Showing posts with label Grace Episcopal Alexandria. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Grace Episcopal Alexandria. Show all posts

Friday, January 25, 2030

Bob Malm: Club Protest Membership Countdown


By virtue of trying to shutdown criticism by going to court with his facially false claims that he had been threatened, pseudo-priest Bob Malm and Grace Episcopal signed up for the two-year membership at Club Protest. No refunds, late payments result in an extension of membership. And his decision to include Mike in his vendetta, his multiple lies in court, and his efforts to subpoena a dying woman, all mean Bob gets the special VIP add-on package — my online presence will continue ad infinitum. That’s right, Dysfunctional Bob gets the lifetime virtual membership. Hey, Bob always did think he was special. Well, he’s right.

So, this countdown timer doesn’t mark the countdown to an end to open hostilities. But it does mark the payout of Dysfunctional Bob’s basic Club Protest membership.That said, I have always believed in under-promise, over-deliver, so I will no doubt extend Bob’s basic membership well beyond his original contract. And Grace Episcopal gets in on the action, for free.

By the way, if you see that the counter has passed zero and is counting up, that means that perjuring priest Bob Malm and the parish are enjoying their special free bonus time.

Hey, if he behaves, maybe we can even spot Bob some core body fitness tips. Heaven knows he’s been looking rather well-fed in recent years. And it fits — Grace Church aka St. Dysfunction is looking a whole lot leaner and meaner these days.

See you at Dysfunction Junction aka Malm Square(d)!

Thursday, January 9, 2020

Perjuring Priest Bob Malm by the Numbers

And this warranted a $100,000 bonus in 2014 and $200K in annual compensation?

If you want to see just how much financial ground has been lost during perjuring priest Bob Malm’s tenure, take a look at the second image. It shows how much would have to be pledged for FY 2020 for the church to have the same buying power today as it had in FY 2008. The amount? It would be $1,095,359. In other words, if 2020 pledges came to $916,900, the church would have still lost 19.5% of its budget.

Looking at it another way, the church has lost 33.55% of its budget since 2008. Nice move Bob—no wonder the church paid you a $100,000 bonus in 2014!

Bob Malm, perjuring priest

Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish




Tuesday, December 31, 2019

Reflections as We Enter the Final Days of the 2020 Pledge Season





As we get ready to move into a new year, the Grace Church vestry has the unenviable task of preparing the parish’s 2020 budget. Similarly, members may be contemplating year-end gifts to the church. With those factors in mind, here are my thoughts on those issues.

On the one hand, the parish now is free of the deleterious effect of perjuring priest Bob Malm, at least on a daily basis. Michael Guy appears to be much more grounded in actual faith, and less in outward image.

That said, the church has yet to make peace with its past and Bob’s baleful influence. This is still a spendthrift church—one that pays $100k bonuses to a feckless rector, while cutting employee health benefits. A church that refuses to save for the future. A church that does next to nothing to grow, yet expects membership to miraculously increase. A church that claims to be a center for “outreach and healing,” yet puts very little money toward these goals. A church that tries to drag the dying into court, where members urge people to commit suicide, and where the rector commits perjury with impunity. In fact, the church named part of the building after its former Perjurer in Chief. A church that has to borrow to keep the HVAC on, but draws $3,000 out of savings for a party.

Even better, the church has the chutzpah to claim that it’s been careful with its funds. Leaving aside $100,000 bonuses and the more than $2 million cost to the church of Bob Malm’s personally owned rathole of a house, I guess that’s true. After all, those expenses don’t leave room for much else.

All of that points to a larger issue, which is how much longer will people provide funding for this toxic mess? The fact that Bob Malm can commit perjury with the full support of the vestry, Sugarland Chiow, the staff, and the diocese, then get part of the building named after him for his troubles, demonstrates that this is a church and denomination that is utterly broken and dysfunctional. Yes, the optimists among us think some of these issues will be addressed in another generation, but collapsing attendance, baptisms, and other indices of church health suggest that neither the denomination nor the parish have another generation during which to fiddle with the deck chairs.

