Showing posts with label Grace Episcopal the Clergy Perjury Parish. Show all posts
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Wednesday, September 16, 2020

BUSTED: Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Caught Lying to Bishop!


Episcopal priest Bob Malm

Check it out: In perjuring priest Bob Malm’s court filings, he PROVES conclusively that he lied to bishop Shannon Johnston. Yup, this comes directly from his own court filings, and is an email he sent to the bishop.

Specifically, he claims that I left RPJ Housing prior to coming to Grace. As he well knows, that is a boldfaced lie:
  • I hired Kelly while a member of Grace Church, and based largely on her mother’s comment that they could really use the money, as Kelly had not worked for an extended period of time.
  • Bob Malm discussed issues involving Kelly Gable and RPJ Housing with Elizabeth Legere in January 2014, and with Kelly Gable and me. 
  • Patrick Crerar and I discussed my employment with RPJ Housing multiple times, with my even hiring a member of La Gracia following discussions with him. 
  • I hired church member Amy Barron during my time at Grace Church. Amy worked at RPJ Housing’s offices at the Church of the Covenant. 
So, if there was any doubt that Bob Malm is a lying POS, this should put those doubts firmly to rest. And if anyone doubts my claims, I will be more than happy to subpoena multiple witnesses who can conclusively show that I was, in fact, executive director of RPJ Housing while a member of Grace Church. So, if Bob doesn’t agree that he lied to Bishop Shannon Johnston, he should file suit for defamation. In fact, I encourage him to do so.



Tuesday, August 18, 2020

What Kind of Priest Will Grace Get?


The wife of a prominent local clergyperson, and friend of mine, once shared with me some wisdom derived from almost 50 years of serving different churches. Her comment: “There are two types of clergy: Ones who want to serve you, and ones who want you to serve them.”

Perjuring priest Bob Malm clearly was the latter. To my knowledge, Bob never once turned up at the food pantry, helped at the homeless shelter, or led by example at the hypothermia shelter. 

It was this approach that I believe led perjuring priest Bob Malm to some of his uglier decisions, like his pushing for a costly personal residence. Or his perjury. Or his decision to try to force people out of the parish. 

It’s also this approach that led to Grace’s decline, for people do not want to subsidize the cushy lifestyle of a feckless priest like Bob Malm. Folks work plenty hard trying to make it in Northern VA without supporting perjuring priest Bob Malm’s month at the beach every summer—particularly when Bob won’t do even basic aspects of his job, like ensuring accurate financial reports, or supervising staff.

That begs the question: What would it be like to have a priest who was actually engaged? Who led by example? Who was honest and trustworthy? Who was a person of faith, versus profession?

Only Grace can answer that question.

Sunday, August 16, 2020

Transition Process Proves Neither Grace Church Nor the Diocese Get It

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

While it’s hardly news to many, the reality is that neither Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, nor the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, understand the depth or breadth of the problems at the church. Confirmation of this paradigm can be seen in the current approach to clergy transition, which is fundamentally flawed.

Specifically, in its transition process the church is pursuing a rector, while disregarding a better approach, which is for a priest in charge (PIC).

So what is a priest in charge, and why should Grace consider one?

A priest in charge is a priest retained on contract, typically for a three-year period. As such, she has tenure only during the contractual period, unlike a rector, who is (at least on paper) there for keeps.

Typically, a PIC is chosen when there’s been a long stay by the prior incumbent. Other reasons include:
  • A prior ministry ended in conflict
  • When misconduct has occurred
  • When there is a need for strategic planning
  • When there is a need to clarify mission
  • When there is a need to build financial capacity
  • Other issues as determined by the parish and the diocese.
In such cases, a consultant is retained and helps the PIC enter into a period of prayer, listening, healing, planning, pastoral care, and more.

In Grace’s case, it’s clear to any rational actor that things are a hot mess. Indeed, every one of the criteria above apply.  But the diocese takes the approach of “see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil,” as it tries to cover up perjuring priest Bob Malm’s misconduct, and by extension that of Kelly Gable, Sugarland Chiow, and others. The parish, on the other hand, has lost perspective due to its narcissistic organizational characteristics.Thus, neither has any clue what it’s doing, nor do they have any interest in the feedback of others.

The problem of course is that ignoring these issues doesn’t make them go away. Indeed, it’s a basic principle of change management that conflict ignored is conflict multiplied. Perjuring priest Bob Malm spent 30 years not only ignoring conflict, but in many cases fomenting it with his childish games, petty maneuvering and self-serving conduct. (Just look at the financial disaster of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s $1.2 million personal residence if you need an example. Truly cringeworthy.) Additionally, he pointed attention within Grace at himself, not God. As a result, Grace is not only toxic, but its values are profoundly skewed.

