Earlier today, I launched a new microsite. This one provides details of Leslie Steffensen’s role in Bob’s misconduct, as well as that of her husband, Kirk. The latter threatened Mike’s job in an email that he thought he was sending to me.
Tellingly, Leslie and myriad diocesan officials continue to turn a blind eye to Bob Malm’s perjury and lies, including the email in which he told bishop Shannon Johnston that my dust up with Kelly Motormouth Kelly occurred before I came to Grace. Thus, by remaining silent, they are complicit.
Yesterday, I posted about perjuring priest Bob Malm’s new gig, which is with St. Peter’s on-the-Canal in Bourne Massachusetts. Today’s post is a follow-up on that, and based on my research into the church, including a review of its parish profile, which was developed in conjunction with its search for a new rector. Specifically, I feel profoundly sorry for the members of the parish.
The more observant — and for a long time, that didn’t include me — will quickly recognize that Bob Malm’s faith is, at best, thin.
Others — and that will be most — will fall prey to Bob Malm’s narcissistic attributes, including his:
Need for admiration.
Tendency to project his own attributes onto others.
Feckless attitude towards his job.
Propensity to tell others what he thinks they want to hear.
Sense of entitlement.
The important thing to remember is that the charming version of Bob — the smiles, hugs, seeming guilelessness, superficial charm — is an act. And yes, Bob knows all the words; he can preach about love, community, transformation and all the right buzz words. But he doesn’t “know the song.”
The real Bob Malm is vile, vicious and vindictive, capable of deception on a massive scale. That extends to his role as a priest, which is nothing more than a stage performance.
Meanwhile, the members of St. Peter’s seem to be the real deal. It looks like they are trying hard to grow their church, to engage the community around them; in short, to be relevant. This collides with Bob’s goal, which is to obtain narcissistic supply. Thus, there is a real possibility of harm to the church and its spiritual development, for narcissists like Bob, despite their charm , inherently toxic. One has only to look at the disaster on wheels that is Grace Church to see the results.
There are two small slivers of hope in this.
First, interim rectors have little real authority, so perjuring priest Bob Malm may not be able to damage things too badly.
Second, his contract is at-will. That means that if bishop Alan Gates ever develops some integrity and decides to explore my allegations about Bob Malm’s perjury and other abusive conduct, he can give the Perjurer-in-Chief the heave-ho. And even the most rudimentary effort will readily make clear that Bob is a perjurer; all Gates has to do is ask Bob for details to support his claim that my Mom or someone claiming to be her contacted him repeatedly.
Simply didn’t happen.
Of course, the fact that Gates and the other chuckleheads at DioMass can’t be bothered speaks volumes vis-a-vis their level of respect for those they “serve.” And it shows how the system in a toxic denomination will defend the status quo, regardless of the facts.
Sometimes, you really have to marvel at the lack of respect among diocesan leadership. That extends to Bishop Alan Gates, Bill Parnell, and the rest of the ding-a-lings at DioMass.
Specifically, perjuring priest Bob Malm is now serving as interim rector at St. Peter’s Episcopal Church-on-the-Canal, in Buzzards Bay. That’s near his previous gig at St. Gabriel’s, where Bob’s lies resulted in the church getting sued. In addition, Bob may face perjury charges for his courtroom lies. And his lies and other misconduct are out there for all the world to see, including his lies to Bishop Shannon Johnston about the timing of my arrival at Grace Church.
Particularly amusing is Bob’s quote in the July newletter, in which he talks about how failing to plan is planning to fail. That’s pretty rich, coming from a priest who made absolutely no effort at Grace to plan for things like the replacement of the HVAC systems, who allowed the church office to become a shambles, and who pretty much treated the place, in the words of one parishioner, “As Bobby Malm’s playground.”
Of course, Bob will turn on the charm, and true to form parishioners will conflate friendly with faithful. This, even as perjuring priest Bob Malm angers the neighbors with his plans to build a home adjacent to the wetlands of Buzzards Bay.
But the best irony of all comes from one church official, who said of Bob Malm’s lies, “He’s like a fish, caught in a net, flopping around and trying to escape.” Seems appropriate, given the nautical theme of St. Peter’s.
Meanwhile, Gates’ utter lack of integrity, in being unwilling to even look for himself to see whether Bob Malm is, in fact, a perjurer, speaks to the abysmal standards to which Episcopal clergy are held. It also says a lot about the sorry state of affairs in the church as whole.
Above are comments I made on Religion News about Bob Malm’s perjury. I share them here because I want there to be no doubt as to my position, the fact that Bob Malm is a perjurer, and the Episcopal hierarchy is complicit on multiple levels.