal charges, no Title IV violation” policy. In other words, even clergy sexual abuse is okay, as long as the police don’t get involved.

Truly alarming stuff.

Copy of Sven’s written Title IV dismissal available at https://www.gracealexwatch.org/2019/09/breaking-sven-vanbaar-former-candidate.html





Tuesday, November 12, 2019

Worthy Read: Chuck DeGroat’s Upcoming Book, “When Narcissism Comes to Church”



Those seeking to understand the hot mess that is Planet Malm Grace Episcopal Church may want to check out Chuck DeGroat’s upcoming book, “When Narcissism Comes to Church.” The book is available for pre-order, with a release date of March 2020.

DeGroat is a well-known seminary instructor, licensed pastoral counselor, consultant, and coach who has done extensive research into the issue, including counseling narcissistic church leaders and churches hurt by their conduct for more than 20 years.

Like others, he understands that having toxic church leaders is devastating to churches. Or, as author Dr. David Orrison describes it:
“Narcissism” has become a way to describe the disordered personality that depersonalizes and uses others in its quest to think of itself as superior. Dr. Orrison sees this as a defining characteristic that can be found in organizations, including churches. Narcissists mold and use organizations to build their personal image, and the organizations carry the message to others.
DeGroat goes further, discussing faulty theologies of sin and forgiveness:
A shallow view of sin leads to a shallow repentance. Shallow repentance looks like admitting the troubling behavior and committing to not doing it again – case closed. And thus, shallow repentance leads to quick restoration. After all, who wouldn’t believe the sincerity of a pastor who preaches so wonderfully and charismatically, and who has influenced so many? Shallow repentance can look like blame dressed in the garments of personal responsibility – “I’m really sorry that hurt you.”
(Astute readers will note the dramatic similarity of the fauxpology above to Bob Malm’s abortive “apology” to Mike, in which he says, “I’m sorry you were upset...but....”)

Apropos forgiveness, DeGroat says:
All of this (above) leads to an expectation that the narcissist and/or abuser will be forgiven (which also means restored). In this, the burden quickly switches from abuser to victim, as anyone impacted is asked to forgive quickly and fully out of a spiritual duty. Anything less than full forgiveness is narrated as angry, petty, grudge-holding, and un-spiritual. Within this is a pitifully vacuous theology of Grace – again, grace as a get-out-of-jail-free card.
In the meantime, you can read DeGroat’s reflection on the destruction wrought by narcissistic church leaders/systems and their lack of spiritual and personal integrity here.

Monday, November 11, 2019

Here’s How Grace Episcopal Talks About Victims of Church Abuse

Before you pledge this fall, consider whether this sort of conduct by Bob Malm and Sugarland Chiow reflects your values, and those of Christianity. (Screen cap from their objection to my withdrawal of my appeal.)

Sorry folks—there’s nothing Christian about this sort of behavior. Nothing.

Maybe the church should make copies available in the Malm narthex, just so people know what they are getting into. Literally and figuratively.


Thursday, November 7, 2019

Issues with Diocesan Pledge Underscore Severity of Budget Crisis at Grace Church

Remember when I posted the article about warning signs that a church may be at risk of closure? The article, written by the Rev. Thom Rainer, lists one of the warning signs as resources being focused inward, versus outward.

And so it is with Grace, particularly in the case of the parish’s annual pledge to the diocese. Specifically, for many years, the amount pledged has been less than one-half of the amount proscribed by the Virginia Plan, the diocesan proportional giving plan. That’s right—less than one half.

Under the diocesan guidelines, parish pledges are based on net operating income, otherwise known as normal operating income or (NOI).

So what is NOI? Simply put, it’s all income that is used to pay operating expenses, and it includes items that are funded off-budget, like music programs, the altar guild, and EYC mission trips.

The diocese of Newark provides a good definition:


























In other words, NOI is pretty easy to calculate. If you spend it for day-to-day operations, versus capital improvements, it’s NOI. (It’s also worth noting that the Newark definition includes the church school. Just imagine if Grace School were actually included.)