There’s ample evidence of these effects of these issues. These include:
  • Plummeting attendance
  • Sharply declining number of pledging units
  • Repeated situations in which people have left the parish due to conflict
Indeed, these factors alone should be cause for profound concern.

Yet in almost every case members of the parish either ignore these factors, blame them on others, lie and deny that the issues exist, or shoot the messenger. Yet at its most basic this is a church in which it’s okay to drag a dying woman into court, for the rector to commit perjury, and for college-aged parishioners to urge others to commit suicide. Indeed, one has only to read perjuring priest Bob Malm’s venomous, lying emails, or Sugarland Chiow’s inflammatory rhetoric, to realize just how bad things are at Grace. But parishioners simply don’t want to go there. Or, as Robin Hammeal-Urban puts it, “If it can’t be conceived it can’t be perceived.”

It’s also important to keep in mind that contrary to Lisa Medley and other lying nitwits in the parish, I am far from the only person who’s run into these issues:
  • One former church employee described the place as having an “evil spirit.” 
  • Another college student abruptly walked out and transferred to St. Peter’s in the Woods after a bad experience in the choir. 
  • Numerous persons in the altar guild have come to tears over behavior there. Anne Caputo and others are aware of the bullying that goes on there.
  • John Cunningham left over misconduct. 
  • Mike, my husband, was forced out by perjuring priest Bob Malm just 16 months after being received into the denomination.
  • Kyle Babin experienced bullying and hateful conduct, both by staff and by parishioners.
  • Outside Episcopal clergy, who have tactfully described the parish as having “a lot of work to do.”
To his credit, Michael Guy has been willing to bring these issues up, albeit in general terms. But it takes more than a few sermons and articles in Grace Notes to undo 30 years of perjuring priest Bob Malm. Moreover, the diocese’s efforts to ignore Bob’s antics by saying it will only get involved if criminal charges are filed have done a profound disservice to the church, for it has forced our conflict into the courts, most notably those of popular opinion and the Alexandria Circuit Court. In that regard, it likely will be another 2-3 years before the lawsuits wind their way through the courts. And I will continue to share the truth of my experiences with Bob Malm ad infinitum. Thus, things will not be getting better any time soon, and parishioners and diocesan staff alike are just plain dumb if they think I am going to back down when someone goes after my mother and Mike.

Both the church and the diocese are profoundly foolish not to get a PIC, then map out a plan towards healing and wholeness. Without those steps, the parish will remain rudderless, adrift, declining, and clueless about the path to a better future. Moreover, it will continue with the same conflict, ugly rhetoric, and un-Christian conduct that led to its precipitous decline in the first place. In short, the parish is at an inflection point, and it can make the decision to move towards health and wholeness, or it can make the decision to slide ever further into existential crisis.

For more information on the role of a priest-in-charge, visit the Diocese of Connecticut website. There is also a good document in PDF on the Diocese of Newark’s site.

An excellent example of the work of a priest-in-charge can be found here.

Second Invite: Time for Perjuring Priest Bob Malm and Kelly Motormouth Gable to Put Up or Shut Up

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

Saturday, August 15, 2020

Perjuring Priest Petition Passes 21,000 Signers

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

Even as lawyers try to defend the conduct of perjuring priest Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, our petition demanding that the diocese conduct a full, fair, and impartial investigation of perjuring priest Bob Malm and his conduct continues to garner signatures from around the world.

Earlier today, the petition passed 21,000 signatures, representing more than the average Sunday attendance for the entire Episcopal Diocese of Virginia. Yet despite signatures from every corner of the globe, there’s still no sign that Susan Goff and the other fake Christians real Christians of the diocese take clergy perjury seriously. Indeed, their modus operandi remains “no arrest, no problem.” They’ll litigate to the ends of the earth to retain ownership of a bunch of crappy old church buildings that are spectacularly energy inefficient, poorly suited to the realities of the modern church, and ridiculously expensive to operate, but they won’t lift a finger when it comes to addressing illegal behavior by Bob Malm.

Of course, as long as the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia refuses to act with integrity, I am going to continue to call it and its members out. That will be the case whether the conflict goes on for another day or another decade. So don’t think for a minute I’ll be giving up any time soon.

If nothing else, given the current rate of decline of The Episcopal Church, I can outlast it.

Monday, August 3, 2020

More Legal News

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

I recently made the decision not to pursue the lawsuit against Grace Episcopal, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, and Susan Goff.

My reasons are myriad and include strategic and tactical components. Because there are still five lawsuits under way, it’s not appropriate to go into all the reasons. But it is fair to note that the decision will allow me to more fully focus time and attention on the other cases.

