Just moments ago, our online petition demanding that the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia investigate perjuring priest Bob Malm passed 10,000 signatures. The news comes despite a brief lull in signatures earlier this week.
Check it out!
Petition Demanding an Investigation of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Garners More than 10,000 Signatures!
One of the things that’s very cool about change.org is that petition signers can include their reasons for signing.
Below are a few of the comments about perjuring priest Bob Malm and The Episcopal Church.
I particularly like the observation that it is situations like this that lead to young people leaving the church. It’s spot on and underscores why the diocese can hold visioning exercises all it wants, but until it puts its ethical house in order it’s going to face continuing decline. Yes, I get that Susan Goff and the other fat cats in Mayo House are following the advice of their attorneys who are telling them to avoid anything that might lead to liability, but it’s advice that actually hurts the church in the long haul.
Just as the Catholic church played hardball for years over its abuse, but now faces accountability, so too will the day come when The Episcopal Church will be held accountable. Whether it’s via a court of law, or via members turning their backs on the church, the Episcopal Church cannot play these sorts of games and expect to survive into the 22nd century.
You really have to hand it to The Episcopal Church. At a time when all indicators suggest the denomination is dying, it clings tenaciously to its perceived prerogatives. That includes its utter commitment to ignoring Bob Malm’s perjury.
As a result, well over a million people have seen social media posts, ads, and more, including my online petition on change.org. Apropos the latter, almost 170,000 people have seen the petition. That’s particularly problematic for the church, because change.org holds enormous traction among young people, particularly those with more liberal/inclusive views. In short, Bob’s conduct is eroding the very future of a church that as it stands, at last count had just 1,676,349 members, making it the fourteenth largest denomination in the US. And except for the PCUSA, it has the fastest rate of decline.
And before some imbecile like Sugarland Chiow comes along carrying on about how I should stop sharing my observations about the church, let me be clear: It is Bob Malm’s misconduct, that of the vestry, and that of the diocese that is causing these problems. In fact, in 2015, the parish, speaking through Jeff Chiow, refused my offer to settle things in exchange for nothing more than Bob Malm’s written commitment to stop his shunning and bullying.
Having done so, perjuring priest Bob Malm, Sugarland Chiow, the parish and the diocese need to live with the results of their decision.
You have to hand it to The Episcopal Church. It’s not just set in its ways. It’s bound and determined to ruin itself.
Now, with more than 7,000 signatures, my petition asking Bishop Susan Goff and The Episcopal Diocese of Virginia to conduct a full, fair, open and independent investigation of Bob Malm’s perjury is still being ignored. That’s right—a denomination that experts say is now less than 20 years away from collapse is hellbent on avoiding dealing with a priest who commits perjury and tries to drag the dying into court,
Perjuring priest Bob Malm continues to serve as interim rector of St. Gabriel’s, Marion Massachusetts. There, in response to the COVID-19 pandemic, he assures parishioners that they are in his “daily prayers.” That’s far from comforting, coming from a perjurer and priest of whom someone close to him as said, “it’s just a job for him.”
Meanwhile, The Episcopal Church’s insurance carrier continues to attempt to defend the actions of the diocese and parish in court, with attorney Diane DiBlasio working on setting a motions court date in June in our case. Proof positive that The Episcopal Church is as stubborn as it is stupid.
And let’s not forget: The Episcopal Church and much of its clergy is morally bankrupt,
Check it out! Our petition asking the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia to show a little ethics by investigating perjuring priest Bob Malm has zoomed past 4000 signatures. We’re on our way to 5,000 and beyond!
Given that as of 2018 the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia only had 68,902 baptized members, you’d think Susan Goff and the other fat cats at Mayo House would get the hint. But as things stand, Bob Malm’s perjury is “not of weighty and material importance to the ministry of the church.” In fact, the gods of Mayo House will only deign to consider the matter if Bob Malm faces criminal charges. I guess that means if you are molesting children in an Episcopal church, you’re safe. After all, the diocese itself has said that the touchstone for it to get involved is criminal charges. But then, there is an exception for sexual misconduct...just look at other clergy disciplinary cases in Northern VA. I guess as long as it doesn’t involve sex you are okay.