If we look at Europe and the role of organized religion there, it seems unlikely that church ever will make a comeback. Once-bitten, twice shy applies, and this is a dog that’s bitten far too often to get any benefit of the doubt.

So, if you are a member of Grace Church, or of the Club Mayo crowd, my message to you is this: It is time for radical change. And if you can’t or won’t make that happen, it’s time to say goodbye. Grace Church, the diocese, and the Episcopal Church simply are no longer relevant.

And as the vestry plans for 2020, I’m here to tell you that more of the same isn’t going to work. No one wants to subsidize the lifestyles of the rich and famous, let alone the perjurious.


Saturday, December 28, 2019

Bob Malm Reduces Home Listing Price, Even as Alexandria Housing Market Ranks Among Most Competitive in the US

Dysfunctional Bob’s Crib Faces Price Cuts

In previous posts, I expressed concern about Bob Malm’s decision, jammed through the vestry, to tear down the rector and purchase a private residence. All-in, the decision cost the church more than $2 million—money it needed for other purposes. The folly of this decision is becoming increasingly evident, as Bob Malm has reduced the listing price of his former residence by $20,000. This despite the Alexandria housing market remaining among the most competitive in the nation,

To be sure, listing during the holidays is never easy, and often is regarded by buyers as a sign of desperation. And Bob’s agent has done everything right, including slapping a layer of paint over the worst signs of deterioration in the home.

Still, in a market when the average listing moves to pending in 17 days, and in which prices continue to rise, making Alexandria one of the most competitive housing markets in the nation, the fact Bob is cutting his asking price is telling. And the house is sold as-is, which makes clear that all involved recognize that there are issues.

In the meantime, the tear-down of the rectory locks the parish into offering a housing allowance for the indefinite future, probably extending until one of the more generous parishioners leaves their home to the church. This is problematic, for continuing declines in church income already are making for a perilously thin budget—one that leaves the parish teetering on the brink of existential crisis. 

Nor did Bob exactly bust his butt. Filled with his inflated but shallow sense of self-importance, Bob noisily proclaimed that the church’s lack of growth was “unacceptable,” at one annual parish meeting. Yet it’s not like he was leading the charge to actually do something about it. (Sorry kids, Art on the Avenue and some banners on the lawn, along with a single lit drop in Potomac Yards, doesn’t cut it.) Meanwhile, Bob was spending summers at the beach, going to the Boston Marathon, and otherwise slipping “out of town” whenever convenient, in some years being gone for 11 or more weeks of the year.

With the ill-advised 2014 bonus of $100,000 to Bob, which shored up Bob’s position in the loan, he undoubtedly will walk away with some cash from the transaction to plump his already generous defined benefit plan retirement. But in so doing, Bob walks all over the church he claimed to serve. And again, I have yet to hear a good explanation as to why church employees should face cuts to their health insurance, while Bob Malm gets treated like royalty. Isn’t health care a basic human right?

The entire situation reeks of dysfunction and hypocrisy—two values works that neatly summarize Bob’s 30 years with Grace Church.




Friday, December 27, 2019

Announcing Plans for 2020!


It’s that time again—time to ring out one year, and plan for a new one.

With that in mind, protests will continue around Alexandria, with some directly in front of the church, commencing late January. At that time, I will add Bob Malm to the present lawsuit, or file against him separately. I am not yet sure which approach I will take.

Another lawsuit will be moving forward in Pennsylvania, with specifics to follow. I am also contemplating a separate lawsuit against Leslie Malm and a family member of Bob’s, and possibly against several other individuals. Again, if I move forward, I won’t disclose details until the time of filing.

So, apropos Grace Church, 2020 will be a year marked by lawsuits and protests. And I won’t be backing down anytime soon.


