Showing posts with label Alison Campbell. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Alison Campbell. Show all posts

Friday, January 17, 2020

Check it Out: Alison “Just the Messenger” Campbell is Running for Vestry

Here’s a juicy tidbit: According to this Sunday’s service bulletin, Alison Campbell is running for vestry.

That’s in keeping with Grace’s role as a toxic church. Indeed, Alison’s hypocrisy became clear to me when she, Lisa Medley aka The Princess Porcine, and a few other of the good Christian ladies of Grace Church decided to ignore the fact that Kelly Gable and I had resolved our previous conflict, which arose after a Kelly used her access to RPJ Housing email to take over my Facebook account, changing the owner’s email account to “” 

Alison and the Princess Porcine decided to weigh in with a bunch of petty games and bullying, with Alison using the ladies of the altar guild to try and create problems. Subsequently Alison lied, telling Elizabeth Legere that she was “just the messenger.” The reality, however, is that Alison had been active behind the scenes, including telling folks that the altar guild wanted me to stay out of the sacristy. Who knew that the room belonged to the altar guild? And here I thought it was part of the church. (I also have a copy of a very interesting email in which Alison demanded that I give her access to my personal email.) Maybe those games work for Alison at VISA, but at Grace they simply serve to underscore her hypocrisy and the fact that this sort of behavior is okay at Planet Malm.

So, I encourage parishioners to vote for Alison as a vestry member. It will be good to see the church further cement its bona fides as a church where bullying is okay.

And regardless of the results of the election, just know that Alison’s two-faced behavior, her bullying, and her lying to Elizabeth Legere, who she says is a friend, are further illustrations of the dynamics at Grace Church, its toxic atmosphere, and its plummeting barometers of organizational health.

It’s a safe bet as well that when Grace closes its doors in the not distant future, Alison and the Princess Porcine will be waddling around together, wondering how such a friendly church could close its doors, deliberately blind to their own roles in the debacle.

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Bob Malm and Church Discourse

As the final days of the 2019 pledge season wind down and the Grace Church vestry determines next year’s budget, it’s important to reflect on the values that Bob Malm brings to the church. Specifically, the lessons he teaches people about “respecting the dignity of every human being.” Or not.

Readers may recall the comments of one long-time parish employee, who noted the unhealthy way that people at Grace church talk to each other, and about each other, and Bob’s role in this paradigm.

Consider, for example, Alison Campbell’s fun and games with the altar guild during the time Bob Malm was out on disability, which involved stirring up the altar guild to try to cause problems for me, all while claiming that she was “just the messenger.” Leaving aside the disingenuous aspects of her actions, Alison undoubtedly felt justified due to my conflict with Kelly Gable. But in this, she overlooked both the fact that Kelly and I had resolved our differences, and the fact that it was not her place to get involved. Moreover, she ignored that fact that she never really understood that conflict in the first place, the spiritual aspects of her conduct, and the fact that her conduct has been profoundly damaging to the church.

And so it is with others, including Lisa Medley and her childish antics.

At the same time, Bob Malm has played a major role in these problems. For example, he saw no irony in saying to me, “There are people who have it in for you,” apropos issues with the altar guild. Of course, that aligns with Bob’s notion that people should solve their own differences—an odd idea when it comes to harassment, bullying, and other abusive conduct.

Of course, Bob also likes to stir the pot, and by doing so sets a bad example. For instance, I have personally heard him refer to Jan Spence as an “asshole.” Lisa Doelp he has referred to as, “like a little spy, always trying to find out stuff.” And the list goes on, including Peter and Cheryl Barnes and others, often postured as Bob taking you into his confidence. And folks, if you think you’re not included, I suggest you look up the word “delusional.”

It’s interesting too. Bob says that people should solve their own problems one-on-one, yet look at the many emails he has sent to diocesan officials, including Pat Wingo and Bishop Shannon; as well as to the Alexandria police department; and to Patti Culbreth, the head of school. And let’s not forget his messages to my friend Dee Parsons, and his use of Sugarland Chiow in court. All of these are replete with manipulative language, as well as references to me as “sick,” “twisted,” and “dysfunctional.” But the one person Bob has never contacted directly in an effort to resolve this conflict is me. Nor has he ever contacted my Mom. Nor has he contacted Mike, except as part of our now-abandoned agreement to end our conflict.

Healer, heal thyself.

Bob no doubt will read this and start his usual fun and games with Sugarland Chiow about defamation. But these issues are well documented, and parishioners can name many more incidents in which Bob has behaved badly. This includes his statement, allegedly made to Phil Smith and others as well as to me, about the former office staff, in which he said multiple times, “Don’t worry about it. They’ll be retiring this year.” Needless to say., many years came and passed, with no retirements. Where but a church can an employee like Bob lie to board members about important HR issues and keep his job? That’s right—nowhere.

By now, you’ve probably concluded that I believe Bob Malm to be toxic. If so, you’re correct. 

The larger question, though, is how much longer the church is going to pony up roughly $200K a year for this sort of conduct. 

If it doesn’t take action, I believe there will soon come a time where they will no longer be a Grace Episcopal Church, as it will have disappeared while wallowing in its own hypocritical filth. 

“Thy own words shall impeach thee.” Sound familiar?