Showing posts with label perjury. Show all posts
Showing posts with label perjury. Show all posts

Saturday, January 25, 2020

Bob Malm: Club Protest Membership Countdown


By virtue of trying to shutdown criticism by going to court with his facially false claims that he had been threatened, pseudo-priest Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal signed up for the two-year membership at Club Protest. No refunds, late payments result in an extension of membership. And his decision to include Mike in his vendetta, his multiple lies in court, and his efforts to subpoena a dying woman, all mean Bob gets the special VIP add-on package — my online presence will continue ad infinitum. That’s right, Dysfunctional Bob gets the lifetime virtual membership. Hey, Bob always did think he was special. Well, he’s right.

So, this countdown timer doesn’t mark the countdown to an end to open hostilities. But it does mark the payout of Dysfunctional Bob’s basic Club Protest membership.That said, I have always believed in under-promise, over-deliver, so I will no doubt extend Bob’s basic membership well beyond his original contract. And Grace Episcopal gets in on the action, for free.

Hey, if he behaves, maybe we can even spot Bob some core body fitness tips. Heaven knows he’s been looking rather well-fed in recent years. And it fits — Grace Church aka St. Dysfunction is looking a whole lot leaner and meaner these days.

See you at Dysfunction Junction aka Malm Square(d)!

Monday, November 18, 2019

Bob Malm’s Statement Against Interest Underscores His Questionable Veracity

Here is a good reminder of Bob Malm’s manipulative, dishonest conduct.

At a time when Bob was claiming he needed a protective order to deal with threats from me — threats that he refused to specify, even when ordered by the court to do so — Bob was making statements against interest, including this email to the Episcopal bishop of Virginia, in which he says that his wife and one of his daughters “give this [conflict] so much more attention than it deserves.”

Later, more evidence of questionable veracity on Bob Malm’s part.




Saturday, November 16, 2019

This Christmas, Remember the Meaning of Christmas

This Christmas, remember the true meaning of the holiday: Compassion, kindness, love.

Boycott Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, where clergy lie under oath with impunity and it’s okay to drag the dying into court.



Sunday, November 3, 2019

Friday, November 1, 2019

Updated Information on Lawsuit Against Grace Episcopal, the Clergy Perjury Parish

Updated information confirms service of process on Bishop Susan Goff, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, and Grace Episcopal Alexandria.

It will be interesting to see how the good Christians at Grace Church respond to my request for documentation that mom “time after time” makes appointments with perjuring priest Bob Malm. Will they tell the truth? Will they admit that Malm committed perjury?

Somehow, I don’t see Goff, Sugarland Chiow, or any of that crowd acting in an honorable way.

Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish.






Thursday, October 24, 2019

Subpoenas Issued

Earlier today subpoenas went out in my lawsuit against Grace Episcopal Church, Susan Goff, and the diocese. Most likely, Grace will receive its subpoena tomorrow, while Susan Goff’s subpoena may take a day or so. Both are for the production of documents.

Following is the email I sent to the diocese and Grace church’s vestry. In a nutshell, the earlier fraud that the church perpetrated on the court by taking words out of context, by committing perjury (including Bob Malm’s false claim that my mother, or someone claiming to be her, contacted him repeatedly, which he cited as a major part of his claim that Mom’s blog is really mine) will not be tolerated. Same for Jeff Chiow’s inflammatory rhetoric and fabrications, including his falsely telling the court that I had never been licensed to practice law. And no, the whole, “I didn’t bother to research it,” line of argument doesn’t cut it.  Should this happen again, I guarantee major media coverage. 

Moreover, Grace Church will discover the more it lies, the more it trots out the bombastic rhetoric, and the more it tries to play hard ball, the more quickly people turn their backs on the church.

Here is the letter I sent to the diocese and the church, in which I encourage them to act like Christians.

Yes, I know. Shocking proposition.

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Wednesday, October 23, 2019

With Grace Church Headed to Court, will Bob Malm Man Up and Admit His Perjury? Doubtful.

Let’s face it. Bob Malm’s good at going after dying women, bullying persons like Mike recently received into The Episcopal Church, ignoring the canons, and making excuses why, after 25 years of his lazy backside, Grace Church still didn’t have the finance manual required by church canons. That said, he wasn’t so good at explaining the thousands of dollars in loose cash and stale checks found in the church office. Nor is he good at accepting responsibility for his misconduct.