Monday, December 9, 2019

Just Like the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia and Bob Malm, Church Ignored Warning Signs in Brian Boucher Case



Before we go further, let me say up front: To my knowledge, Bob Malm is not accused of any form of sexual impropriety.

That said, the case of convicted Canadian pedophile priest Brian Boucher sounds alarmingly similar to my experiences with Bob Malm and the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, both in terms of Boucher’s manipulative, possibly sociopathic, behavior and the diocese’s efforts to avoid dealing with the real issues. Indeed, in Boucher’s case, the diocese appears to have taken the matter more seriously than has the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, for the former at least spent time and effort addressing the more obvious signs that Boucher was maladjusted.

In reviewing the Boucher media coverage, the first thing one notices is Boucher’s attention to his physical appearance. Even when headed to jail, Boucher consistently looks put together and carefully pressed. This is very similar to Bob Malm, who often appears inordinately consumed with keeping his SUV clean and polished, his tan, his hair color, and even his efforts to conceal his hair loss via transplants.

Then one transitions to Boucher’s conduct, in which, much like Bob Malm, he attempts to manipulate the world around him to suit his needs. Those of importance to him get attention and flattery, while those unimportant to him get ignored. Similarly, those who expressed concern about Boucher’s conduct found themselves denied access to the church and rectory buildings. Indeed, Boucher attempted to fire one parish employee who spoke out, and multiple families left Boucher’s parish, rather than comply with his manipulative behavior. Such conduct is strikingly similar to that of Bob Malm, even down to trying to deny access to the church building to critics.

Similarly, critics feared Boucher’s temper, which sounds suspiciously like the classic narcissistic rage. Boucher’s attempts at domination and control, much like Malm’s behavior, also seem to witnesses to be antithetical to his alleged calling as a priest.

Then we read about Boucher’s divisive conduct, in which he surrounds himself with a circle of loyalists who protect him and alert him to criticism from within the parish. Again, very similar to Bob Malm.

Turning to the diocese, we see that time and again officials turned a blind eye to the myriad warning signs of trouble. Yes, the church may have spent considerable time and trouble to deal with Boucher’s controlling behavior, but it never was willing to delve further into the issues, including assessing root causes behind the behavior. Indeed, even prior to ordination, those who feared Boucher was unsuited to the priesthood were ignored and brushed off.

This sounds very much like Bob Malm, where some parishioners, even as early as his calling to the church in Portsmouth NH, appear to have recognized that something was not right. For example, when Bob was in New Hampshire, one parishioner allegedly ran for vestry solely in order to see what Bob was “going to do to my church.”  While seemingly innocuous and easily dismissed, that sort of gut reaction to Bob should have been a warning sign.

Similarly, the ongoing flight of pledging units and the departure of numerous former leaders from Grace Church should be more than a warning sign to the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia; it should be the equivalent of Cheyenne Mountain’s air raid siren blaring in the night. People don’t pack up and leave a church in which they’re invested for trivial reasons. Instead, when they leave in droves, it’s because something is seriously wrong.

Will the church vestry and the diocese ever comprehend the real issues here? I doubt it. Between thirty years of Bob’s manipulative behavior, the organizational narcissism in the parish, and the inconvenience that would come with addressing Bob Malm’s misconduct, there is little reason for optimism.

For more on Boucher and the church’s attempt to avoid dealing with the real issues, visit the CBC’s investigative report at https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/montreal/brian-boucher-history-investigation-1.5383177.

Saturday, November 30, 2019

Reflections on Friendly Versus Faithful


One of the things I learned from my experiences with perjuring priest Bob Malm and toxic Grace Episcopal church is that many people conflate friendly with faithful. As in, “Bob’s a good guy,” or “you’ll be welcomed with open arms.” Yes, Bob Malm is an ostensibly friendly guy. Yes, Grace Episcopal is a seemingly friendly church. But right behind both exist layers of toxic behavior that are contrary to the real meaning of Christianity.

