Showing posts with label Jeff Chiow. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jeff Chiow. Show all posts

Monday, December 2, 2019

See for Yourself: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm’s Original Request for a Protective Order Shows the Real Grace Church

This one is great. In it, we see Bob’s facially inadequate claims of threats,  which have, thus far, enjoyed Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s professional support. In addition, more of Bobs intimations of mental illness (including multiple personalities, a disorder closely associated with severe abuse), as well as his facially irrelevant letter from the bishop and his references to blogging. Note too that Bob lies in his chronology about the meeting in Fredericksburg; at no time was there any discussion about “following the bishop’s guidance.” To the contrary, Bob agreed to stop his bullying. It’s also noteworthy that Bob lied in front of the bishop, falsely stating, “Having resigned from the vestry, you were no longer eligible to serve as a trustee.” To which I replied, “Why then, are none of your current trustees vestry members?” Bob had no response to that.

Check it out.

Meanwhile, as interim pastor Michael Guy talks about preaching the Gospel, this is how Grace Church preaches the gospel in real life. As in, “by their fruits you shall know them.”

Pastor Guy, welcome to Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish.


















Friday, November 22, 2019

See for Yourself: Bob Malm Claims the Right to Use the Court System to “Discipline” Former Church Members

Need further evidence that Bob is trying to game the court system? In this email to Wartburg Watch editor Dee Parsons, Bob claims the right to use the court system as a “disciplinary measure” against me, a former member. Hmmm, what next? The auto-de-fe? I know—it’s the Episcosition, Judge Robert Hiller Malm presiding. Heretics, report to courtroom 3. Infidels, courtroom 2. Those who criticize the Grand Inquisitor, report directly to the dungeons.

If Jesus is “truth,” (gotta love how Bob uses quotation marks to beg meaning. Must be a Tabor thing.) I wonder what Jesus thinks about fabrications in court pleadings. Something about false witness....

I’m wondering, too: “Commonwealth Court” and its “Magistrate.” Never heard of such a thing. Is that located in Jeff Chiow’s imaginary, “Sugarland Texas”?











Tuesday, October 1, 2019

Potential Interims, Check it Out: More Ugly Comments from the Grace Episcopal Crowd

You really have to hand it to the crowd at Grace Episcopal: Even as the church implodes, they keep up the same ugly rhetoric that got them in trouble in the first place. Meanwhile, our good buddy Lisa G., aka Lisa Gardner, just can’t get it through her head that, even if everything she says were true, this isn’t the way to handle it. But hey, she’s a Christian.

She’s also profoundly stupid. If you’re going to post defamatory content, don’t proffer details that would identify yourself.

Nor does Lisa recognize that her argument is a tu quoque logical fallacy. No matter how you parse it, Bob Malm is a perjurer. Lisa can toss out every ad hominem attack out there, but Bob Malm is still a perjurer.

Wonder how long before Grace drops to 150 pledging units.

Prospective interims, beware. This sort of discourse is part and parcel of life at Grace Church following 30 years of Dysfunctional Bob.


Wednesday, September 18, 2019

If Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow Really Believes That Grace Episcopal is the Victim of “Domestic Terrorism”....

If Jeff Chiow, attorney for Grace Episcopal, really believes that Grace Church is the victim of “domestic terrorism,” why does he bring his wife and kids every Sunday? What kind of husband and father does that?

Or could it be that we see Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s and Dysfunctional Bob Malm’s veracity at issue?

In either case, we see their Christian ethics for what they are: Pretextual tokenism at its worst.

As for the family/parish system that allows this behavior: Morally bankrupt.

Celebrate 30 years of that on September 27.






Monday, September 2, 2019

See for Yourself: Member of Grace Episcopal Alexandria Urges Me to Commit Suicide

Want to see just how toxic Grace Episcopal is under Bob Malm? Here’s a social media post in which a college-aged member of the parish urges me to commit suicide.