With that in mind, here’s what the Virginia Plan proscribes for parish giving:































Grace church, however, has consistently pledged at roughly 10% of pledge income. That excludes:

  • Plate and loose giving
  • Reimbursements from the school.
  • Altar guild program operating revenue.
  • Music program operating revenue.
  • Income from the trust used to pay operating expenses.
The result is that when measured as percentage of income Grace Church supports the diocese at a level consistent with a church with revenue of less than $100,000 annual income. When measured by total amount, Grace’s support of the diocese is consistent with that of a parish generating $571,428 in NOI.

For example in 2015, a year in which the church pulled in more than $1,000.000 in revenue, it gave just $85,000, per the annual report.

Income:
























Again, keep in mind that this does not include items that are off-budget, like the music program, the EYC hoagie sale, the altar guild, and other program areas.

That brings us to a recurring issue when examining life at Grace Church: Thanks to years of feckless leadership, the church has been living beyond its means for decades. It can afford to pay its rector $200K a year, offer lavish farewell parties for the head of school, and provide generous purses to Bob Malm and his family. There’s plenty of money for the annual weekend at Shrine Mont, which for many is nothing but a drunken binge. And there are mountains of flowers at Easter and Christmas (yes, although these are restricted solicitations, they are still part of NOI). Nor should we forget Bob’s 2014 bonus of $100,000.

So while Jason Roberson is bloviating about how the parish is “growing and flourishing,” let’s keep in mind that it’s been ignoring its obligation to the diocese for years. That despite the fact that the diocese apparently fully honors its commitment to the national church. 

In other words, most of the church’s funds have been going to meet its own needs and desires, and to subsidize Bob Malm, versus to actually being a church. That is, or should be, a wake-up call to the parish, whoever is foolhardy enough to become interim, and to the diocese. Simply put, it is a matter of survival.

There’s also a catch-22 that confronts the parish: In a church so organizationally narcissistic that it doesn’t see an issue with a priest who commits perjury, or with trying to drag a dying woman into court, do you choose to integrate into the life of the larger diocese? If so, how do you increase your diocesan pledge by roughly $80,000 annually at a time when the parish cannot afford its current cost structure? Yet members are likely to be highly resistant to any arrangement that interferes with the whole living-life-large paradigm under Bob Malm.

In closing, it’s worth noting that I repeatedly cautioned Bob, beginning in 2014, about the looming budget debacle, warning that absent major cutbacks the church was on a trajectory to become insolvent as early as the summer of 2016. In most cases, in true Bob Malm fashion, I didn’t even get the courtesy of a response.

Things are now at a state where the church may need to consider taking on mission status, accepting help from the diocese, and rebuilding from the ground up.

Grace church is in serious trouble.

Jason Roberson Pulls a Bob Malm and Argues Alternative Facts

At a time when Grace church is dealing with record declines in giving and participation, there are multiple ways to deal with the situation. Some ways likely will be successful; others not. But one strategy is guaranteed to fail, and that is to argue “alternative facts,” as Jason Roberson attempts to do in the November edition of the church newsletter, Grace Notes. 

Specifically, it’s neither useful, nor helpful, nor truthful, to claim that the parish is “growing and flourishing.” It is not. Not financially, not numerically, not spiritually.

Indeed, it’s in a state of precipitous decline, brought about by years of Bob Malm’s feckless performance as rector and toxic conduct at various levels within the parish, including:
  • Committing perjury, as Bob has done with the assistance and support of Sugarland Chiow and the vestry.
  • Lying to the parish and others by claiming that Mike and I left on our own, as the vestry did via messaging supplied by Bob Malm and Sugarland Chiow.
  • Trying to drag a dying woman into court.
On top of that, I hate to break it to Jason, but folks are not looking at doubling down on their pledges. Or, as one parishioner said to me, “If the church has enough money to pay [church office staff] to sit on their fat asses, do nothing all day, and give me attitude, it doesn’t need my money.”

Same for $3,000 farewell parties for heads of school, rectors who make 200K and are at the beach for a month every summer (but to my knowledge never once turned up, for example, at Carpenter’s Shelter), and the church generally living above its means for years. And let’s not forget that 2014 bonus of 100K the church paid to Bob Malm, which was entirely inappropriate. (One knucklehead, Lisa Medley, asked at the relevant vestry meeting if the amount could be increased to $200,000. “Private inurement,” anyone?)