So do you think Bob will be a man and admit to his perjury prior to the January court date? Doubtful in the extreme.

Maybe Bob should call his purported friends at the Alexandria Police Department (APD) and have a conversation about the Ninth Commandment. Just in case Bob’s not familiar, that’s the one that says, “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.” As in Bob’s courtroom perjury.

Or, since he and Susan Goff appear to be pen pals on the subject, maybe she will be kind enough to have that conversation with the police department.

Doubtful on both counts.




Wednesday, October 2, 2019

Follow-Up Email to the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia

Following the childish antics of Grace parishioners while I protested outside Dysfunctional Bob’s farewell, I sent the following email to bishop Susan Goff and several diocesan officials.

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As you may be aware, I continue to protest Bob Malm’s perjury and Grace Episcopal’s organizational misconduct, while being careful to remain beyond 1,000 feet from the church and the Malm residence. Most recently, I protested outside Bob’s farewell, held this past Sunday at the church; my protests will continue indefinitely.

With that in mind, please make sure that clergy and parishioners at Grace understand that I am exercising my rights under Virginia’s anti-stalking statute, found at https://law.lis.virginia.gov/vacode/title18.2/chapter4/section18.2-60.3/, Specifically, I do not wish to be contacted or threatened by any member of the parish, including clergy, parishioners, and staff, and am prepared to file criminal charges against any person who ignores this request, including Bob Malm and members of his family.

Note that the Rev. David Crosby continues to feel the need to contact me. Given Bob’s courtroom claim that I am a “domestic terrorist,” one would assume that Crosby would maintain a distance adequate to ensure his personal safety.

Similarly, the six members of the parish who rolled past last Sunday while making obscene gestures do themselves, the parish, and the diocese no favors. Indeed, the video footage of these persons that I captured and uploaded to the web has generated considerable discussion of organizational health, both at the church and within the diocese, and none of it has been positive.

On a similar note, the elderly parishioner who rolled up and offered to fight me, only to drive off when I pointed out that I had arranged a police detail, who was watching from a short distance away, should not threaten me again. Should he do so, I will immediately take legal action.

Lastly, I offer the observation that the online comments from Bob’s family, friends, and parishioners are causing lasting damage to the church’s reputation. These include various ad hominem attacks, including that I:
  • Am mentally ill, a notion that Bob assiduously promoted among parishioners and diocesan staff.
  • Have AIDS.
  • Physically abuse my husband Mike, who was received into the Episcopal Church in 2014, married me there, and was forced out of the church by Malm in 2015.
  • Am sexually attracted to Bob.
  • Left the parish on my own, a claim that Bob and the vestry falsely made to church members in their 2017 written talking points.
  • Engaged in criminal conduct while on the church’s vestry.
Leaving aside the mockery these actions make of the baptismal covenant, several of these comments are defamatory, and I am prepared to pursue all appropriate legal remedies against the relevant parties, including the diocese.

I therefore ask that you ensure that all involved understand that I wish no further contact with the parish or those associated with it.

Thank you in advance for your anticipated cooperation in this matter.

Eric Bonetti

Monday, September 30, 2019

Breaking: Sven vanBaar, Former Candidate for Bishop Diocesan of Southern VA, Displays Questionable Ethics, Judgment

Some time ago, the Episcopal Diocese of Southern Virginia elected the Rev. Susan B. Haynes as bishop diocesan. Because her consecration still must be approved by a majority of bishops in the House of Bishops, I wanted to make sure that diocesan officials understand the profound concerns I have about Sven’s qualifications. With that in mind, here is the email I sent to the search committee, together with the attachments.












Friday, September 27, 2019

Tonight’s Gala Reception for Bob Malm Underscores Why Many at Grace Church Deserve Bob Malm






Tonight’s gala reception for Bob Malm underscores why many at Grace Episcopal deserve exactly what they get. Meaning that they deserve Bob Malm, and all the baggage that comes with him, including his perjury, his multiple abuses of power, his bullying, his manipulation, and his feckless attitude towards being rector, despite being paid more than many senior denominational officials.






Christians are called towards peace, reconciliation, health, and healing. What they are not called to is turning a blind eye to misconduct. In the case of Dysfunctional Bob, examples of his misconduct are myriad, ranging from his indifference to the well-being of church employees to his inappropriate comments about those entrusted to his pastoral care.