The fact that Bob Malm, Jeff Chiow, the vestry, the diocese, and the members of this church try to defend this conduct tells you everything you need to know. And let’s not forget that the Diocese of Virginia says it fully supports Bob Malm and the parish. So clearly the diocese thinks this sort of thing is okay. That’s no surprise, though, since the diocese also thinks perjury is acceptable conduct for clergy as long as they aren’t criminally convicted.

If that’s your idea of a healthy church, or the Christian faith, no thanks. You can keep it.



Friday, August 23, 2019

Sugarland — Bob Malm’s Fantasy Life

Here’s a repost of another great window into the spiritual life of Grace Episcopal, Jeff Chiow, and Bob Malm.

In this request for admission, Jeff Chiow and Bob Malm reference a non-existent shooting the fictional city (one word, if you please) of “Sugarland” Texas. They also invoke the hashtag “clearthepews,” which I have never used.

Of course, as an attorney, Jeff Chiow submits pleadings with the express understanding that they are true to the best of his knowledge and belief, and after making reasonable effort to ensure same.

So where did Jeff come up with a non-existent city? Either he’s spectacularly oblivious to the need to proof his work and to act with integrity as an officer of the court, or he’s a liar. I leave it to readers to decide which. Same for his client, Bob Malm.

And if Jeff really believes the church is threatened by terrorists, why does he continue to bring his kids to church? Wouldn’t that be placing them in harm’s way? Or are Jeff’s pleadings and actions dishonest and unethical?

You decide.






Sunday, August 4, 2019

Grace Church’s Rhetoric Disrespects Victims of Violence, Promotes Divisive Conduct



Yesterday’s horrific news of active shooters in two American cities underscores both the prevalence of violence in our society, and the trends that encourage borderline or anti-social personalities to engage in acts of bigotry, violence and oppression. And while no one suggests that Bob Malm or Grace church overtly support violence, the rhetoric the church engages in does, I think, contribute in a small way to these larger issues.

Specifically, in recent years we have seen an increase in hate-filled, disrespectful rhetoric across all levels of society. In many instances, this rhetoric is justified based on the desired outcome—an approach that, until now, was considered unacceptable in mainstream society. So whether it’s winning an election, or barring asylum-seekers, or simply getting the upper hand in a dispute, many forms of rhetoric previously off limits are now fair game.

The sad reality, too, is that words matter. Words hurt. Words can cause violence and hatred. Borderline personalities by definition need little to set them off, and the disaffected and marginalized in our society may already feel anger and resentment.

In the case of Grace Church, the rhetoric coming from Bob Malm and Jeff Chiow, with its references to “domestic terrorism” and other inflammatory language, is highly inappropriate. Using language of this sort tells people that this sort of conduct is okay, both within church and within society at large, as it demonstrates disrespect for others. After all, if a priest can try to go after perceived enemies by referring to those individuals as “dysfunctional” and “terrorists,” and “starved for attention,” including in discussions with the church vestry and diocesan staff, then some inevitably will conclude that this sort of rhetoric is an acceptable way to solve problems.

At the same time, using these buzzwords to describe online criticism, and taking words out of context, is disrespectful to the very real human tragedy confronting many Americans. For Bob Malm and Grace Church to claim that they are victims of “domestic terrorism” is a grave injustice to all who have lost loved ones or otherwise been traumatized by violence. The reality is the Bob has lived a privileged life of very little work, and a whole lot of leisure, while those affected by the violence of El Paso and Dayton now face lives of enduring sorrow and pain.

Inflammatory rhetoric of the sort deployed by Grace Church, Bob Malm and Jeff Chiow also demonstrates profound disrespect for the first responders involved in these and other tragedies. When the risk and sacrifice these women and men make is trivialized into nothing more than the rhetoric for a strategic lawsuit against public participation (SLAPP) case, as here, society looks past the very real courage, commitment and bravery that is called upon in situations such as this.

Of course, this sort of conduct also makes a mockery of the baptismal covenant. That said, I long ago realized that the latter means nothing to Bob Malm and Jeff Chiow—it’s just a bunch of empty words that get said on Sundays, with no larger meaning for day-to-day life. Like the Nicene Creed, pretty, quaint words, but nothing more.