Moreover, it’s fair to conclude that perjuring priest Bob Malm will attempt, like Kelly Motormouth Gable, to shelter from individual liability by claiming that he was acting within the scope of his employment as rector of Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish. So it is not exactly like the parish gets a pass, and discovery, which will undoubtedly include various vestry members, current and previous clergy, church and school staff, and more, should prove interesting. Indeed, if the past is precursor to the future, we will see many more ugly skeletons emerge from the bowels of the church; one can always count on the good Christians of the parish for ugly gossip, speculation, and commentary. In fact, it would come as no surprise to discover additional fraudulent concealment on the part of the parish, Sugarland Chiow, and perjuring priest Bob Malm.

Saturday, August 1, 2020

KKK and Grace Episcopal Deploy Same Hate Against Protestors

CNN recently covered independent documentary filmmaker Rob Bliss, who protested outside KKK headquarters and produced a video from his experiences. And guess what? Many of the reactions he got from KKK members were the same as I get from Grace Episcopal Church members.

I know, big surprise.

In addition to the ol’ one-gun-salute-to-Jesus, of which there were many, among other things he got the same rhetoric as Sugarland Chiow and perjuring priest Bob Malm deploy when they want to suppress criticism. Specifically, he got called a “domestic terrorist.”

You’d think that Sugarland and perjuring priest Bob Malm could come up with something a little more erudite than ugly KKK rhetoric, wouldn’t you?

Just goes to show: Hate is hate, whether it’s the KKK, Grace Episcopal Church, or so-called Christians like Lisa Medley, Alison Campbell, and Kelly Gable. Or parishioners who urge me to commit suicide.

Visit the CNN article here and Rob’s video here.

For those new to this blog, here is church attorney Sugarland Chiow’s claim that I’m a domestic terrorist:

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

And here’s the reference to KKK members calling Rob a domestic terrorist:

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

And here is a screen cap of the first part of the article:

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And as a reminder, here is the post from a then college-aged parishioner urging to me commit suicide.


Clearly, the KKK and Grace Episcopal share a common characteristic: They respond with hate, ugly rhetoric, and lies when someone challenges their views.



Wednesday, July 29, 2020

Kelly Gable: Time to Put Her Money Where Her Mouth Is



Since Kelly Gable likes to run her mouth behind the scenes, now seems to be a good time to invite her to deal openly with issues. Specifically, I encourage her to put her money where her mouth is and take her claims that I embezzled from RPJ Housing directly to law enforcement. That’s right: Time for Kelly to put up or shut up.

Keep in mind that there’s no statute of limitations for felonies in Virginia. So, unless Kelly is claiming that I purloined paper clips or stole stamps, that’s presumably what she is talking about, a felony. Moreover, the threshold to qualify as a felony in Virginia is $500. Thus, there’s no reason not to act. Today. Here. Right now. Time to quit talking and start acting. And boy, wouldn’t Alison Campbell and the other good Christian ladies of the altar guild love to see a conviction? And Lisa Medley would be beside herself with Christian glee. So I cannot think of any reason from Kelly’s perspective NOT to put her money where her mouth is.

Moreover, as assistant executive director of RPJ Housing, Kelly had a fiduciary duty to the organization, as well as to its lenders. So it’s puzzling that she didn’t act while still employed by the organization.

That said, this is Kelly’s chance to make the world a better place, lock up someone she claims is a criminal, and deal openly with things versus triangulation and gossip.

With that in mind, below is my email to Wayne Cyron, who is attorney for her, Bob and his family. While as a matter of professional courtesy I don’t generally post correspondence from legal counsel, this screen cap does not include prior conversation with opposing counsel.

I am putting it here so all involved can see my offer to put up or shut up.




Friday, July 24, 2020

No News To Report

Grace Episcopal Alexandria


Still no ruling from the Fairfax Circuit Court. Not a huge surprise there, as the judge had warned us a decision could come as late as Monday due to a full docket. I’m cautiously optimistic that I will prevail on Kelly Gable’s plea of the statute of limitations, for she seeks to benefit from the misconduct of the very church for which she served on the vestry. Specifically, Grace Church, the clergy perjury parish, had a legal obligation to produce the document in question. Given that a quick email to the diocese or to vestry members would have elicited the email in question, it’s difficult to conclude that the church acted in good faith. That said, like most lawyers I am risk averse, so I’m preparing my motion for reconsideration and my appeal, even as we speak. That way, if Kelly does prevail on the motion, I’ll be able to quickly respond.

Still Waiting....

We’re still waiting for a decision from the Fairfax Circuit Court on today’s motion, which touched on venue in the Malm case and the statute of limitations in the Gable case.

In the meantime, here is my filing in opposition to Kelly’s plea of the statute of limitations.