Yet there will be plenty of people who will turn out tonight to swill wine, socialize, and to get all teary-eyed that Dysfunctional Bob will soon be packing it in, headed towards full-time life on the beach and golf course, replete with a defined benefit plan, paid for by the church, that far exceeds the retirement benefits most of us will receive.






Of course, by turning out, folks lend credibility to Bob and his conduct. At the same time, these same people make no effort to take seriously or address the trauma that Bob has caused people, including Mike and my mother, thus making them modern-day versions of the Scribes and Pharisees who looked the other way when confronted with someone who was suffering.






Ironically, karma has a way of fixing these things. Those who blindly support Bob, who think it’s okay to bully others, who behave badly towards other church members, will tend to attract equally toxic persons to their orbits. And by doing so, they will accelerate Grace Episcopal’s internal problems, while interjecting still more challenges into their own lives.






So, for those turning out to “celebrate” Bob Malm’s 30 years of misfeasance and nonfeasance, I say go for it. Birds of a feather....

Thursday, September 26, 2019

How Does This Square With Forcing Mike Out of The Church?

In his most recent sermon posted to the church website, perjuring priest Bob Malm bloviates on about caring for those who feel cast out. So how does that square with Bob Malm forcing Mike out out of the church?

Here is the relevant part of Bob’s sermon:

And here is Bob’s email, in which, in true passive-aggressive Bob Malm fashion, Bob announces that Mike needs to find a new church:


And here is a photo of Mike being received into the church 16 months earlier, along with our friends Tony and Diane. All three have left the church, along with me and the rest of my family.


So, I have this to say about Bob Malm’s sermon: Total BS. Absolute hypocrisy.

Friday, September 20, 2019

Party With Perjuring Priest Bob Malm!

Join perjuring priest Bob Malm Friday, September 27 at Grace Episcopal for an adults-only reception, celebrating 30 years of Bob’s so-called ministry—spreading the Good News of Jesus, one beach at a time.




Monday, September 9, 2019

Michael Jones’ Sermon: My Response



I read with interest Michael Jones’ sermons from Shrine Mont, particularly in light of Dysfunctional Bob’s impending retirement. And while I agree with much of what he says, particularly his remarks about the importance of being positive, I want to rebut the underlying premises behind his sermons.

Specifically, Grace church is not a wonderful place. Bob Malm is not a wonderful priest. And God is not on the church’s side.
  • Jesus was very clear in offering choice words for clergy who are hypocrites and who interfere with the faith of others. 
  • The Bible is very clear about bearing false witness—as in Bob Malm’s perjury, done in writing, under oath, in front of parishioners, and with legal counsel involved.
  • Jesus would have no use for a church that thinks it’s okay to try to drag a drying woman into court. 
  • God does not approve of the deliberate misuse of memorial donations. 
  • God is outraged when Bob Malm pushes Mike out of the Christian faith, after being received into The Episcopal Church only 18 months earlier.
  • God is not okay with a church where members are so morally bereft as to think it’s okay to urge others to commit suicide.
Nor did Dysfunctional Bob and Sugarland Chiow act in isolation. They acted with the approval of the vestry and a family system that allows, permits, and endorses such conduct. And one can understand the real motives and values of the parish by examining these behaviors and actions, for Jesus is clear: “By their fruits you shall know them.”

In the case of Mike Jones, he and others who wash their hands of these issues offer tacit, if not explicit, endorsement. They are hypocrites of the first order, modern-day Scribes and Pharisees. Turning a blind eye to evil is itself evil. Or as Desmond Tutu says:

If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.

I would add that if you say the elephant is great, wonderful, and doing an awesome job, the mouse will not only be ticked, he will think that you are a liar, a bully, and an enabler. And if you are an organization that makes that claim, the mouse likely will conclude that you are an organizational narcissist.

Meanwhile, Michael Jones conveniently ignores Fanny Belanger’s abrupt resignation, two years early, for “personal reasons.” We all know the real reasons for that, and sweeping the matter under the rug does not help anyone.

Further, even if everything Bob Malm claims is true, and it certainly is not, nothing justifies bullying Mike, lying under oath aka perjury, or trying to drag a dying woman into court. 

Nothing.