Meanwhile, as one of our Supreme Court justices noted, the best defense against misuse of the free speech guaranteed by the First Amendment is more free speech. I therefore will continue to spread word far and wide of the toxic mess that is Grace Church and the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia. In doing so, people can form their own opinions. And ironically enough, Bob’s choice of rhetoric is a lose-lose situation for the church: If true, people will stay away. If false, people will stay away. 

At this point, nothing Bob Malm or Grace Church can do is likely to repair any time soon the harm Bob Malm has inflicted upon this particular faith community. Bob’s rhetoric is hateful and ugly, as are his lies, and there’s simply no avoiding those issues.

Thursday, August 1, 2019

See for Yourself: Grace Episcopal Says it is the Victim of Domestic Terrorism

Just in case you thought Grace Episcopal couldn’t be any more toxic, here is the relevant section of the church’s pleadings in the Venango County (PA) Court of Common Pleas, in which rector Bob Malm and church attorney Jeff Chiow tell the court that the church is the victim of domestic terrorism.

A bit of context: Sugarland Chiow tried to tell the court that the subpoena was “validly-issued” (sic), despite the fact that Pennsylvania law does not permit subpoenas in protection from abuse cases. Yet he claims to have expended more than $100,000 worth of time researching and preparing for the case. Nor is Jeff Chiow aka Sugarland newly admitted to practice law. Indeed, he is a shareholder at Rogers, Joseph, O’Donnell, which styles itself a “boutique litigation firm.”

Anyone get the idea that Sugarland was trying to pull a fast one on the Pennsylvania courts? If nothing else, Sugarland didn’t exactly enhance his credibility.

Of course, no matter how you parse it, the church’s claims are either true, in which case one might conclude that it is best to avoid the church; or they are false, in which case one might conclude that it is best to avoid the church, but for wholly different reasons.


Saturday, June 8, 2019

More Media Coverage Coming!

Breaking news! More media coverage of Dysfunctional Bob, Sugarland Chiow, and the #fakechristians crowd at Grace Episcopal. 

Coming July 4 weekend, to a media outlet near you!




Wednesday, April 3, 2019

Good Article on Attorney Obligations to Verify “Facts”

One of the most troubling things about this case is Episcopal Church attorney Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow’s false statements of fact to the courts. For those who may be unfamiliar with the details of my case, Jeff Chiow, a former vestry member of Grace Church, repeatedly made false statements in his pleadings, including false statements of fact. These include:
  • That I had never practiced law.
  • That I never served as a police officer.
  • That I violated the existing court order.
While Jeff and his clients (Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal Church) may argue that they did not intend to mislead the courts, the first two are statements of fact. As such, it is not sufficient to simply say, “Well, my client told me.” There is an affirmative duty to conduct reasonable independent inquiry. In this regard, even a cursory review of publicly available data would have made clear that these statements were fabrications,.

Apropos the third claim, violating the court’s order, nothing in the law, the facts, or Sugarland’s pleadings themselves supports this conclusion. Intentionally misleading the court in this matter is a serious violation of an attorney’s ethical obligations as an officer of the court.

As one attorney and author states, “zealous advocacy is not synonymous with recklessness or indifference.” Meaning one cannot simply toss assertions out there and hope that something sticks, as Jeff Chiow has done.

Of course, in doing so, Jeff is doing so as the church’s representative, so as an organization, Grace Church is equally culpable.

Read the full article, published in the New York Law Journal, at https://www.stroock.com/siteFiles/Publications/NewYorkLawJournal.pdf.

Friday, March 29, 2019

Yet Another of Bob Malm’s Courtroom Lies

Here’s another example of Bob Malm’s many lies.

In this filing with the Alexandria Circuit Court, Bob Malm assures the court that I never practiced law, and never served as a police officer.


Here is a copy of my  Pennsylvania attorney license registration, which shows that I am now happily retired:


And here is a photo of me, taken in 2007, at DC Pride, where I and other sworn officers represented the Arlington Police Department.




Bob Malm, perjuring priest.

Bob Malm, lying trailer park trash.


Thursday, December 27, 2018

Bob Malm’s Claims That Grace is Threatened by Domestic Terrorism: Harmful to Children?