Thursday, July 23, 2020

See for Yourself: Items for Tomorrow’s Motions Court Hearing

Tomorrow is motions court in Fairfax, which will be held via WebEx. At issue will be venue for two of the cases involving Grace Church.

In the case of Kelly Gable’s defamation, I have told defense counsel that I don’t have an objection to venue in Alexandria.

Of course, defense counsel also has filed a plea in bar raising the stature of limitations.  On that score, I have told the courts that the issue is a matter of black letter law. Specifically, when a defendant has concealed a cause of evidence, the statute of limitations is tolled by the express provisions of the relevant statute. In the instant case, Sugarland Chiow, perjuring priest Bob Malm, and the church had an obligation to produce the email in question, as it was squarely within the purview of discovery, Given that they clearly attempted to conceal other evidence potentially damaging to their case (including Jeff Aaron’s email in which he discussed potential retaliation against me for complaining to the diocese about Bob’s conduct), I have no doubt that they intentionally did so in this case.

Equally significant is the fact that Kelly stood in privity to the defendants. She was not an innocent bystander, but instead a vestry member who benefitted from Sugarland’s misconduct. It therefore is inappropriate that Kelly be permitted to benefit from this misconduct.

On the matter of venue in the case against perjuring priest Bob Malm, I am opposing transfer. Bob is no longer a resident of Alexandria, so he cannot be said to be inconvenienced. Moreover, multiple aspects of the case arose in Fairfax, including Bob’s efforts to engage in tortious interference with my contract of employment at a church in Fairfax County. Similarly, Fairfax County intervened in my favor after perjuring priest Bob Malm tortiously interfered with our memorial donations to the church. At best, this constituted breach of contract. At worst, it was fraud. And I can produce evidence at trial that this was done at the express direction of perjuring priest Bob Malm.

Below is my email to the law clerk working on the case, as well as my exhibits.

I’ll post as soon as possible after the hearing.




See for Yourself: Here’s What Became of Grace Church’s $1.2 Million Investment

As readers may recall, my calculations show that the cost to Grace Church of buying the Pampered Prince of Perjury Bob Malm a personal residence exceeded $1.2 million. This included destruction of the existing rectory, which did not meet the exacting standards Bob established for a residence for His Holiness. Keep in mind that this figure included the $100,000 bonus the church paid perjuring priest Bob Malm in 2014 so he wouldn’t be upside down in his loan. That at a time when church financials were a shambles, there was a hoarder as parish administrator, and the church faced the near-term need to spend more than $1 million to keep the HVAC on in the complex.

So, as we approach the 2020 pledge season, it’s a great time to take a renewed look at that transaction. Specifically, what did that money get Grace Church?

A quick look at some recent photos of Perjury Place, the former residence of His Holiness, the Pampered Prince of Perjury, speaks volumes. As I predicted, deferred maintenance on the home left the place in tear-down condition, while the massive cracks in the foundation and other settling — not uncommon in hillside homes — spelled future problems.

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

Grace Episcopal Alexandria


Ironically, one of the few things that remain are the outside hand railings I installed following perjuring priest Bob Malm’s 2014 accident. In order to make that happen, I personally guaranteed payment on the project, since the vestry wanted to get involved, which would have delayed the matter interminably at a time where this was an urgent need. Moreover, given perjuring priest Bob Malm’s propensity for private schools, cosmetic procedures, dining out, and month-long trips to the beach every year, there was concern on multiple fronts that perjuring priest Bob Malm would not be good for the funds. (That proved not to be the case, thanks to the more than $24,000 purse the church took up for perjuring priest Bob Malm following his accident.)

When confronted with a large purse, the secret is to have the appropriate means to get it to the bank.
This subtle piece by Balenciaga is ideal.
All I can say is that any church that can pay a $100,000 bonus to a priest who can’t even be bothered to ensure that financial reports are accurate obviously has more money than it needs. It surely doesn’t need your funds, and I doubt it would take mine. So do yourself a favor amidst the pandemic and save your money. Heaven knows it’s going to be a rough fall when the annual influenza season ramps up and adds to the misery and suffering of a surging COVID-19 pandemic.

Wednesday, July 22, 2020

Another Bit Of Questionable Veracity on the Part of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm



Grace Episcopal Alexandria


Earlier on this blog, we talked about the magical thinking of our sister in Christ (said sarcastically, due to her use of the phrase), Easter Thompson. Specifically, we talked about her weird belief that perjuring priest Bob Malm didn’t engage in misconduct, as well as the fact that evidence has yet to emerge that God requires her help to judge the quick and the dead. But there’s a bit of questionable veracity in perjuring priest Bob Malm’s email exchange with her that warrants additional scrutiny.

