Showing posts with label clergy perjury parish Grace Episcopal Alexandria. Show all posts
Showing posts with label clergy perjury parish Grace Episcopal Alexandria. Show all posts

Thursday, May 7, 2020

Move to Virtual Services Underscores Interpersonal Problems at Grace Episcopal Alexandria

PB Michael Curry shows a little love to fellow Yale alum perjuring priest Bob Malm
As churches nationwide hold virtual services amidst the pandemic, one of the hot topics has been how to keep online meetings safe. Safe from Zoom-bombing, safe from misconduct from within the church.

These discussions illustrate a longstanding problem at Grace Church under the reign of perjuring priest Bob Malm that continues to this day, which is the lack of formal or informal policies regarding how parishioners interact with one another.

Consider, for example, the online Safe Church training offered by VTS, located here. In it, there are a series of valuable recommendations regarding Zoom and other online fora, and how to keep these virtual places safe. Most of the recommendations are common sense, like transparency and having unrelated adults present. Others are specific to virtual settings, like being aware of what is on your screen, and turning off screen sharing for others. Let’s face it — whether it’s confidential documents relating to a clergy transition, emails from unpopular former parishioners, or photos from someone’s college days, there’s plenty out there that isn’t x-rated, yet still not appropriate for widespread dissemination.

Most telling though is Sarah’s comment that all community rules about how we talk and interact with each other apply online. That begs the question: What are those rules at Grace Church?

To start with, there are no written guidelines within the parish. That dearth of written guidance means we are left to look at de facto guidelines in the form of mores and social norms. That’s where things get really ugly — and we can see just how ugly by looking at real-life examples of conversations and behavior that I’ve observed within Grace Church. These include:
  • Gossip about one parishioner’s alleged penile implant. Seriously—you can’t make this stuff up.
  • Conversation about how one recently married parishioner allegedly is secretly gay or bisexual.
  • Aggressive conduct by one single female parishioner, including attempting to push married men up against the wall and kissing them after having too much to drink.
  • Rumors and conversations about affairs among married parishioners.
  • Discussions about Bob and Leslie Malm’s legendarily noisy verbal altercations (yes, I get that clergy are always the subject of conversation, but do I really need to know about this? Bob can behave badly enough within the church that I don’t particularly want to know the specifics of his conduct at home. But hey, to use his phrase, his is a “close” family.) 
  • Written statements by Sugarland Chiow in public court documents claiming that I am a “domestic terrorist,” a “serial liar,” that I never was licensed as an attorney, and referencing a fictional church shooting in a non-existent town in Texas.
  • The ugly conduct of Alison “Bullying for Jesus” Campbell, Lisa “Princess Porcine” Medley and other purported parish leaders.
  • Bullying within the altar guild and choir and among church staff.
  • A member of Lisa Medley’s family urging me in writing to commit suicide.
Of course, in all of this perjuring priest Bob Malm has consistently turned a blind eye to misconduct in the parish and engaged in a certain amount of it himself. For example, one only has to look at perjuring priest Bob Malm’s references to me as “sick,” “twisted,” and “dysfunctional” to realize just how screwed up Grace Church is, and how bogus Bob’s claims are when it comes to professing to be a Christian.

Nor is the diocese any better. As I have noted many times, the diocese not only refers to these issues in writing as “not of weighty and material importance to the ministry of the church,” but it even has gone so far as to say that Bob Malm’s perjury is okay on the grounds that he hasn’t faced criminal charges. And that comes from Bishop Susan Goff, the Rev. Sven vanBaars (now a delegate to GC) and the Rev. Melissa Hollerith (laughably enough, ethics instructor at St. Albans and wife of Randy Hollerith, the Dean of the National Cathedral). 

Even ++Michael Curry has direct knowledge of the allegations involving Bob Malm, yet does nothing. 

So, it’s fair to say that even at its highest echelons, The Episcopal Church is morally bankrupt and utterly broken. 

Thus, if you are concerned about making the world a better, more humane and loving place, you should avoid The Episcopal Church, Grace Church, and their toxic behavior.