The Washington Post recently ran an article that was syndicated nationwide, “How many American children have hidden from gun violence?” The article examined the prevalence of lockdown drills, used to prepare students and staff for a possible active shooter, and the pyschological effect these drills have on children. The conclusion: Such drills, while perhaps necessary, can be profoundly traumatic to children.




That begs the question: As Grace church, aka St. Dysfunction, transitions to Fortress Grace, replete with “single-button emergency transmitters at the ready” during divine worship, rekeyed locks on exterior doors, additional outdoor floodlights and interior security measures, and new fencing, what is the effect on children, especially at Grace Episcopal School? Given Bob Malm’s efforts to stoke fears and manipulate perceptions, this is a legitimate question. My belief is that Bob Malm has deliberately caused stress and anxiety to staff, students, and parents as part of his efforts to get the upper hand in our dispute. If accurate, that conclusion reinforces the notion that Bob is a priest in name only, and has lost all sense of ethical boundaries.

Lest anyone minimize the potential effect on students at Grace Episcopal School, one need only look to Lisa Medley’s claims, posted on The Wartburg Watch, in which she claimed that parents have requested armed guards at the school. Leaving aside the fact that very few armed guards have training adequate to deal with an active shooter, and the fact that the last thing first responders need when confronted with an active shooter is to deal with multiple armed individuals, Lisa’s claim illustrates the damage caused by Dysfunctional Bob’s manipulative behavior.


Of course, I’m not a psychologist, nor do I have any way to assess the damage that may be caused by Bob’s fictional claims. But my gut instinct tells me that the harm is not inconsequential. If nothing else, Bob’s manipulation and dishonesty, and lack of ethics in this matter, sets a poor example for children who may be inclined to look up to a member of the clergy, no matter how unjustified it may be to regard Dysfunctional Bob in any sort of positive light.

There’s another wrinkle in all of this, which is the lack of common sense evinced by Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow. By virtue of his inflammatory rhetoric, now part of the public record, Jeff improperly sought to influence the judicial process, without any regard for the effect his dialogue would have when it inevitably went public. And even if his efforts to obtain a settlement that included a confidentiality clause had succeeded, this was a half-baked, foolish approach at best, for court pleadings are a matter of public record unless sealed; the latter is quite difficult to obtain. Thus, Sugarland’s references to “online rantings and ravings,” “domestic terrorism,” and more are all now in the public domain. As a result, generations from now people will be able to see these documents, and marvel that a member of the clergy thought that this sort of dialogue was appropriate.

But then, we’re talking about Dysfunctional Bob and a diocese that to this day declines to provide Bob with adult supervision, so no surprises there.


Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Grace Episcopal: Photos of Thanksgivings Past

In yet another sign that St. Dysfunction, aka Grace Episcopal Alexandria, is coming unraveled thanks to Bob Malm’s weird claims of being threatened by “domestic terrorism,” the church has announced that there will be no Thanksgiving meal this year. Dinner at the church, for anyone who wanted to come, was a tradition Mike and I started and for which we paid all basic expenses. Sadly, the tradition survived our departure by only a few years.

Here are some photos.




















Saturday, November 17, 2018

The “Go Kill Yourself” Crowd at St. Dysfunction Returns to the Fray

Following the recent coverage in The Wartburg Watch of Bob Malm’s vendetta against me, the liars and bullies of Grace Church again have felt the need to enter the fray.

Attached are screen caps of comments from a parishioner at Grace Episcopal in which, like the clueless resident of Sugarland she is, someone (most likely Lisa Medley), tries to defend Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal by:
  1. Lying about my experiences with the church.
  2. Trying to trash Wartburg Watch editor Dee Parsons whom, if one knows Dee at all, one knows she is entirely honest.
  3. Trying the whole delay, deny, deflect routine a la Facebook.
In addition, I’ve attached a screen cap of a post by John Cunningham demonstrating that the poster lies; John also left Grace Church due to bullying, yet the poster claims that no one else has had this experience.

Gotta love a church that tries to lie its way out of accountability, as well as a parishioner who doesn’t even have the integrity to use her own name in her posts.