In earlier posts, I noted that Bob lied about what was discussed at the meeting. Specifically, I did not agree to follow Bishop Shannon’s guidance, if for no other reason than I was no longer attending a parish within DioVa. (Nor was that possibility brought up.) Instead, I was providing financial and other support to St. Paul’s K Street, although I had not transferred my membership there. That said, soon after the meeting, I transferred my membership to St. Paul’s, after realizing that Bob Malm would never be sufficiently adult to take responsibility for his conduct. Bob also lied during the meeting when he claimed that he does not choose the vestry's executive committee, yet the fact that he does do so is even reflected in the church's shoddy and inadequate governance documents, infra. And no, an up-or-down ballot for an entire slate is not an election, unless you're talking about the Soviet Politburo. I’d add that turning a blind eye to this issue is ludicrous, particularly given how proud the denomination is of its bicameral governance.




That said, perjuring priest Bob Malm also provided Easter with another bit of false information, which was about the date of the Fredericksburg meeting. Specifically, it was May 25th, Ascension Day. Bob knew it too, for as the meeting was ending, he shook my hand and said, “Happy Ascension Day” — after repeatedly lying during the meeting, including telling me that trustees of the church investments had to be vestry members. Needless to say, a little more veracity on perjuring priest Bob Malm’s part would have made for a happier Ascension Day.

My experience is that perjuring priest Bob Malm was very attuned to the ebb and flow of the liturgical year. So why might he have lied about this issue? My guess is to make it sound like he had been more eager to pursue reconciliation, when the reality is he and Shannon "Cover-Up" Johnston only acted after my situation started to get media coverage, and after they realized that people were leaving the parish over Bob's misconduct.

Let me add right now that Easter and others prone to magical thinking will claim that this is not true. But when the current litigation goes to trial, I am more than willing to subpoena Shannon Johnston and/or Pat Wingo to verify what was said during the meeting.

Of course, Easter also likes her conspiracy theories and the notion that she’s somehow privy to gnosis the rest of us can’t access. So it’s unlikely that she will be convinced by any evidence that contravenes her magical thinking.

As for the rest of Grace Church, the clergy perjury parish, folks are ill-served by a diocese that does not insist on higher standards for clergy than avoiding criminal charges. But that illustrates the corruption and lack of integrity rampant in TEC, and at every level. 

Indeed, even at the PB’s office, officials turn a blind eye to misconduct. That is evinced by the fact that Todd Ousley refused to address Susan Goff’s decision not to implement Title IV in any meaningful way. Ironic, given that Jennifer Brooke-Davidson sits on a hearing panel going after Bishop Love for refusing to implement GC’s policy on same-sex marriage. So how is his conduct any different than Susan Goff’s refusal to address clergy perjury? Readers may recall that I emailed Jennifer on this issue, too, so it’s not like I haven’t shared my concerns directly.

It takes a special kind of hypocrite to go after Bishop Love —whose views I obviously don’t agree with—for not following the authority and discipline of the church, yet to ignore the authority of the church when it comes to Title IV and potentially criminal activity by Bob Malm.

That hypocrite would be Susan Goff.

Updated: Civil Complaint Filed With Alexandria Circuit Court

Monday, July 20, 2020

Petition Seeking Independent Investigation of Perjuring Priest Bob Malm Passes 18,000 Signatures



Even as the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia and Bishop Susan “No Charges, No Foul” Goff continue to insist that they will only address clergy misconduct if criminal charges are brought, my petition demanding an independent investigation and meaningful results based on that investigation continues to motor along.

As of a few minutes ago, we passed the 18,000 signatures mark, and we continue to garner signatures as we move to 20,000 signatures and beyond.

Awareness on change.org is particularly important due to the underlying demographics. With a total of more than 50 million users, the majority of whom are in the 35-44 age cohort, animal rights, human rights (including BLM and LGBTQIA+), and general social justice issues loom large for users. Thus, there is a strong alignment with the values that The Episcopal Church allegedly espouses.

As a result, the diocese’s continued defense of perjury and other misconduct by Bob Malm is fast undercutting its reputation with future generations. That is appropriate, for any church that can say with a straight face that it will only deal with criminal conduct if there are criminal charges is a church only in name. But Susan Goff and the other fat cats at Mayo House are determined to ride the TEC gravy train off into retirement, secure in their generous retirement plan, and utterly indifferent to the effect that their conduct is having on those they falsely claim to care about.

To think that when I started my petition I was hoping to get maybe 300 signatures.

Sunday, July 19, 2020

Rector Candidates Beware! You Could Be Personally Liable in Church Lawsuits!

Grace Episcopal Alexandria

In a recent conversation with someone connected with Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, the question came up as to whether an incoming rector could be held personally liable in the various civil cases pending against the church. My answer, which is not legal advice, since I am not presently licensed to practice, is quite possibly yes.