DC is expensive, and many in this area haven’t had a vacation in years. Even fewer spend a month at the beach each summer. Many in the parish already are tapped out, and few want to dig even deeper to help out. 

Nor should the church count on planned giving as a bailout. Even those of us without kids have folks we want to care for when we are gone, and for many that does not include a church that engages in toxic behavior or turns a blind eye to its rector committing perjury in court.

So, for those still reading, I will tell you what really needs to happen.

First, the church needs to become healthy in every way and truly become a center for healing. Healthy relationships with each other, with God, and with the church’s past, parts of which are remarkably ugly and un-Christian, all are part of the deal. And it needs to take a healthy approach to the challenges facing it, which includes not trying to sweep them under the rug or arguing alternative facts. In other words, don’t claim the church is “growing and flourishing.”

Second, the parish needs to become a real center for outreach. The old Episcopal approach of metaphorically putting a bucket by the sea and waiting for the fish to jump in simply is not working. Three percent of budget for outreach is a joke, even with the food pantry and Haiti being off-budget. And while you’re at it, honor your commitment to the diocese. 70K a year doesn’t cut it.

Third, Grace needs to make a commitment to grow. To paraphrase Abraham Lincoln, most churches grow just about as much as they choose to grow, and this is simply something that has never been a priority for the church. And no, Art on the Avenue and a few extra signs on the lawn are not going to cut it.

Fourth, as a near-term tactical matter, the diocese needs to help by providing guidance in situations such as this. While Jason’s efforts were well-intended, it is exactly this sort of mistake that undercuts confidence in the transition and search process. Nor are existing internal vetting processes adequate—church staff and volunteers are simply too close to the issues to exercise the sort of independent judgment needed to avoid missteps of this sort.

So, I appreciate Jason’s positive spin, but it’s counterproductive to pretend that the church doesn’t have issues, or that it is not in decline. It has many serious challenges, some of which have been festering for decades. The sooner the church decides to look the monster right in the eyes, the sooner it can deal with the monster. But ignoring the monster won’t make it go away.

Ignoring the monster will simply result in the monster of decline consuming the church.

Jason Roberson Argues Alternative Facts





Wednesday, November 6, 2019

Reminder: Grace Episcopal Publicly Discloses Confidential Giving

With pledge season off to a slow start at Grace Episcopal Alexandria, it’s time for an important reminder. Specifically, while the church will tell you that giving is confidential, it is not.

I repeat: Your giving to Grace Episcopal Alexandria is not confidential. In fact, some imbecile may decide to post that information on social media.

Doubt it? Here’s proof in the form of a screen cap from The Wartburg Watch, in which a parishioner, believed to be Lisa Medley, shares the fact that someone in my family wrote a check to the church in the amount of $.02.

For the record, true to form the poster has her facts wrong. Leaving aside other lies in her post, the check for $.02 was neither giving to the church, nor written by me. Yet the fact remains: Individual giving is not supposed to be shared with other parishioners, nor posted to social media. The fact that the idiot behind this post doesn’t recognize this makes clear just how thoroughly toxic the parish is.

Unless you want to risk your personal data being posted to social media, it is best to avoid pledging to Grace Episcopal Alexandria.

Grace Episcopal Publicly Discloses Member Giving
Grace Episcopal Posts Details of Member Giving to Social Media

Tuesday, November 5, 2019

Breaking News: DeDe Duncan-Probe Gets It. Let’s Hope Susan Goff Figures It Out



I’ll be covering this from a different angle on Anglican Watch, but there is good, albeit sad, news coming from the Episcopal Diocese of Central New York and its bishop, DeDe Duncan-Probe. Folks here in Northern VA may recall that DeDe was the rector of St. Stephen in the Woods in Fairfax Station.

Per recent news reports and a letter from the diocese, the Rev. Joell Szachara, who had served as rector of St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church in New Hartford NY, has been suspended amidst allegations of financial misconduct at her parish.