It’s also noteworthy that, even as St. Dysfunction continues to lurch towards insolvency, idiots like this poster still have learned nothing. They continue to think that if they just do enough to discredit others, or find something to say that’s sufficiently harsh, everything will be good and they can go about their merry ways. But the reality is that it is this very conduct that is causing the church to unravel — and Bob Malm is powerless to fix it, because it is the conduct that he models that empowers people to think that this sort of interaction is acceptable.

It’s BS like this that is the reason that two-thirds of persons under age 30 have nothing to do with organized religion, and one-third actively oppose organized religion. It’s because people recognize that the world would be a better place without this sort of hypocrisy.










Monday, October 29, 2018

Check it Out: Medical Doctor Comments After Seeing Bob Malm’s Written Claims of “Domestic Terrorism”

Attached are screen caps of comments a physician made after reviewing Bob Malm’s written comments in which he accuses me of being a “domestic terrorist.” Note that I express no opinion about her remarks, nor whether they apply to Bob Malm.






Sunday, October 21, 2018

Dear Grace Church: Bob Malm Played You

In Bob Malm’s long-running vendetta against me, there’s a dirty little secret lurking right behind the scenes. 

The secret? It’s that Bob Malm played his own church. That’s right, folks, he threw you under the bus.

Here’s what you don’t know.

Late in 2017, it was Lindsey Malm who called the police. That’s right—Bob was not the culprit. 

Lindsey called because she didn’t like a post critical of Bob on Fairfax Underground. 

Alexandria police followed up, telling her that they couldn’t do anything unless there were threats.  That’s when Bob joined in the fray, with his weird muttering about protesting “making good on threats already made,” his comments and innuendo about me being unbalanced, and his taking random words out of context from my mom’s blog—one that very few people even knew existed prior to that time.

True to form, Bob quickly made the rounds, bouncing from the vestry, to the school, to the diocese. As he’s wont to do, Bishop Shannon didn’t have the common sense to put the brakes on Bob’s antics, and next thing you know Bob’s carrying on about single-button wireless panic buttons, active shooters, and topics he didn’t even know existed a year earlier. (Bob historically hasn’t even bothered to carry his wireless key fob for the alarm system, which itself has a single button panic feature.) Nor was Bob limited in his shuttle diplomacy; he even pulled the gullible and easily manipulated Leslie Steffensen into the mix, despite the fact she had long ago wandered off to an administrative job at the National Cathedral. And folks like Kemp Williams were quick to weigh in, even though he didn’t even know about Mom’s blog until Bob started his machinations.

As part of his efforts, Bob pulled Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow into things, even getting him to violate ethics provisions that prevent attornies from initiating or maintaining a frivolous cause of action. Why do I say that? Because while Jeff’s performance in this matter was amateur hour, at best, I am pretty sure that he realizes that random words, taken out of context, do not a threat make. And again, Jeff Chiow repeatedly lied in his pleadings.

When the case went to discovery, Bob Malm had no compunction against lying in his written responses to interrogatories, falsely claiming that only his wife Leslie had blogged about the matter, despite knowing full well that not only had Lindsey done so, but that she was the person behind the entire debacle. And being a “close” family, it’s a safe bet that Leslie and Lindsey both were in the know from the get-go.

Of course, in so doing, Bob turned a private kerfuffle into a churchwide issue, and in so doing placed Grace Church’s reputation on the line.

As things played out, Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow increasingly lost sight of his own ethical boundaries, inserting multiple fabrications into his pleadings, and even trying to drag a dying woman into court. Behind the scenes, this caused tremendous consternation in certain circles, with Fanny Belanger resigning soon after Sugarland’s abortive attempt to subpoena my mother. (The latter, by the way, is not permitted under relevant law.)

Now, Bob is in a trap of his own making, but true to form, he’s trying to make the whole debacle the church’s problem, even going so far as to bring the matter up at during a recent vestry meeting. Yes, on some level, the issue is the vestry’s concern, as it has served as a rubber stamp and allowed Bob repeatedly to abuse his authority as rector. At the same time, however, the vendetta ultimately was Bob’s doing, and it’s now his mess to clean up.