Before we go further, one additional caveat: I have not seen a recent copy of the church’s insurance binder. But I have seen quite a few policies over the years, so I can speak with some confidence.

The issue arises in the context of punitive damages, and claims involving intentional misconduct. In those cases, insurance policies almost invariably do not cover a successful claim.

Why is that? There are several reasons. 

First is that intentional torts and punitive damages can be massive. Consider the case of the Ford Pinto, which allegedly was known by the manufacturer to explode on impact. In its calculus, Ford apparently concluded that it would sell enough units to cover any potential liability arising from the defect. But it failed to consider punitive damages, which when imposed resulted in catastrophic liability for the company. Needless to say, at that point Ford’s plans when up in a cloud of smoke.

Second is the issue of public policy. More than one jurisdiction has held that offering coverage for deliberate injuries would incentivize potential tortfeasors to behave badly.

What conduct on the part of the church might a court consider deliberate? Answers are myriad, but several come to mind, including the malicious state of mind evinced in perjuring priest Bob Malm’s email to +Shannon Johnston, in which he falsely claimed that my departure from RPJ Housing occurred before I arrived at Grace Church. That itself likely is not tortious, but when combined with Bob’s defamatory per se statement about allegedly embezzling funds, the results are damning. (I’ll also be very interested to learn who these people are who allegedly believe I’ve hacked Grace’s network, such as it is. Potential defamation per quod anyone?)

Another factor is that the church is not incorporated. In such cases, the firewall of the corporate veil does not apply, which means that individual members can be personally liable. Thus, assuming an incoming rector becomes a member, she could be personally liable as well.

There’s also a practical aspect to all of this. Judges, like anyone else, tend to view things in practical terms, meaning that they will look to the real-life results of specific actions. Yet nowhere in the whole sordid mess now in front of the courts do we see any real sign of folks at the diocese or within the parish trying to fix things. Indeed, the diocese has said that Bob’s misuse of funds and other misconduct is “not of weighty and material importance to the ministry of the church.” This attitude is not one likely to endear the diocese or other defendants to the courts. In the back of any judge’s mind will be the question, “Will the diocese take the same approach in cases of child sexual abuse?” As things stand, the church has articulated its standard of review, and that is, “No criminal charges, no foul.” Nor is a court likely to be impressed in a positive way by perjuring priest Bob Malm’s multiple lies.

In fairness, personal liability isn’t a particularly likely outcome. But it is a possibility, and one that should be factored into your decision-making process.

Thus, if you are applying for the position of rector, I will reiterate my advice: Ask lots of questions, including about this conflict. While you are likely to get a response that includes something about not being able to comment on pending litigation, you need answers. If nothing else, I strongly encourage you to ask your own legal counsel about the potential implications for you and your family, as well as any suggestions for not tramping in any church poo if you do accept the position.

Grace Episcopal Alexandria


As a practical matter, the fact that the diocese has had multiple opportunities to play the honest broker, as has the vestry, speaks volumes about the internal dynamics at play. And if you want, I will be more than happy to talk with you about getting the one-gun salute to Jesus from the good Christians of Grace Church.


Speaking of COVID-19 Stimulus Funds....

Grace Episcopal Church

COVID-19 relief funding is a topic that got a lot of attention on the diocesan weekly conference calls. Yet darned few Episcopal churches got money, the diocese got none that I can see, and Shrine Mont got a small amount. Nor did Grace get any, other than the funds that reached the school.

That begs the question: With much of the federal government still closed, and many parishioners sitting around bored, why didn’t the church apply? Or more to the point, given all the damage that Sugarland caused the church with his ad hominem attacks and ugly courtroom rhetoric, why didn’t he step up to the plate? Surely that would be a more useful way to spend one’s time than trying to drag dying women into court in violation of state law?

Sugarland, where are you when Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, needs you?

Saturday, July 18, 2020

Grace Episcopal Alexandria: Sharp Decline in Virtual Attendance Calls Into Question the Survival of the Church


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Several local Episcopal parishes are seeing continuing surges in online attendance amidst the COVID-19, with the result that some even say that going online is the best thing that ever happened to them. But Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, is seeing a precipitous decline in online attendance. The news spells trouble for the church and suggests that it is sliding further into existential crisis.

In 2018, the last year for which there were official numbers, average Sunday attendance (ASA) at Grace had declined to 253. That represents a drop from recent years, which typically ran about 315. 

Why does that matter? Because ASA has long been considered a key barometer of church health. Specifically, people may pledge, not pledge, get married, stay single, have children, not have children — all events that touch on the life of the parish — but if they aren’t turning out on Sunday it’s a fair inference that there is nothing drawing them to community.