Thursday, April 23, 2020

See for Yourself What People are Saying About Perjuring Priest Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal Church

One of the things that’s very cool about change.org is that petition signers can include their reasons for signing.

Below are a few of the comments about perjuring priest Bob Malm and The Episcopal Church.

I particularly like the observation that it is situations like this that lead to young people leaving the church. It’s spot on and underscores why the diocese can hold visioning exercises all it wants, but until it puts its ethical house in order it’s going to face continuing decline. Yes, I get that Susan Goff and the other fat cats in Mayo House are following the advice of their attorneys who are telling them to avoid anything that might lead to liability, but it’s advice that actually hurts the church in the long haul.

Just as the Catholic church  played hardball for years over its abuse, but now faces accountability, so too will the day come when The Episcopal Church will be held accountable. Whether it’s via a court of law, or via members turning their backs on the church, the Episcopal Church cannot play these sorts of games and expect to survive into the 22nd century.






Wednesday, April 22, 2020

Demands that Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Be Held Accountable Strengthen as Online Petition Approaches 10,000 Signatures

Petition to Hold Perjruing Priest Bob Malm Accountable

Demands for accountability in the Episcopal Church grow, as my online petition approaches 10,000 signatures. That’s more than the membership of more than 50 church dioceses, and as many signatures as members in the newly re-admittted Diocese of Cuba. The petition demands the the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia conduct a full, fair, and impartial investigation into perjuring priest Bob Malm’s conduct, then act on the results.

The petition is located on change.org and can be found here.

Ironically, addressing Bob’s misconduct, which has brought disrepute on the entire Episcopal Church, is in the best interest of diocese and the larger church. But, as Rhett Butler said to Scarlett O’Hara, “How tightly we clutch the chains that bind us.” Indeed, the diocese and parish continue to try to defend their conduct in court, proving beyond a doubt that both are morally bankrupt. 

The efforts to justify and defend their conduct come, even as parishioners increasingly recognize that Grace Church is in dire trouble, having shed one-third of its pledging units in recent years. Indeed, loss of any further members will require that staff positions — some of the very few controllable costs still left to the parish — be eliminated. Moreover, the church is fast approaching the point where it’s simply no longer able to carrying its existing cost structure, and it must close its doors, offload the physical plant, or merge. 

Simply put, time is running out.

Meanwhile, clergy at the church continue to mislead people about the reality, which is that by and large we are already in the new normal. In other words, this isn’t a storm to be weathered:
  • The recession isn’t going away any time soon.
  •  Job loss will continue for the foreseeable future. 
  • A COVID-19 vaccine isn’t going to be available for at least a year.
So yes, at some point in-person services may resume. But many, especially those at elevated risk due to age and other factors, will continue to avoid attending services on a regular basis. It is also difficult to see how use of the common cup will continue. And changes in giving patterns are unlikely to change for the better.

It’s also worth noting that recent Grace Church publications are sloppy in their references to the current situation. Worship is NOT suspended. Repeat: Worship is NOT suspended. In-person worship is suspended, as was often the days of the early church when it faced persecution. Yet vague references to the suspension of worship in the diocese could well lead someone unfamiliar with the situation to conclude that worship is cancelled until June. Certainly not helpful, and clergy, staff, and volunteers alike need to edit carefully to avoid being sloppy in discussing this issue.

Perhaps when all is said and done, folks at the clergy perjury parish will learn to appreciate the church’s members, instead of concluding that they sit at the right hand of God the father to judge both the quick and the dead, and they can choose who is a member of the parish, and who is not. (Yup, I am talking about Lisa Medley, Alison Campbell, Jan Spence, several others, and the altar guild.)

But then, given the prevailing organizational narcissism, somehow I doubt it. 

In fact, members of Grace Church likely will continue to believe that it’s okay to urge others to commit suicide, to try to drag the dying into court, and for clergy like Bob Malm to commit perjury. After all, the diocese says all of these things are okay, so why should members not follow Susan Goff’s lead?