And folks wonder why the Episcopal church is dying. No surprises there.
You have to hand it to The Episcopal Church—it is remarkably stubborn in its defense of abuse. In fact, if it took such an extreme stand on women’s rights, LGBTQ+ issues, and other important social issues, it would have been ordaining women in the 1700’s.
Doubt it? More than 2,000 signatories later, Bishop Susan Goff continues to hang out in that antebellum heap, Mayo House, trying to ignore Bob Malm’s perjury. She’s never once even had the integrity to talk directly with me, but she knows enough to be able to sign off on the notion that The Episcopal Church will only deal with clergy perjury if there are criminal charges, despite the fact that the clergy disciplinary canons expressly forbid “conduct involving dishonesty, fraud, deceit or misrepresentation“ as well as “any conduct unbecoming a member of the clergy.” See for yourself:
And here is a screen cap of the petition:
And people actually wonder why the Episcopal Church is collapsing.
Early yesterday, Mom died, literally minutes before I got to her home. The end was peaceful, as she dozed off and simply slipped away. I sat with her for the next several hours, holding her soft, frail hand, telling her I love her. Finally, a medical professional was able to brave the icy roads to declare her dead, and I went to the hotel for a few hours of fitful sleep.
Mom did manage to hang in there much longer than medical experts anticipated, due to both being a fighter and her skill as a retired RN. And she had several things she wanted to see happen before she died, including the end of abusive priest Bob Malm’s fraudulent protective order against me, which expired this past Friday. And she took gleeful pride in seeing photos of me and a small group of fellow protestors last Sunday, directly in front of Grace Episcopal Alexandria, my former church, where Bob Malm was rector for 30 years. Indeed, until the last 24 hours, Mom remained as alert as ever, even though she was unable to communicate.
No memorial service is planned, but if you would like to do something to honor Mom’s life and the love she brought to so many, please share this petition or chip in a few dollars so that others can sign.
My deepest thanks to everyone who has traveled with Mom and me on this most difficult journey.
One of the amusing things about my social media presence is that Lisa Gardner, Lindsey Malm Anders and the other trolls connected with Grace Episcopal like to claim that no one supports my efforts. That of course is a bunch of hooey.
Leaving aside Dee Parsons and my almost 1500 Twitter followers, we are fast approaching 300 signatories on my petition to the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia to conduct a full, fair, and impartial investigation of Bob Malm’s abusive conduct. Again, impartial — not an untrained intake officer violating policy and calling up Bob Malm to ask him if he did anything wrong, then calling that an investigation.
Of course, the large number of people supporting me underscores another issue with Bob Malm, Grace Episcopal, Sugarland Chiow, and the Diocese of Virginia. The issue is that truth was never a relevant factor for any of the above when it comes to addressing conflict or acting like Christians.
Nor does Bob Malm’s disclaimer, “Well, I’m not Jesus,” hold water. While the dissimilarity between Bob Malm and Jesus is well established, the disconnect does not justify perjury and other illegal behavior. In short, Bob’s comment is a red herring, nothing more.
Earlier today, I got some good news, which is that the Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests (SNAP) will start sharing information on my change.org petition to hold perjuring priest Bob Malm accountable. Additionally, executive director Zach Heiner signed my petition.
Just a couple of days ago, I launched my online petition demanding that the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia and Bishop Susan Goff act with integrity and address perjuring priest Bob Malm’s abusive conduct. Already, we are zooming along towards 100 signatures, and momentum is building.
That sad thing is that, with so many ills in the world, time and money have to be spent trying to push the diocese to do what should be normative—to address abusive conduct by clergy. But instead, the diocese acts like a little child; the more you ask it to clean up its room, the more it pouts and resists.