Of course, in the midst of the pandemic, ASA doesn’t fully apply, and hits on services uploaded to YouTube won’t accrue all on Sunday.

But one would think that virtual attendance would correlate loosely with ASA, perhaps running somewhat lower to account for elderly persons, those of limited income, and others who may not be able to access online services. (For the record, arrangements can and should be made for these folks, whether it’s mailing them bulletins and audio tapes, phone calls, or socially distanced visits.)

So where does Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, stand?

The answer is not good.

Coming into Easter, numbers were looking pretty solid. For example:
  • Lent 5:  382 
  • Palm Sunday: 461
  • Easter: 483
  • Easter 2: 285
In short, hardly a case of people breaking down the virtual doors, but still respectable.

Now, let’s look at recent numbers.
  • Pentecost 3: 139
  • Pentecost 4: 162
  • Pentecost 5: 123
To be fair, attendance historically drops in summer. But these numbers are unprecedented, and they are consistent.

But that’s really damning are the most recent numbers. For example, as of this writing, the July 15 evening prayer service has zero hits. That’s right—not even staff or vestry members bothered to surf by. Similarly, the video about the windows of Grace, which inplicates a big, expensive, and time-consuming project, only scored 114 hits. That is not good. And average virtual attendance is running just 141–a decline of 44.14%!

My hunch is that several factors are at play. One is that perjuring priest Bob Malm, like many narcissists, is a compelling actor/preacher. His voice breaks at all the right places, his inflection creates a sense of urgency, and he is appropriately animated. His Jesus-babble may have had no substance behind it, but it sounded good, even as he was committing perjury and otherwise engaging in misconduct. In other words, Bob would have you conclude that the storefront is the store, and he made sure the facade is Gucci.

Michael Guy, on the other hand, appears sincere, but his delivery is solid, slow, measured. Thus, if you’re looking for the superficial theatrics, you’re going to be disappointed. In other words, Michael would have you ignore the storefront, but step inside, do some shopping, form your own conclusions.

Of course, it is not fair to compare one priest with another, for each brings his own skills to the table. Unfortunately, after 30 years of perjuring priest Bob Malm, folks at Grace Episcopal Alexandria, the clergy perjury parish, don’t have the spiritual maturity to understand this. 

Second is the fact that Grace remains closed at a time when NVA is reopening. That’s a prudent choice, but it also means that Grace’s online offerings face increased competition. Of course, as the pandemic drags on, people increasingly realize we neither will, nor should, go back to the way we were any time soon.

Third is the fact that Grace continues to stay close to home when it comes to filling positions. Whether it’s pulling in Jason Roberson (he of the infamous “thriving and flourishing” fib), or drawing on Chrissie Crosby to fill the family ministry role, the church is having trouble attracting fresh blood, and with good reason. But at the same time, drinking from the same well over time results in stale water, and the parish really needs to pull in some vibrant new personalities and perspectives. It needs to be willing to turn over a new leaf on every front and to ask the tough questions.

People tell me Bob Malm is gone to try to incentivize me to stop my criticism of the church and its conduct, but the reality is the church itself has done nothing to shift away from its worship of Bob Malm and his feckless years as rector. In just a few years Falls Church went from 115 members to being larger than Grace Church in every respect, while perjuring priest Bob Malm pulled in his 200K a year, played golf, jogged, and spent a month at the beach every summer. All while parish financial records were a shambles, governance a disaster, and the church continued to watch its budget, ASA, and membership shrink.

Fourth is the fact that, as my conflict with the parish drags on, it becomes increasingly clear that the emperor has no cloths. The Lisa Medleys, Sugarland Chiows, David Crosbys, Lisa Gardners and other sycophants and enablers can engage in all the ad hominem attacks they want, but the reality remains unchanged: This is a church where it’s okay for:
  • Clergy to commit perjury.
  • Clergy to lie to their parish and bishop.
  • Members to engage in defamation per se (yes, that would be Kelly Gable),
  • The church to try to drag a dying woman into court in violation of state law, and more. 
And one has only to look to the numerous emails from perjuring priest Bob Malm, the ugly rhetoric from Sugarland Chiow, the utter unwillingness of Bishop Goff to provide adult supervision, and the blithering cluelessness of David Crosby with his whole “two sides to every story,” to realize just what a hot mess Grace Church is. 

I have said it before, and will say it again: There are NOT two sides to every story. 
  • There is no such thing as a good racist, nor are there good people on both sides.
  • There is no excuse for bullying Mike out of the church. 
  • There is no acceptable explanation for clergy perjury. 
  • There is no excuse for defamation per se. 
  • There is no excuse for urging others to commit suicide.
  • There is no excuse for trying to subpoena a dying woman in violation of the law. 
  • There is no acceptable reason for Sugarland Chiow’s courtroom fabrications and ugly rhetoric. 
  • There is no acceptable reason for clergy like David Crosby to make excuses for these behaviors. It’s time for David to grow a pair and say no to misconduct in the parish.
So will David Crosby and other purported parish leaders “man up” and act like Christians? I doubt it.