Tuesday, September 3, 2019

Hurricane Alert: Bob Malm Rides a Storm Surge of BS Out the Door



In this month’s Grace Notes, Dysfunctional Bob’s last before retirement, he offers a short blurb about “things left undone,” during his tenure. True to form, it’s an utter piece of BS.

  1. Bob only addresses “those things undone” during his so-called “ministry.” While items on that list are myriad, Dysfunctional Bob blithely says he’s tried to make visiting members a priority. Coming from someone who has pretty much been “out of town” any time he has felt like it, who takes six weeks a year of leave and then some, and who has plenty of time for golf, running, and traveling, let’s just say I’m not feeling it.
  2. Dysfunctional Bob conveniently overlooks the other side of sin, which is those things he has done. Bullying the vestry into an insanely generous compensation plan, pushing Mike out of the church/Christian faith, refusing to address misfeasance, nonfeasance and bullying among parishioners and staff, committing perjury, trying to drag a dying woman into court — the list of things Bob has done even surpasses the many areas of his nonfeasance. Nor do I see any sign that Bob will address any of these issues on the way out the door. Being the bully and coward he is, Bob clearly hopes to leave those issues to his successor. And yes, anyone who goes after a dying woman, or Mike, is a bully and a coward, as well as a lowlife.
  3. As to Dysfunctional Bob’s hopes for the Legacy Society, few will leave anything to the parish if the rector is free to unilaterally terminate their membership. The parish belongs to parishioners — those who pay the bills and provide the labor that makes things happen. The rector is there to serve the parish, not the other way around. Until the unbridled clericalism of  Planet Malm is addressed, all I can say is “don’t hold your breath.” And nowhere do I see any sign that Bob has left money to the parish in his will. Res ipsa loquitur.
  4. True to form, Bob’s list of outstanding major building projects is much too short. The faux slate roof still needs to be replaced, there’s tons of rotting wood trim, the nave needs adequate air conditioning, the 1989 double-pane windows need to be replaced, the pole lamps in the parking lot are overdue for replacement , inefficient lighting needs to go, basement windows need to be replaced, and water lines in the original building are at end of life. In short, there’s a ton of work to be done and major bills to go with it.
  5. Bob asserts that people have forgiven him for those things left undone. While folks at Grace are generally good in that department, it’s also fair to say that, being unable to effect change, members in many cases are more resigned that forgiving. That’s in keeping with Dysfunctional Bob’s modus operandi: Do whatever the hell he wants/ignore things, apologize on the way out the door, give a hug, and keep right on trucking. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt to prove it. Don’t need another.
  6. The key thing missing from Bob’s article is the elephant in the room. Being the narcissist that he is, Bob has focused attention and adulation on himself, not God. Like all narcissists, he is toxic, and through thought, word, and deed has taught the parish to be be an organizational narcissist. In short, he has created a toxic parish in which it’s okay to lie, bully others (even the dying) commit perjury, encourage others to commit suicide and more. Indeed, in the midst of his efforts to portray me as a “domestic terrorist” and mentally ill, the one thing that never came up anywhere in the parish was any love or concern for my mother, Mike, or me. The Jean Reeds and Kemp Williams of the parish may bloviate about their Christian faith and being “servants of Christ,” but their lack of concern for others puts the lie to their words. And I have plenty of internal church emails that prove my point. Yes, Bob can be friendly and charismatic, but friendly and faithful are not the same thing, and Bob’s faith is nominal, at best. Moreover, if you doubt Bob is a narcissist, just look at his narcissistic rages—those over-the-top explosions that happen when he feels threatened. I’ve seen several, and they are utterly contrary to any standard of Christian conduct, as well as strongly suggestive of narcissism. Please quote me on that.
At this point, I primarily feel sorry for folks at Grace Church. Bob Malm played them, and he is leaving a huge mess behind. Worst of all, many in the church still have absolutely no clue that the parish is a mess. Indeed, many regard the toxic morass at the parish as normative, which is a sorry state of affairs on multiple fronts.

So, as a counterpoint to Bob’s empty triumphalism and BS about how Grace represents “true religion,” and “taking part of Grace with you,” I offer up this question:

If Grace is such a slice of paradise, why the current state of decline? 

PS Lisa Medley claims the church is “thriving.” If that’s the case, why did Fanny Belanger walk out two years early? Why have more than 1/3 of pledging units left? As I stated previously, lying has become normative for many parishioners and underscores the fact that the church is toxic.