Showing posts with label baptismal covenant. Show all posts
Showing posts with label baptismal covenant. Show all posts

Friday, July 31, 2020

Rector Candidates: This Should Give You Pause

Grace Episcopal Alexandria


This screen cap, probably more so than any other, illustrates the toxic nature of Grace Church, the clergy perjury parish.

In it, a then college-aged parishioner who grew up in the church not only uses the homophobic handle. “Eat_A-Dick,” but urges me to commit suicide. Nor is this someone on the fringes of the church; both her parents have served on the vestry, and as wardens.

It is a sad state of affairs indeed when this is the result of a lifetime in the church. You need to know that this exemplifies how Grace parishioners live into the baptismal covenant, for if you are serious about your faith, this is what you will be dealing with during your tenure with the church.

Nor should you think that this is a one-off misstep and that folks are sorry for their mistakes. As it happens, the church is in court, even as we speak, defending six lawsuits against it and various persons connected with the church, and trying to claim that the conduct in question is defensible.

It’s not.

Wednesday, July 8, 2020

Great Comment About Perjuring Priest Bob Malm

Over the past 10 hours, I’ve been making the rounds on social media, making sure people know that perjuring priest Bob Malm has said he plans to defend his efforts to drag my mother, then dying of COPD, into court via a subpoena that was illegal under state law. Here is one of comments.

Saturday, March 28, 2020

Farewell, Amy “Middle Finger” Medrick

Amy Medrick Alexandria

The recent news that parish administrator Amy Medrick is leaving Grace Church is sad, for in many ways she typified the dysfunction in the church.

From her emailed comments that she was not comfortable with Mike Smith having her personal email address (horrors!), to her on-the-fly and inaccurate expositions of canon law (for example, her statement that it had been many months since Mike and I had been active members of the parish, despite the contrary provisions of the national church), to her flipping me the middle finger while I was out protesting the church’s efforts to drag my dying mother into court, Amy personified the problems in the church. Paranoia, arrogance, marginal competence, lack of compassion and thoroughly un-Christian behavior all rolled into one to form a profoundly ugly package. Even her experience with property management and development made little difference—as I posted earlier, even a casual glance at the church reveals multiple facially obvious problems that are being ignored.

To be fair, Amy did finally get rid of the utterly dysfunctional deployment of ACS, the church management software package previously used. While ACS is best in the business, it is pricey, long-in-the-tooth, and the initial deployment and subsequent maintenance at Grace was a total Charlie Foxtrot. In short, exactly what you would expect under perjuring priest Bob Malm’s reign of dysfunction. Indeed, discussions about how to fix that sordid mess were under way in 2011, yet it was not until shortly before perjuring priest Bob Malm’s departure in 2019 that the new Breeze software was deployed — a telling indicator of just how inept things were under Bob Malm.

Fair winds and following seas, Amy. And even when you’re gone, don’t hesitate to flip me off in public. Nothing like truth in advertising when it comes to The Episcopal Church.


Thursday, January 24, 2019

Check it Out: Questions for Assistant Rector Candidates

With the parish’s annual meeting now only a few days away, Grace church has said it hopes to begin the search for a full-time assistant rector shortly afterwards. With that in mind, and recognizing that this controversy likely will come up during the interview process (and should!), here are some insider’s questions that candidates can use when they meet with Bob Malm.

  • Have you personally reached out to Mr. Bonetti and his family to resolve this conflict? Have you spoken directly with his mother about these issues? His spouse? How did that go? 
  • It looks like you made a settlement offer to Mr. Bonetti. If accepted, how would a settlement ensure your safety and that of the parish?
  • I see that you refer to Eric as “dysfunctional,” “sick,” and “twisted” in your emails to the diocese. How does that comport with your vows as a priest and the baptismal covenant?
  • You claim that random words, like “psychological torture,” taken out of context are a threat. Can you help me understand how these are threats?
  • You included Eric’s spouse in your email instructing them to find a new church. Why was that necessary?
  • It looks like Mr. Bonetti attempted to resolve this matter with you in January 2016. Why did you say no?
  • I understand the church attempted to subpoena Eric’s mother, who is dying of COPD. Can you explain to me why that was necessary?
  • You have stated on multiple occasions that you believe that Mr. Bonetti is mentally ill. If that’s the case, what steps did you take to get him help? Have you ever discussed your concerns directly with him?
  • Do you think Grace Church’s internal dynamics are healthy? If so, why?
  • Why did Fanny Belanger abruptly leave with two years left on her letter of agreement?
  • How do your actions as rector reflect the baptismal covenant to members of the church?
  • What effect has this conflict had on the church and its finances, and what is your plan for resolving these issues?
  • The church has lost more than a 100 pledging units since this conflict arose. Why do you think that is and how do you plan to address those issues?
  • How do you feel about the fact that Eric and his entire family have left the Christian faith over this conflict?
  • What do you see as the ultimate outcome of this conflict?
Of course, some of these are tough questions to ask during an interview. But candidates who don’t ask these questions run the risk of being dragged into a situation that damages their careers and diminishes their own faith. 

One further caution: If you interview for this position and choose to explore issues related to this conflict, make sure you get actual answers to your questions, then “trust but verify.” Don’t be taken in by Bob’s usual routines of denial, evasion and charm bombing.

My advice to candidates: Learn as much as you can,  make your own decision, proceed at your own peril. 

Wednesday, May 30, 2018

See for Yourself: Profane Suggestion from Parishioner That I Kill Myself

During the baptismal liturgy, Episcopalians recite the baptismal covenant, which includes the vow to, “Respect the dignity of every human being.”

Check out this great example of the baptismal covenant from a college-aged member of the parish.