Grace Episcopal Alexandria
Sorry, David, there are NOT two sides to every story. And you should not use this line, particularly if someone has been abused in any manner whatsoever. That includes spiritual abuse. In other words, as a priest, you are a clueless dolt.


Meanwhile the church faces the grim reality that most insurance policies don’t cover punitive damages. And with multiple claims for punitive damages lurking, the parish faces the possibility of losing the trust fund, the building and more. Not to mention that, not being incorporated, Grace church offers parishioners no shield from personal liability. That means that if insurance does not cover judgments against the church, individual members could personally be on the hook, including a new rector. (This should not come as a surprise to members. Vestry members have a moral and legal obligation to provide accurate, timely information about governance issues to church members. So if you are hearing about this for the first time from this blog, you should be asking tough questions of the vestry and the diocese. I’d add that I long ago urged Bob Malm to explore setting up a corporate entity for the church. You can see how that turned out. Meanwhile, Kelly Motormouth Gable continues to insist that her claims are truthful. Talk about a great way to tick off both a plaintiff and the courts.)

Nor are parish leaders unaware of the peril facing Grace Church. For example, the discussion about hiring Chrissie until January, when the church will know more about its budget and its new rector, speaks volumes about the current state of affairs. The reality is that the parish may not have the money to have someone in that slot next year, and every indicator suggests that giving will continue to trend down. That trend will accelerate should we see COVID-19 related deaths in the parish.

Meanwhile, there’s one given, which is that the current state of affairs is likely to continue for the indefinite future. And that includes my opposition to abusive, hypocritical conduct at Grace and those who enable it by turning a blind eye.

I am not going away any time soon. I will not be bullied into silence. I will not be bought. Meanwhile, my blog is a few days away from zooming past 200,000 hits—many more hits than the church website garners.

Grace Episcopal Alexandria


Grace Church surely is in a bad way. And the old joke about any club that would have me as a member isn’t one that I would join holds true: Any priest with the skills to fix Grace Church likely is smart enough to stay away.

Or as one priest, a noted author, canonically resident in DioVA said to me, “You couldn’t pay me enough.”


Tuesday, July 14, 2020

More on Sugarland Chiow and Grace Episcopal’s Fraudulent Concealment of Evidence



As we prepare to debate in motions court the issue of the statute of limitations and its applicability to my lawsuit against Kelly for her defamation per se, there is a damning wrinkle right behind the scenes that most parishioners would not spot. Specifically, Sugarland Chiow had an ethical and legal obligation to produce the email in question.

Pursuant to the ABA model rules, which govern attorney conduct and were adopted by Virginia in 1999, attorneys have an obligation not to conceal evidence relevant to the other side, to make full and effective efforts to protect and preserve information, and to avoid destruction of evidence.

We already know that Sugarland Chiow engaged in questionable conduct in this space. For example, he redacted an email from Jeff Aaron to Caroline Parkinson, the diocesan intake officer. In the email, Jeff revealed that Bob Malm violated church confidentiality provisions regarding clergy disciplinary complaints, for he wrote to Caroline Parkinson to discuss the matter, even asking if it was okay to engage in retaliatory conduct.

How did I find out about Sugarland’s concealment? I found out when he sloppily tripped himself up by providing an unredacted copy of the same email. Oops.

In the case of Kelly’s defamation per se, Jeff had a legal obligation as the church’s attorney to make reasonable inquiry about documents subject to discovery. Leaving aside the question why the email in question wouldn’t have been in Bob’s sent folder, he had only to ask vestry members or the diocese for relevant materials. Thus, Sugarland either has an ethical problem on his hands due to failure to adhere to the duty of care imposed on him as the church’s legal counsel, or he has an ethical problem on his hands due to the fact that he had access to the email in question but didn’t produce it.

In other words, no matter how you parse it, Sugarland Chiow at a minimum damaged the church’s reputation, and quite possibly engaged in illegal conduct. I think few would contend he met his ethical obligations as an attorney.

What’s even more ugly is the pervasive pattern of misconduct on the part of Sugarland, perjuring priest Bob Malm, and the church. From making up nonexistent places and events in Texas, to trying to drag a dying woman into court in violation of the law, to concealing evidence, to defamation per se by Kelly Motormouth Gable, to perjuring priest Bob Malm attempting to tortiously interfere with my employment, to perjuring priest Bob Malm’s going after Mike, it is hard to imagine a more toxic church, a more corrupt organization, or a more narcissistic entity.