It’s interesting: From friendly, people attribute ethical qualities. As one chucklehead at Christ Church said, “Why would you say that about a good man like Bob Malm?” referring to my assertion that Bob Malm committed perjury. Yet it doesn’t take much interaction at all to discover that Bob is a man who lies under oath, tries to drag the dying into court, deliberately misuses funds, directs church staff to exclude others, and goes after innocent family members in pursuit of his vendettas. In short, he is the antithesis of what one should expect of a priest.

My advice to anyone sizing up a new church or a new clergyperson: Take your time. Watch their actions. Ignore the flattery, smiles, hugs, and other window dressing.

I’d also point out that Bob’s comments about others are inappropriate for clergy, or anyone for that matter. Referring to Jan Spence as an “asshole,” or Lisa Doelp as “like a little spy,” is wrong. Nor do I believe his comments about Lisa. Nor do these sorts of comments build up others.

Similarly, folks can talk all they want about what a friendly church Grace is. but that doesn’t justify things like the bullying, gossip, and other inappropriate conduct that come from office staff, the choir, and the altar guild. Nor is there ever any excuse for urging people to commit suicide, Alison Campbell’s fun and games, or Lisa Medley’s toxic behavior. The fact that Bob Malm turns a blind eye to this sort of conduct and allows folks like this to serve in leadership positions reveals just how thoroughly broken Grace Church is. Grace, like many spiritually abusive churches, is like a yew, with pretty red berries. Yes, they are beautiful on the surface, but if you partake of them, you will find that they are toxic.

These issues extend to the diocese itself, where there is zero concept of accountability and no clergy discipline, unless the alleged misconduct involves sex. It is sad that The Episcopal Church is locked into a Madmen-era notion of misconduct in which only sex counts.

Lastly, to young people who turn their back on organized religion due to issues like this, I say this: You are spot on. Any church or denomination in which this sort of thing is okay is not one you should support. You won’t find Jesus or God in the midst of these modern-day Scribes and Pharisees.

Monday, November 18, 2019

Bob Malm’s Statement Against Interest Underscores His Questionable Veracity

Here is a good reminder of Bob Malm’s manipulative, dishonest conduct.

At a time when Bob was claiming he needed a protective order to deal with threats from me — threats that he refused to specify, even when ordered by the court to do so — Bob was making statements against interest, including this email to the Episcopal bishop of Virginia, in which he says that his wife and one of his daughters “give this [conflict] so much more attention than it deserves.”

Later, more evidence of questionable veracity on Bob Malm’s part.




Friday, November 15, 2019

Breaking News: Grace Episcopal aka the Clergy Perjury Parish, Susan Goff, and DioVA Finally Respond

Breaking news: I have just received notice that DioVA, Susan Goff, and Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish, are represented by counsel. Predictably enough, counsel for the defendants is objecting to the subpoenas previously issued by the court.

In the meantime, I have suggested to counsel that we stipulate that there is no evidence to support Bob Malm’s assertion, made under oath, in writing, while advised by church legal counsel. In other words, that Bob Malm committed perjury.

We’ll see what happens.




Breaking News: Grace Episcopal, the Clergy Perjury Parish, Set for Court December 17

Predictably enough, neither diocesan chancellor JP Causey, nor Grace Episcopal, have responded to my request to honor the court’s subpoena, signed by the judge, directing them to permit inspection and copying of documents relevant to my case. I asked that they do so by 5 PM today.

As a result, I have filed a motion to compel against both Bishop Goff and the parish. Motions court is set for December 17 at 1:30 PM. The date is somewhat delayed due to the fact I have arranged for personal service on the defendants. This seems a sensible precaution in light of the previous lack of professionalism and ethically questionable conduct displayed by both the parish and the diocese, which includes Bob Malm’s perjury and Sugarland Chiow’s various false and misleading statements to the tribunal.

Given that the court date falls squarely within Advent, this all seems appropriate.

A copy has been emailed to diocesan officials as well as the parish.