In that respect, Bob has a problem on his hands. By law, he and I cannot have any communication, and I have previously told him in writing that he is to have no further communication with me, either directly or through third parties. Should he choose to violate this request, Virginia law will treat his contact as a prima facie case of criminal stalking per Va. Code § 18.2, and he can be sure I will pursue criminal charges in record time. 

Nor do I wish to be contacted by any member or representative of Grace Church or the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, including employees, agents, or vestry members. Through his actions, including Jeff Chiow’s inflammatory pleadings, Dysfunctional Bob has shut down all communication, and that is how things will remain.

Nor would Bob be wise to attempt further litigation. There is ample evidence of defamation per se from Leslie and Lindsey Malm, and I am fully prepared both to pursue them individually, and to seek punitive damages.

The bottom line: Grace Church, you’ve been played. Bob ignored your best interests as he pursued his own agenda — one that involves a vile, vicious, vindictive personal vendetta.

So, lots more protesting, blogging, and media coverage to come, and it’s a safe bet Grace Church will be much smaller when all is said and done — if it survives at all.

Were I Bob’s attorney, at this point I’d suggest cutting his losses, retiring to Georgia, and hoping that some future rector, if there is one, can clean up his mess. 

Oh, and an apology to the parish for dragging it and its members into his Machiavellian fun and games would not be inappropriate. But don’t hold your breath—Bob appears incapable of actually taking responsibility for his actions. The best he can manage is some well-crafted acting that sounds sincere, but in reality is anything but.

Sunday, October 14, 2018

Grace Episcopal Church Pleads for Additional Funds as it Faces a Financial Crisis Caused by Poor Planning, Bad Behavior by the Church

Following its decision to try to silence critics by falsely claiming that the church was threatened by, in the words of attorney Jeff “Sugarland” Chiow, “domestic terrorism,” and its decision to try to drag a woman dying of COPD into court, Grace Episcopal Church is facing a growing budget deficit.

On the giving side, year-to-date income is down by approximately $50,000. Compounding that are the soaring costs of HVAC repairs, which, as I have posted previously, were entirely expected, but glossed over during the formulation of this year’s budget. In other words, the church budgeted too little money for these repairs, even though they were entirely foreseeable given the age of the physical plant, the extent of deferred capital investment, and the sorry state of major HVAC components.

As a result of these bad decisions, depending on how the church manages its Q4 expenditures, and how much revenue it pulls in, the deficit could easily surge beyond 10 percent of the annual budget.

Moreover, next year looks to be even worse. Not only will medical insurance premiums increase sharply, but the increasing average age of parishioners, the influence of natural attrition, the quickening pace of inflation, and the inability of parishioners to increase giving to offset the loss of further pledging units spells a perfect storm.

Additionally, the lasting reputational harm of the church’s decision, made at Bob Malm’s urging, to “discipline” me (his choice of diction) as a former member by filing a civil complaint against me claiming that various words, taken out of context, somehow consititute a threat, together with Bob Malm’s smear campaign against me, have greatly damaged the church’s reputation. For the first time, parishioners and members of the community alike can see in writing the sorts of things Bob Malm says about parishioners, and they are neither Christ-like, nor pastoral. Nor does this sort of tomfoolery reassure people about the church’s organizational or collective good judgment.

Meanwhile, Bob’s flying monkeys over on Fairfax Underground continue their efforts to prove just how toxic the church really is with their ad hominem attacks, untruthful statements and defamatory statements. And the emails between Grace parishioners and Bob Malm about me show just how ugly the behind-the-scenes discourse really is in this sad, dysfunctional church.

In short, Grace Episcopal aka St. Dysfunction is fast approaching a meltdown, and things are only going to get worse. In fact, my prediction is that, with members of the community increasingly aware of the church’s claim that it is a terrorist target, there will be a major decrease in attendance and giving during the Christmas holidays. After all, with Bob Malm invoking fictional church shootings in the fictional town of Sugarland Texas in his legal documents, my bet is people are wary on multiple fronts.