As part of the move, Szachara resigned from all church-related positions at the bishop’s direction. Meanwhile, a forensic audit is under way at the parish, and the diocese appears to be pursuing a Title IV disciplinary case against Szachara.

What is most notable, however, is DeDe’s willingness to be open and transparent about the issue, to address it promptly and effectively, and to do so while affording care to those affected by the allegations.

This approach contrasts with that of the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, which has consistently refused to address concerns about Bob Malm’s conduct, even when confronted with irrefutable evidence that the latter has, inter alia, committed perjury. Indeed, in just a few days the annual convention of the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia will consider a courtesy resolution extolling Bob Malm’s virtues during 30 years of “ministry” at Grace Church. Hardly reassuring.

Moreover, the diocese knowingly ignored Bob’s efforts to drag a dying woman into court. Well-placed sources also tell me that +Shannon didn’t “want to get involved,” despite knowing that Bob Malm deliberately misused donations to the parish, which is per se illegal. (As a reminder, one cannot use restricted solicitations for any purpose other than that for which they were solicited. To do otherwise is at best breach of contract, and at worst outright fraud.) And the diocese has repeatedly refused to address Bob Malm’s retaliation, his repeated violation of pastoral boundaries, and more.

To make matters worse, the public stance of the diocese has been arrogant silence, combined with +Johnston’s facially false assertions in his letter to the parish, in which he states that these matters were “investigated and resolved long ago,” and where he expresses his support for Bob Malm and Leslie Steffensen and their conduct. And the diocese itself has repeatedly has violated the Title IV disciplinary canons, including refusing to provide the requisite “pastoral response” any time a complaint is made to the intake office and breaching canonically mandated confidentiality.

As a result, things are a hot mess at Grace Church and signs suggest things are going to get worse. Conflict ignored is conflict multiplied, as I reminded Bob Malm many times, and Susan Goff and the diocese have done their utmost to make sure this happens.

As we head into the upcoming annual convention, Bishop Goff would be wise to take a lesson from DeDe and deal directly and openly with the problems at Grace Church. Further efforts to elevate Bob Malm to demigod status while ignoring the underlying conflict serve only to widen and deepen the problem, while making it ever more difficult to resolve. Moreover, as the matter presently is postured, only the utterly foolhardy or clueless would agree to serve as interim, for the situation virtually guarantees failure on all sides.

Simply put, one neither can, nor should, attempt to replicate Bob Malm’s model of friendly but faithless narcissism. Such an approach promotes clericalism, while diminishing the real role of God, faith, and community.

Additionally, while the Title IV training materials talk about the importance of church members knowing whom to talk to, even if something just doesn’t seem right, the diocese’s approach of knowingly permitting retaliation for doing provides a powerful disincentive to whistleblowers. Moreover, it’s fair to say my concerns were well-justified, for as our conflict progressed Bob Malm quickly showed his true colors when he filed a false police report and committed perjury. If nothing else those who genuinely fear for their safety, as he claims is the case, do not drive up to the person they allegedly fear, climb out of their vehicle, and begin yelling and threatening them, as Bob did in May along Russell Road.

In short, DeDe gets it, but Susan Goff and DioVA are both clueless and wedded to an approach to conflict and ecclesiastical discipline that virtually ensures continuing problems. Their only hope is to bring in an expert like the Rev. Robin Hammeal-Urban, who has done extensive work on healing after betrayal, to help them understand and transform conflict and brokenness and move towards wholeness.

And while Christians claim to be a resurrection people, one can only be dubious when, as here, the diocese has been utterly resistant to any form of accountability.

For more on DeDe and the scandal in New York, visit https://www.episcopalnewsservice.org/2019/11/05/central-new-york-priest-under-investigation-for-alleged-financial-misconduct/.

To check out Robin’s excellent book on the subject of moving towards health and wholeness amidst misconduct, visit https://www.amazon.com/Wholeness-After-Betrayal-Restoring-Misconduct/dp/0819231770/ref=nodl_

P.S. I sent copies of Robin’s book to +Shannon and several other diocesan officials. I leave it to others to speculate as to whether anyone at the diocese ever read it.