Protesting Outside DioVA Annual Convention

Live, from New York....IT’S SATURDAY NIGHT LIVE!

Well, not so much. More like it’s me, protesting outside the DioVA annual convention in Crystal City Virginia.

I slept in today, as the weather is ideal for sleeping and I have a busy weekend ahead. But I’ll resurface outside the convention in a few hours. My plans also include filing the Motion to Compel to ask Bishop Goff and Grace Episcopal Church to provide access to various documents relating to my case, including documentation of perjuring priest Bob Malm’s claim, made in writing, while under oath, and while advised by church legal counsel, that my mother, then terminally ill, or someone claiming to be her, “time after time” made appointments with him and no-showed. This he cited as one of the bases for his claim that mom’s blog is threatening.

So, since Malm alleges that this happened repeatedly, there should be lots of documentation — phone records, email, you name it.

My plans also include filing a Motion to Compel against +Goff and the parish. Somehow, I don’t see either being on the up-and-up and responding on their own.


Thursday, November 14, 2019

Grace Episcopal Alexandria: “Growing and Flourishing”? Not so Much, Jason

If losing 1/3 of your pledging units is Jason Roberson’s definition of “growing and flourishing,” I’d hate like hell to see his definition of “declining!”

Time to tell the truth, Jason. People deserve to hear the truth.

Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish






Thursday, November 7, 2019

Issues with Diocesan Pledge Underscore Severity of Budget Crisis at Grace Church

Remember when I posted the article about warning signs that a church may be at risk of closure? The article, written by the Rev. Thom Rainer, lists one of the warning signs as resources being focused inward, versus outward.

And so it is with Grace, particularly in the case of the parish’s annual pledge to the diocese. Specifically, for many years, the amount pledged has been less than one-half of the amount proscribed by the Virginia Plan, the diocesan proportional giving plan. That’s right—less than one half.

Under the diocesan guidelines, parish pledges are based on net operating income, otherwise known as normal operating income or (NOI).

So what is NOI? Simply put, it’s all income that is used to pay operating expenses, and it includes items that are funded off-budget, like music programs, the altar guild, and EYC mission trips.

The diocese of Newark provides a good definition:


























In other words, NOI is pretty easy to calculate. If you spend it for day-to-day operations, versus capital improvements, it’s NOI. (It’s also worth noting that the Newark definition includes the church school. Just imagine if Grace School were actually included.)

With that in mind, here’s what the Virginia Plan proscribes for parish giving:































Grace church, however, has consistently pledged at roughly 10% of pledge income. That excludes:

  • Plate and loose giving
  • Reimbursements from the school.
  • Altar guild program operating revenue.
  • Music program operating revenue.
  • Income from the trust used to pay operating expenses.
The result is that when measured as percentage of income Grace Church supports the diocese at a level consistent with a church with revenue of less than $100,000 annual income. When measured by total amount, Grace’s support of the diocese is consistent with that of a parish generating $571,428 in NOI.

For example in 2015, a year in which the church pulled in more than $1,000.000 in revenue, it gave just $85,000, per the annual report.

Income:
























Again, keep in mind that this does not include items that are off-budget, like the music program, the EYC hoagie sale, the altar guild, and other program areas.

That brings us to a recurring issue when examining life at Grace Church: Thanks to years of feckless leadership, the church has been living beyond its means for decades. It can afford to pay its rector $200K a year, offer lavish farewell parties for the head of school, and provide generous purses to Bob Malm and his family. There’s plenty of money for the annual weekend at Shrine Mont, which for many is nothing but a drunken binge. And there are mountains of flowers at Easter and Christmas (yes, although these are restricted solicitations, they are still part of NOI). Nor should we forget Bob’s 2014 bonus of $100,000.

So while Jason Roberson is bloviating about how the parish is “growing and flourishing,” let’s keep in mind that it’s been ignoring its obligation to the diocese for years. That despite the fact that the diocese apparently fully honors its commitment to the national church. 

In other words, most of the church’s funds have been going to meet its own needs and desires, and to subsidize Bob Malm, versus to actually being a church. That is, or should be, a wake-up call to the parish, whoever is foolhardy enough to become interim, and to the diocese. Simply put, it is a matter of survival.

There’s also a catch-22 that confronts the parish: In a church so organizationally narcissistic that it doesn’t see an issue with a priest who commits perjury, or with trying to drag a dying woman into court, do you choose to integrate into the life of the larger diocese? If so, how do you increase your diocesan pledge by roughly $80,000 annually at a time when the parish cannot afford its current cost structure? Yet members are likely to be highly resistant to any arrangement that interferes with the whole living-life-large paradigm under Bob Malm.

In closing, it’s worth noting that I repeatedly cautioned Bob, beginning in 2014, about the looming budget debacle, warning that absent major cutbacks the church was on a trajectory to become insolvent as early as the summer of 2016. In most cases, in true Bob Malm fashion, I didn’t even get the courtesy of a response.

Things are now at a state where the church may need to consider taking on mission status, accepting help from the diocese, and rebuilding from the ground up.

Grace church is in serious trouble.

Tuesday, November 5, 2019

Friday, November 1, 2019

Updated Information on Lawsuit Against Grace Episcopal, the Clergy Perjury Parish

Updated information confirms service of process on Bishop Susan Goff, the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, and Grace Episcopal Alexandria.

It will be interesting to see how the good Christians at Grace Church respond to my request for documentation that mom “time after time” makes appointments with perjuring priest Bob Malm. Will they tell the truth? Will they admit that Malm committed perjury?

Somehow, I don’t see Goff, Sugarland Chiow, or any of that crowd acting in an honorable way.

Grace Episcopal, the clergy perjury parish.






Sunday, October 20, 2019

Another Sign Grace Episcopal is Dying

One sign of a vibrant organization of any sort is that it has news. Lots of it. Things happening, events taking place, opportunities to engage.

Other than Dysfunctional Bob’s departure, Grace Church has no news. None. That suggests Grace is lurching towards existential crisis and possible closure.

Before we go further, let me preempt the words-don’t-mean-what-words-mean crowd at Grace with a definition of “news” from Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary:



The key word here is “recent.”

Now, let’s take a look at the landing page of the church website. On it we see imagery from Easter. Posted sermons were last updated more than a month ago. 

So-called “news” includes:
  • Easter celebrations, dating from April
  • Foyer registration, dating from August
  • Sunday school registration, dating from early September


The rotating images are every bit as bad, including a rather dreary classroom scene from last winter. (I like educational opportunities, but the class looks excruciating.)



Turning to the church’s Twitter feed, things look no better, with where the site was not only abandoned last April, but there’s zero engagement, just announcements that a new sermon has been posted. 


In short,  Grace Episcopal may or may not be dying, but its communications efforts do their best to create the impression that death is imminent.

Saturday, October 19, 2019

New Website Launches to Cover Grace Episcopal Lawsuit

Having sent my demand letter, I have little doubt that the fake Christians of Grace Church and the Diocese will ignore it. So, as I prepare to go to court, I have launched a website to provide information on the lawsuit as it progresses.

Check it out!


Friday, October 18, 2019

Coming Soon: More Grace Church Correspondence

Fun times ahead for Grace Church! I have obtained a trove of emails and phone records pertaining to the church. While I am still wading through my find, I believe some are profoundly damning.

My plan is to begin publishing Monday, with continuing releases throughout the pledge season. Additionally, several will prove helpful in my upcoming litigation against the parish, diocese and others.

Wednesday, October 16, 2019

This Fall, Withhold Your Pledge

Until the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia and the vestry of Grace Episcopal Alexandria renounce their support for priest Bob Malm’s perjury and his efforts to bully a dying woman, please withhold your pledge.

That’s what Jesus would do.